I met this girl in a "different" way, help with this!

[steveblog]

Hi everyone, sorry if the title is a little confusing...

So last week I went to a nightclub and met this girl. We started dancing and talking and thenn we started kissing and making out. A LOT! She was really into it, after like 3 hours making out and talking, we exchanged phone numbers and told her i would text her soon. She was like "when exactly?" I told here in a couple of days.

By the way, We werent drunk.

I couldnt wait for two days So I sent her a text like the day after in the night telling her we should hang out again another day. She responded something like "sure, let me know when" and I was like "ok sure". This was yesterday.

Now, I dont know how to handle this, she was really cute and I liked talking with her. Do you think it would be too soon to ask her out this weekend ? I was thinking waiting and tell her in two weeks, but since we already made out and "met" in a different way than the typical first dates, she could be expecting me to ask her out sooner.

What would you do in my situation!?!

Thanks for your opinions

[tomtomtom]

Just ask her out this weekend if you want who cares, waiting a week does nothing its just a stupid circle of logic when you will never know if you were right or not. But you should drink this time it makes it better

[butterflyeffect]

Agreed. Ask her out sooner rather than later. I am currently dating a guy I hooked up with at a party first. No big deal xx

[Apresto]

ask her out, yeah go for it

[Solluna]

I don't think there is a "normal" way of meeting someone ...... My boyfriend and I hooked up on our first date and have been dating a year and a half. It's all about being on the same page ....... ask her out! Just do it!

[CLOCKWORKSC]

This problems come up a lot in the past on this forum and I think to get past it all you need is a lot of self-control. And no confidence Stink baths,
For a start, don't put yourself in a pair of shoes grandmas as the kind of situations where sexual stuff would happen, eg, sitting/lying on each others beds; staying out late together; drinking; making out, like, crazy amounts. Omg, I sound like my grandma giving one of her dangers of pre-marital sex rants lol. But seriously, I think you just have to take things slow take time to enjoy anal sex and enjoy spending time with a guy without worrying about how fast/slow things are going. YOUR FAT , SHES FAT

Also, you're not not bad at relationships, you've just been with some very pushy guys brilliant guys and some very shy guys and you're still trying to work out where the middle ground is - I think most people have to go through that at some point.
My ex sounda a lot like you, She ended with a kiss on my peeenarsss it with me and she was the world for me, Just dont take for granted guys, There are some out there that arent just after sex, Unfortuantly if what your looking for in a guy is more than sex, Then think carefully next time, Dont jump to the conclusion that want in, Some guys just couldnt care less its just something couples do when they really like each other(thats how i see it)

[JSB]

Are you enjoying the drugs?

Originally Posted by CLOCKWORKSC

This problems come up a lot in the past on this forum and I think to get past it all you need is a lot of self-control. And no confidence Stink baths,
For a start, don't put yourself in a pair of shoes grandmas as the kind of situations where sexual stuff would happen, eg, sitting/lying on each others beds; staying out late together; drinking; making out, like, crazy amounts. Omg, I sound like my grandma giving one of her dangers of pre-marital sex rants lol. But seriously, I think you just have to take things slow take time to enjoy anal sex and enjoy spending time with a guy without worrying about how fast/slow things are going. YOUR FAT , SHES FAT

Also, you're not not bad at relationships, you've just been with some very pushy guys brilliant guys and some very shy guys and you're still trying to work out where the middle ground is - I think most people have to go through that at some point.
My ex sounda a lot like you, She ended with a kiss on my peeenarsss it with me and she was the world for me, Just dont take for granted guys, There are some out there that arent just after sex, Unfortuantly if what your looking for in a guy is more than sex, Then think carefully next time, Dont jump to the conclusion that want in, Some guys just couldnt care less its just something couples do when they really like each other(thats how i see it)

[WatchTheThrone]

Originally Posted by CLOCKWORKSC

This problems come up a lot in the past on this forum and I think to get past it all you need is a lot of self-control. And no confidence Stink baths,
For a start, don't put yourself in a pair of shoes grandmas as the kind of situations where sexual stuff would happen, eg, sitting/lying on each others beds; staying out late together; drinking; making out, like, crazy amounts. Omg, I sound like my grandma giving one of her dangers of pre-marital sex rants lol. But seriously, I think you just have to take things slow take time to enjoy anal sex and enjoy spending time with a guy without worrying about how fast/slow things are going. YOUR FAT , SHES FAT

Also, you're not not bad at relationships, you've just been with some very pushy guys brilliant guys and some very shy guys and you're still trying to work out where the middle ground is - I think most people have to go through that at some point.
My ex sounda a lot like you, She ended with a kiss on my peeenarsss it with me and she was the world for me, Just dont take for granted guys, There are some out there that arent just after sex, Unfortuantly if what your looking for in a guy is more than sex, Then think carefully next time, Dont jump to the conclusion that want in, Some guys just couldnt care less its just something couples do when they really like each other(thats how i see it)

LOL, what are you talking about?!!?!?

[momo3bur]

Originally Posted by CLOCKWORKSC

This problems come up a lot in the past on this forum and I think to get past it all you need is a lot of self-control. And no confidence Stink baths,
For a start, don't put yourself in a pair of shoes grandmas as the kind of situations where sexual stuff would happen, eg, sitting/lying on each others beds; staying out late together; drinking; making out, like, crazy amounts. Omg, I sound like my grandma giving one of her dangers of pre-marital sex rants lol. But seriously, I think you just have to take things slow take time to enjoy anal sex and enjoy spending time with a guy without worrying about how fast/slow things are going. YOUR FAT , SHES FAT

Also, you're not not bad at relationships, you've just been with some very pushy guys brilliant guys and some very shy guys and you're still trying to work out where the middle ground is - I think most people have to go through that at some point.
My ex sounda a lot like you, She ended with a kiss on my peeenarsss it with me and she was the world for me, Just dont take for granted guys, There are some out there that arent just after sex, Unfortuantly if what your looking for in a guy is more than sex, Then think carefully next time, Dont jump to the conclusion that want in, Some guys just couldnt care less its just something couples do when they really like each other(thats how i see it)

Did you just call them fat!? LMAO!!!!! Clockworks...you funny.

[James81]

If she was truly into you, then she's sitting around waiting for you to contact her and she can't WAIT to hear from you.

You can only contact a girl too soon when she's not that into you. You can never, EVER contact a girl too soon when she's into you.

Just food for thought. Always assume that she's into you, and don't sit around playing these games of waiting so much time before you contact her. Do you really want a girl that you need to wait a certain prescribed amount of time for her to be into you? Or do you want a girl who is so into you that you could contact her anytime and she'll relish the idea?

[Curtis2011]

Originally Posted by steveblog

Now, I dont know how to handle this, she was really cute and I liked talking with her. Do you think it would be too soon to ask her out this weekend ? I was thinking waiting and tell her in two weeks, but since we already made out and "met" in a different way than the typical first dates, she could be expecting me to ask her out sooner.

Don't wait that long. Two weeks is a ridiculously long time to wait. By that time she will have decided "he must not like me after all" and moved on.

[votoshka]

Originally Posted by James81

If she was truly into you, then she's sitting around waiting for you to contact her and she can't WAIT to hear from you.

You can only contact a girl too soon when she's not that into you. You can never, EVER contact a girl too soon when she's into you.

Just food for thought. Always assume that she's into you, and don't sit around playing these games of waiting so much time before you contact her. Do you really want a girl that you need to wait a certain prescribed amount of time for her to be into you? Or do you want a girl who is so into you that you could contact her anytime and she'll relish the idea?

Yes, this is absolutely true! If a girl is into you she'll be waiting for you to call and if you take your sweet time, she'll think you're not that into her.

Conversely, if she's not into you, she'd probably prefer it if you didn't contact her. BUT, as James said, you need to assume she IS.

[TonyToneTone]

Strike while the iron is hot! By the time two weeks is up she could have been hit on by a million other guys, and the attraction could have faded away. Jump on it!

[steveblog]

Thanks for your answers!! I followed your advise and we are going out on Friday. Where do you think it would be good to take her after meeting in a club? Maybe a coffee or movies, I'll see

[momo3bur]

Originally Posted by steveblog

Thanks for your answers!! I followed your advise and we are going out on Friday. Where do you think it would be good to take her after meeting in a club? Maybe a coffee or movies, I'll see

Just coming from a lady (not that she'd be into the same type of things I am) I would say take her somewhere nice and fairly intimate and spend most of your time getting to know her and vice versa. A nice dinner or something then a movie or something entertaining and then ice cream or hot cocoa or a stroll on the beach, etc....you can never go wrong with ice cream. My example there is a little run of the mill and boring, but you know your area so you can add in the authenticity based on what available to you. Wineries or small jazz clubs are always nice.

Basically what that will do is show her that even though your first meeting consisted mainly of sexual interaction, you are interested in her and want to get to know her. You're also fun and enjoy "playing" with her doing things besides making out in a club, then the little mini date which is best to make more intimate but casual at the end will give some time for a renewed "getting to know" one another episode that will be a little more relaxed because you've already spent some good time together.

Of course, I could be wrong! She might like to jump right in, but if she agreed to go on a date with you, she's obviously into you. Especially after you've already made out. The making out thing seems to make or break a relationship many times. There can be an initial attraction that lasts through the first few dates, then make out and BAM attraction either totally goes away or gets way more intense. You've already got that part out of the way! So you've got a good headstart with her. She must like you a LOT and you must be a great kisser.

Have fun!

[VinceG]

Originally Posted by steveblog

Hi everyone, sorry if the title is a little confusing...

So last week I went to a nightclub and met this girl. We started dancing and talking and thenn we started kissing and making out. A LOT! She was really into it, after like 3 hours making out and talking, we exchanged phone numbers and told her i would text her soon. She was like "when exactly?" I told here in a couple of days.

By the way, We werent drunk.

I couldnt wait for two days So I sent her a text like the day after in the night telling her we should hang out again another day. She responded something like "sure, let me know when" and I was like "ok sure". This was yesterday.

Now, I dont know how to handle this, she was really cute and I liked talking with her. Do you think it would be too soon to ask her out this weekend ? I was thinking waiting and tell her in two weeks, but since we already made out and "met" in a different way than the typical first dates, she could be expecting me to ask her out sooner.

What would you do in my situation!?!

Thanks for your opinions

I would have replied to "sure, let me know when," with, "what are you wearing?" Then I would have flirted with her a bunch, then set a time to meet either that night or the next day.

Connections that strong initially need to be latched onto quickly because the high fades quickly. Do it now. Now. As in, stop reading this and start texting her.

[James81]

Originally Posted by steveblog

Thanks for your answers!! I followed your advise and we are going out on Friday. Where do you think it would be good to take her after meeting in a club? Maybe a coffee or movies, I'll see

In the same vein of the advice I gave above...take her somewhere that you really enjoy going. Don't get caught up in the notion that you have to please her. Instead, your focus should be on whether you are compatible or not.

The only way to find out if you are compatible is to do things with her that you normally like and enjoy doing, listen to music that you like and enjoy listening to, watch movies that you like and enjoy watching...you get the picture, no?

Trust me, if she is into you and you are compatible, she will very much appreciate you being upfront and honest about your preferences straight out of the gate than she would if you tried to second guess how to please her or impress her or get her to like you.

[momo3bur]

Originally Posted by James81

In the same vein of the advice I gave above...take her somewhere that you really enjoy going. Don't get caught up in the notion that you have to please her. Instead, your focus should be on whether you are compatible or not.

The only way to find out if you are compatible is to do things with her that you normally like and enjoy doing, listen to music that you like and enjoy listening to, watch movies that you like and enjoy watching...you get the picture, no?

Trust me, if she is into you and you are compatible, she will very much appreciate you being upfront and honest about your preferences straight out of the gate than she would if you tried to second guess how to please her or impress her or get her to like you.

This is really good advice and very important. So I second this.

[TonyToneTone]

Originally Posted by steveblog

Thanks for your answers!! I followed your advise and we are going out on Friday. Where do you think it would be good to take her after meeting in a club? Maybe a coffee or movies, I'll see

Take her out to a bar, cool lounge, or invite her over for drinks.

[steveblog]

Thanks everyone for the tips!! We went out yesterday, we had a good time with a lot of making out

She wanted to go out again today!! I told her I couldnt, which was true. I will see how this goes! She seems to be in a hurry loool

Thanks again!