Do u believe in soul mates?

[Kait]

I have never believed in a "soul mate". So what makes someone a soulmate? Do they meet your every need? Do you like everything that they do?

[forum]

it seems relationships are work - but when you meet your "soul mate" its just goes with a flow effortless - just gotta make sure you're beyond the "honey moon" period and its real

[quiethumir]

We are all soul mates because we are all part of the same oversoul.

As far as a soulmate for romance, yes I believe we all have one

[ChristsLight]

Originally Posted by forum

it seems relationships are work - but when you meet your "soul mate" its just goes with a flow effortless - just gotta make sure you're beyond the "honey moon" period and its real

I'm sorry, but this is so far from the truth. I feel obligated to point it out, because ideas like this can be truly dangerous to a relationship. If someone thinks that their relationship should just be perfect, no problems, no arguments, then when reality hits, they think that their partner is not their soul mate anymore, and they just give up.

Anytime you bring two people together into a relationship, there are points of friction that have to be worked out. To think otherwise is unrealistic and naive. Arguments will happen, but the true test of the relationship is in how you deal with those arguments. The best thing to do is to drop your pride, work it out and make up.

It's not called commitment because the relationship makes you feel good every day forever. There will be struggles and sometimes you will be frustrated. But you persist through and it strengthens the relationship.

[ChristsLight]

To reply to the OP, I'm not really sure if there are soul mates. I think you will end up with the person you will end up with, and it is perfect for you. But I don't call it soul mates.

[TinaC]

I don't know if I believe in soul mates but what me and my boyfriend have is kinda close.

[Kait]

Originally Posted by ChristsLight

To reply to the OP, I'm not really sure if there are soul mates. I think you will end up with the person you will end up with, and it is perfect for you. But I don't call it soul mates.

I wonder if this means you WILL have two or more "end up with" mates? I certainly don't believe people are perfect and they are human and will agrue...

BUT I do believe there are people out there that just know, what moves your going to make, what your thinking, and can actually finish your sentence for you. I have met a woman (friend) I just feel SHE is like my sister. We just connect. But for the opposite sex. I have never had this experience. I am dating someone with the same common interest and religion is the same. But he doesn't read my thoughts or finish my sentence. I think we get along great (when I don't have a problem) but he is very laid back (which is what I like, because I am all jacked up..lol) But is he my soulmate because we don't like being apart? Who knows...lol. I don't.

[GaryMichaels]

Not only do I believe in soul mates but I am getting married to mine next month

[Angelique]

No, not in the glamourized sense of finding your true, one and only.

However, I do believe we find/create perfect people, or catalysts, for different points in our lives.

[ChristsLight]

Originally Posted by Kait

I wonder if this means you WILL have two or more "end up with" mates? I certainly don't believe people are perfect and they are human and will agrue...

I didn't say people are perfect, just that they will end up with the one perfect for them, at least at the time. Yes sometimes they will end up with more in one lifetime, and sometimes just one will do, but it doesn't mean they don't grow just as much, if not more.

Originally Posted by Apopohis Reject

BUT I do believe there are people out there that just know, what moves your going to make, what your thinking, and can actually finish your sentence for you.

This happens with anyone as a natural result of being together long enough. My wife and I can do this, because we've been together for over two years now. In that time you learn pretty well how the other person thinks, what they're going to say, etc. I know the stories she's going to tell people before she starts, I know what kin dog answers she'll make, etc.

Funnily enough, a friend and I have the same thing; sometimes we randomly say nearly the same thing at the same time, or she says something I was about to. I think it's because we're both geeky types, so are very similar in our thought processes.

[jasmineY]

A soul mate is simply someone who you feel most comfortable with. I don't think they have to be of the opposite sex. Your soul mate could be your best friend, and I'm sure there are soul mates galore for everyone!

[Frisky]

Nope.

But you can click with the right girl a lot better when you find a soulmate, there just isnt IMO the perfect soulmate

[Kait]

Originally Posted by ChristsLight

I didn't say people are perfect, just that they will end up with the one perfect for them, at least at the time. Yes sometimes they will end up with more in one lifetime, and sometimes just one will do, but it doesn't mean they don't grow just as much, if not more..

I said, they were not perfect. That would be ME with more than one partner.

Originally Posted by ChristsLight

This happens with anyone as a natural result of being together long enough. My wife and I can do this, because we've been together for over two years now. In that time you learn pretty well how the other person thinks, what they're going to say, etc. I know the stories she's going to tell people before she starts, I know what kin dog answers she'll make, etc..

I've been dating for year and 3months BUT cant say I know him yet...I think living together is more of knowing if you get alone with someone or if they are a soulmate.. He has his place and I have mine. But I can't finish or start a sentence. I just know when something upsets him.

As for my other partner it was 16yrs and 18yrs all together but WE never had anything in common I don't believe that was a soulmate at all.

Originally Posted by ChristsLight

Funnily enough, a friend and I have the same thing; sometimes we randomly say nearly the same thing at the same time, or she says something I was about to. I think it's because we're both geeky types, so are very similar in our thought processes.

I just know I didn't meet my friend until I was adult. I didn't know her when I was a child. I find it to be odd that someone can actually read me that well and I her.

[Canonymous]

I believe in soul mates, but personal decisions can either drive apart or bring you closer together. If you meet someone you can be with for the rest of your life, then congratulations, you've found a compatible partner. When you meet someone you can be with for time and all eternity, you've probably found your soul mate. You don't have to be in a relationship for this person to motivate you to always be the best you can be, to love with everything you've got and grow exponentially. A soul mate, I think, is someone who can understand what you mean when even you are struggling with words.

Soul mate. Mating of souls. That's a compatibility that goes beyond this world. A match made in heaven, if I may be so bold.

[aelle]

No, I don't believe in soul mates. I believe that there are any number of people who are right for you at any given point in your life. Then the bonds that tie you are the ones you choose to create together.

I also don't think relationships necessarily require "work". My relationship with my boy is a lot more effortless than the one with my mother, and no one says being a daughter is work. It's just relating to people, connecting, even as you both change with time.

And that all couples fight thing? I don't get it. We have disagreements, sometimes we get on each others' nerves, but we don't fight.
When we disagree, we talk it out (without manipulation or guilt trips). When we are cranky or angry, we figure out why and it's almost never the other (biggest culprits: hunger, fatigue, work stress, hormones). So we don't take it out on each other. When it actually is, we talk about it, no arguing or anger. Sometimes there's crying, but there is also always empathy and hugs. Must have happened a grand total of 3 times in 4 years.

That said, we're both pretty conflict adverse and were raised in households that practiced non violent communication in a very organic manner.

[BillieAnn]

It's like believing in love. It is a state of mind. Yes, there is love. There soul mate. But not this fairy tale. It is not magic. It builds gradually. Step by step. There are many people who want the same things. You only have to be found.

[Philemon]

Originally Posted by Kait

I have never believed in a "soul mate". So what makes someone a soulmate? Do they meet your every need? Do you like everything that they do?

Every need? Doubtful.

Like all the same things? Highly doubtful.

Do I believe? Yes.


I believe in many soul mates, and not necessarily limited to romantic soul mates. I have a core group of best friends and we each believe we knew each other on a soul level, decided to embark on this journey of Humanity together, and we intentionally planned to keep in touch here.

I'm with a soulmate romantically right now. I feel this because of foretelling dreams, lots of synchronicities, and just the "sense" of it. I consider her my soulmate in the sense that our souls knew each other on another plane or in another life, and we decided we would get together here as well - even though we both resisted a bit early on . . . we're human

She doesn't satisfy EVERY need I have. We don't like all the same things. We're zodiac opposites and we have the potential to tear each other's head off sometimes. Soulmates doesn't mean undeterred harmony and ease. In fact, I think it means learning and development, and a whole lot more probably.

[insanezenmistress]

Yeah, i belive in the soul mate. I agree with the some people we meet are catalyists for our growth, some may be our lovers and sisters.

I think there are few real deep friendships in our lives, these would be our soul matches. We could meet a soul mate and never even be their friend. And example of the stranger who knew what you needed and helped you with wisdom or whatever along your way.

I belive in Soul teachers too.

Justifying my lurking-ness with a post.

Justine

[ChristsLight]

I have noticed that there is a deep familiarity with those with whom I'm well-acquainted on a soul level. Sometimes it does not come out immediately, but over time it most certainly does. I have a few friends with whom I get this feeling, and also I get that with my wife.

[Kait]

Originally Posted by BillieAnn

It's like believing in love. It is a state of mind. Yes, there is love. There soul mate. But not this fairy tale. It is not magic. It builds gradually. Step by step. There are many people who want the same things. You only have to be found.

Is it a state of mind? That's cute.

[Kait]

Originally Posted by GaryMichaels

Not only do I believe in soul mates but I am getting married to mine next month

I wish you luck.. You are sacrificing alot at a very young age Gary. But if you believe SHE is your soul mate, I hope that your are able to go a little deeper in sharing your feelings with her. It is a need and every couple
should be able to feel it and show it.

I have read your other post...and I'm wishing you both luck.

[Kait]

Originally Posted by insanezenmistress

Yeah, i belive in the soul mate. I agree with the some people we meet are catalyists for our growth, some may be our lovers and sisters.

I think there are few real deep friendships in our lives, these would be our soul matches. We could meet a soul mate and never even be their friend. And example of the stranger who knew what you needed and helped you with wisdom or whatever along your way.

I belive in Soul teachers too.

Justifying my lurking-ness with a post.

Justine

I believe this too...I believe that their are strangers that are "soul mates."

[frosting]

I don't think there is only "one" soul mate out there.

I do think there are a variety people out there who may be our soul mates. Not just in a romantic sense, but in the platonic "We are meant to be friends and grow from our friendship" sense. I like the theory that before we go into our lives, other souls agree to be apart of our lives. Even the worst people agree to be apart of our lives to help teach other lessons we need to see that wouldn't of without that negative experience. Some people who agree to be apart of our lives may be more profound then others, in the sense they are a "soul mate".

[Kait]

Originally Posted by frosting

I don't think there is only "one" soul mate out there.

I do think there are a variety people out there who may be our soul mates. Not just in a romantic sense, but in the platonic "We are meant to be friends and grow from our friendship" sense. I like the theory that before we go into our lives, other souls agree to be apart of our lives. Even the worst people agree to be apart of our lives to help teach other lessons we need to see that wouldn't of without that negative experience. Some people who agree to be apart of our lives may be more profound then others, in the sense they are a "soul mate".

Hi Frosting,

So your feelings is that anyone that enters our life "negative or positive" are meant to be in our lifes to teach us lessons about life and because of this they are our "soul mates" which they are meant to be there?


I like this...If I'm reading your message correctly.

[Yanna]

The idea of everyone having only one soulmate in this world is preposterous. It would be statistically impossible to meet this person. One in seven billion pretty much equals nil.
But I have people in my life who I have a connection with that is so amazing that it goes beyond what one would call love or friendship. I feel like those words don't actually cover the bond I have with them. Soulmate seems to be a bit more appropriate a term.


So it's all semantics. Fill it in however you like, that's what language is for!

[Kait]

Originally Posted by Yanna

But I have people in my life who I have a connection with that is so amazing that it goes beyond what one would call love or friendship.

This is awesome and very special to have...

[Curious cat]

I don't know if i believe in the idea of a soul mate. I know that there are people who i can click with from the get go, and less with others. I guess it comes down to where i am at in my life when i meet people and how much we have in common.

To know someone well would naturally come with time. For instance, my husband would answer a question before i even ask it. And he'd be spot on. And vice versa. But this is what happens when you live with someone for so long, and care about understanding that person. Or, i could just be very predictable lol.

If i had to assign someone as 'soul mate' in my life, it would definitely be my husband. He's my bestest friend in the world, he makes me laugh, makes me angry , makes me feel loved and special, and tells me i am the most beautiful woman in the world. Flattery really works! Only kidding

[Kait]

Originally Posted by Curious cat

I don't know if i believe in the idea of a soul mate. I know that there are people who i can click with from the get go, and less with others. I guess it comes down to where i am at in my life when i meet people and how much we have in common.

To know someone well would naturally come with time. For instance, my husband would answer a question before i even ask it. And he'd be spot on. And vice versa. But this is what happens when you live with someone for so long, and care about understanding that person. Or, i could just be very predictable lol.

If i had to assign someone as 'soul mate' in my life, it would definitely be my husband. He's my bestest friend in the world, he makes me laugh, makes me angry , makes me feel loved and special, and tells me i am the most beautiful woman in the world. Flattery really works! Only kidding

Hi Curious Cat

I guess the reason for me asking because I don't believe in soulmates either...but I believe "FROSTING" has hit something that makes sense to me...

Example: I was working with my daughter helping her get her GED and this woman Understood me (as a parent) and my child (because her child was like mine) It seemed to me, like she was sent to both of us...to ease the stress and to relax. I felt wonderful and my daughter did too...but I have never seen this woman again...

Again as for my love life, I don't know if he is my soul mate...
I just know we love being with each other and we have alot in common...Its NICE to be able to sit down at my TV and he likes the same stuff I do...It's nice.

I'm happy you have found your soul mate...life is so great when one can read your mind.

[Curious cat]

Thanks kait.

I am happy for you too, as i know you are/went through a difficult time with your children's father.

I like what frosting said too

[GaryMichaels]

Originally Posted by Kait

I wish you luck.. You are sacrificing alot at a very young age Gary. But if you believe SHE is your soul mate, I hope that your are able to go a little deeper in sharing your feelings with her. It is a need and every couple
should be able to feel it and show it.

I have read your other post...and I'm wishing you both luck.

Thank you Kait

I know I am sacrificing a lot going into this marriage but I do believe Hailey is my real soul mate

Have you ever met somebody that completes you? That understands you in a way nobody else can and makes you feel makes you feel so alive that you can't remember what it was like before you met that one person or even imagine being with somebody else? I have honestly never loved another girl as much as I love her and I never thought I could after I lost my first girlfriend. Hailey changed that for me and from the moment she fell into my lap I knew there was something special about her.

I have a wonderful Fiancée and an amazing little girl who love me and I feel like the luckiest guy alive because I have what I have always wanted. We love nearly all the same things and detest the same things, we share the same morals and values, we’re both vegetarians but occasionally eat fish and prawns, we don’t drink, do drugs or smoke, we both stand up for what we believe in, we both have backgrounds in music and can play musical instruments and sing and we were both brought up religious but while I gave up my beliefs Hailey still goes to church with our daughter and I respect that.