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quiethumir · 11-06-2011, 05:27 PM

When I'm with my bestfriend words are flying out of my mouth but it's not the case with some of my classmates, my instructor and other people. Is it just because I'm self conscious? How do I get rid of self-consciousness?

qwertyportne · 11-06-2011, 11:02 PM

Yes, could be a symptom of self consciousness. All I can suggest is to ask yourself "Why am I not self conscious with my buddy but am when I am around other people?" My guess is that you feel comfortable with your buddy because s/he accepts you.

Self consciousness with strangers can be lessened by focusing on the other person, not yourself. Instead of worrying about whether or not they will accept you, show them they have credibility with you by getting them to talk about themselves, be a good listener and so forth, and perhaps you will gain credibility with them. It's like the Zen saying: "To use the self is to forget the self."

--Bill

Papa Suede · 11-07-2011, 04:06 AM

ya gotsta chill babuh. whateva coms out papa seudes mouth he know is gold so it aint no thang.

11-06-2011, 05:27 PM	#1 (permalink)
quiethumir Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Posts: 283	Why do sometimes I have a hard time getting words out? When I'm with my bestfriend words are flying out of my mouth but it's not the case with some of my classmates, my instructor and other people. Is it just because I'm self conscious? How do I get rid of self-consciousness?

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11-06-2011, 11:02 PM	#2 (permalink)
qwertyportne Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Central California Posts: 67	Yes, could be a symptom of self consciousness. All I can suggest is to ask yourself "Why am I not self conscious with my buddy but am when I am around other people?" My guess is that you feel comfortable with your buddy because s/he accepts you. Self consciousness with strangers can be lessened by focusing on the other person, not yourself. Instead of worrying about whether or not they will accept you, show them they have credibility with you by getting them to talk about themselves, be a good listener and so forth, and perhaps you will gain credibility with them. It's like the Zen saying: "To use the self is to forget the self." --Bill

11-07-2011, 04:06 AM	#3 (permalink)
Papa Suede Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Posts: 1	ya gotsta chill babuh. whateva coms out papa seudes mouth he know is gold so it aint no thang.

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