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BillieAnn · 11-21-2011, 09:20 PM

I am 25 yo and I have always been in love. Platonic, more. Several months after I am hurt and alone. I'm afraid to be hurt again, maybe that is the answer. But the problem is I can fall in love. I don't feel good. My life is not interesting if I don't have butterflies in my stomach. No inspiration.
What to do?

rlatts · 11-21-2011, 09:28 PM

sorround yourself with friends, family and people that love you...life is too short. join a club, gym, art class, AA meeting...anything that may put positive feelings back into your life....

Philemon · 11-21-2011, 11:56 PM

Sometimes I just pretend I'm in love with everyone. That usually attracts a lot of love back.

It may sound a bit crazy, but pretend for long enough and it will start to show in your eyes, in your being, and you will attract a lot of love back. Don't expect or seek intimacy with this, though - that's not the point. Although, if it comes a long, woo hoo!!!

BillieAnn · 11-22-2011, 05:23 PM

Tnx!!! I love you!! Big hugs!!!

raykilleen · 11-22-2011, 06:07 PM

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Originally Posted by BillieAnn

I am 25 yo and I have always been in love. Platonic, more. Several months after I am hurt and alone. I'm afraid to be hurt again, maybe that is the answer. But the problem is I can fall in love. I don't feel good. My life is not interesting if I don't have butterflies in my stomach. No inspiration.
What to do?

Feeling alone is simply an illusion of the human mind. A deeper understanding of oneself will help alleviate such addictions else one will continue to be a slave of the body/mind where suffering will purse. Self inquiry techniques, are easily found online, stay away from the ones who are trying to make money.

frosting · 11-22-2011, 11:51 PM

Being alone isn't really that terrible. The question is sort of hard to understand because it seems like broken English. You can fall in love, but are not happy when you are/ don't feel good about it? You are all about having crushes?

Its up to people as individuals to find happiness in their circumstances, that much is true. Being happy is a choice I've found much more so then life circumstances will make you happy. Raykilleen had excellent advice and I 2nd following it.

BillieAnn · 11-23-2011, 12:08 AM

Oh .. I apologize for my bad English. I do not first language.
I feel good herself. I love him. What I mean is that I have always been in love. Platonic, mostly. But it gives me the sense of the day, life, beauty of the morning .. you know? Now I can not feel anything. As emotional dullness. I'm sad. I'm not happy. I want to be in love!

11-21-2011, 09:20 PM	#1 (permalink)
BillieAnn Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: East from London Posts: 59	I feel confused .. I am 25 yo and I have always been in love. Platonic, more. Several months after I am hurt and alone. I'm afraid to be hurt again, maybe that is the answer. But the problem is I can fall in love. I don't feel good. My life is not interesting if I don't have butterflies in my stomach. No inspiration. What to do?

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11-21-2011, 09:28 PM	#2 (permalink)
rlatts Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Posts: 9	sorround yourself with friends, family and people that love you...life is too short. join a club, gym, art class, AA meeting...anything that may put positive feelings back into your life....

11-21-2011, 11:56 PM	#3 (permalink)
Philemon Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: ohio Posts: 345	Sometimes I just pretend I'm in love with everyone. That usually attracts a lot of love back. It may sound a bit crazy, but pretend for long enough and it will start to show in your eyes, in your being, and you will attract a lot of love back. Don't expect or seek intimacy with this, though - that's not the point. Although, if it comes a long, woo hoo!!!

11-22-2011, 05:23 PM	#4 (permalink)
BillieAnn Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: East from London Posts: 59	Tnx!!! I love you!! Big hugs!!!

11-22-2011, 11:51 PM	#6 (permalink)
frosting Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 101	Being alone isn't really that terrible. The question is sort of hard to understand because it seems like broken English. You can fall in love, but are not happy when you are/ don't feel good about it? You are all about having crushes? Its up to people as individuals to find happiness in their circumstances, that much is true. Being happy is a choice I've found much more so then life circumstances will make you happy. Raykilleen had excellent advice and I 2nd following it.

11-23-2011, 12:08 AM	#7 (permalink)
BillieAnn Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: East from London Posts: 59	Oh .. I apologize for my bad English. I do not first language. I feel good herself. I love him. What I mean is that I have always been in love. Platonic, mostly. But it gives me the sense of the day, life, beauty of the morning .. you know? Now I can not feel anything. As emotional dullness. I'm sad. I'm not happy. I want to be in love!

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