Issue with parents

[Lychee]

Thanks to those who responded.

[Erki]

Interesting, interesting... I have something similar, but the other way around. That is then, that I myself don't want to talk to them about stuff going on in my life... It feels sometimes as if they want to know everything about me - I can't really blame them but it's uncomfortable to me. Therefore, a lot of time I avoid them, especially my mother because she's the one trying to communicate with me more. And then that too that just being around them makes me feel anxious and uneasy.
They say that if I have some problems or anything then let me tell them, let's figure out something - but I don't want to do it with them, I want to figure out things on my own, or at least with people who have a bit more common with me - I feel that I don't have much in common with my family.

[ZHereford]

Originally Posted by Lychee

Despite all my tries to improve the relationship, nothing has worked..... It has to be a two way street and I feel I've been giving but they haven't.

Hi Lychee, what have you done that hasn't worked and what do you feel you are giving and not getting back?

Lychee have you told them that you feel alienated and isolated? Maybe they don't realize how much it has hurt you.

Being an introvert, and therefore less likely to express yourself as much you would like, perhaps they have no idea how strongly you feel. Many people mistakenly think introverts don't care as much as they do.

One thing I can say from reading some of your posts in these forums is that you are intelligent and on the ball.

I would say give it one more try. Talk to them and be explicit about how you feel and what you would like from them.

Communication is the key to making any relationship work.