Emptiness in my life

[MiguelG]

Hello, my name is Miguel and I'm a 17 year old boy.

I can't say much more about myself, because I don't actually know what I can say about myself. I don't know my purpose in life and life seems like it has a hit a choke point, which I can't really advance.

Lately, I've felt this void in my life. It isn't making me sad or depressed, I'm just missing something and don't know quite what it is. I've narrowed it down to an unknown social condition. Basically, I'm satisfied with my life to an extent. I have fun with my friends, mostly through video games and we get along pretty well. I am part of a band and I know a reasonable amount of people. Yet, I feel empty.

I only have 2 true friends, people who are actually there for me. Those are my friends who have been with me throughout several years. I have difficulty in making new friends. It's not really a question of shyness or inability to talk to people, it's mostly fear of their opinions and fear of a relationship (friendship in this case).

I think I need new people in my life, but I'm confronted by these obstacles. I've felt the need of a female relationship (almost none of my friends are female) either friendly or romantic, but they're like whole different people to me. I don't know how to be social with them and with some of my other friends aswell (some of my band mates included).

It's really hard for me to open up like this, even to people who don't know me and almost likely never will. I'm getting quite desperate with this, even though I'm not sad or depressed.

Thanks for all the help!


P.S: I won't be able to answer any questions until next day.

[Frisky]

Dude, start practicing "Law of Attraction" and a whole new life will open up for you.

It will be complete turning point in your life, take my word for it

[Alice Hive]

If you want to get more close friends, you WILL need to get out of your comfort zone, show who you truly are and risk rejection. Feel the fear and do it anyway!
There's no "easy" way (where you don't have to be courageous) out of this.

I've felt the need of a female relationship (almost none of my friends are female) either friendly or romantic, but they're like whole different people to me.

Of course it's going to be extra difficult if you think women are totally different from you. How could you relate to someone totally different?

I would suggest you look for a more empowering belief. For example: "There are lots of women who I have something in common with."

Practically, you could start like this:
You surely know (or can find) some girls with similar interests as yours? Talk with them about your shared interests! Find other things you have in common. There: The start of a new friendship!

It's really quite simple (although not "easy", as I mentioned).

[JDuff]

My simple advice would be to involve yourself in situations with other people with similar interests, or if girls if that's what you are looking for. You don't need to do anything special or change who you are. Just being around people leads to speaking to them, getting to know them etc. Then you can just see what happens. That's a reasonable start!