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11-08-2006, 10:03 PM
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 |  Got Kids??
I wanted to start a thread to know how many of you have kids and see if you are willing to share some parenting experiences and tips. Me, I have a 9 year old son, who is in Fourth Grade. And am expecting our second baby in May 2007. |
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11-08-2006, 10:07 PM
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Why not turn this into a poll? 2 kids - a 3 yo and a 1 yo. Congratulations on your second one! And your first one!
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11-14-2006, 04:27 PM
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I don't have any kids yet. My wife and I are planning to start trying next year. Let me tell you what I don't agree with. I don't like the fact that a lot of people have kids because they are bored with their life and have nothing else to do. I think this is so wrong. Right now, I'm trying really hard to make my dreams come true. One of my dreams is run my own internet business so that I don't have to work 9-to-5 for anyone anymore. It might sound a little mean, but right now, I don't want kids because I have something else to look forward to that keeps me busy. If I have a kid right now, that might hurt my chances to make my dreams come true. My plan is to work on my goals first and then bring a child into a much better world. If I have my own internet business, then I will have a lot more time to spend with my kid and so will my wife. Now isn't this a much better plan? I think everyone should think about the real reason they want a child. I think we should first work on our goals before considering having kids. I see many people having kids because they either don't have any goals or don't plan to pursue them. Then, what happens is that these people will no longer be able to pursue their goals because their sole reason for living becomes their child and I don't think this should be the case.
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11-14-2006, 04:52 PM
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It is best to ask people who have both: kids and internet business (or some other business, or some other career, or whatever they like most), what is bigger value for them: kids or business? I am sure that 90% of them will tell you that kids are the most important "item" in their life and business looks so unimportant when compare to your child, even if you own Microsoft. E.g. ask Steve Pavlina, he has both: kids and internet business, and he knows what is more important to him, kids or stevepavlina.com and dexterity.com together?  Life is short, you are in danger to spend it to less important thing and ignore more important. Anyway, WHO SAYS YOU CANNOT START AN INTERNET BUSINESS AND HAVE A CHILD? Take both! I am living example that you can.  | |
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11-14-2006, 04:53 PM
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I have three quasi-kids. LOL. My nieces and nephew, who I have been a second mother to for over three years now. They are 10 (boy), 8 (girl) and 6 (girl). They are tons of fun, tons of work, and I feel more prepared for parenthood than anyone I know ever got to be, *if* I decide to have kids later on down the road.
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11-14-2006, 06:12 PM
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I think you might have missed my point. I was in no way trying to compare the joy of having kids to the joy of having a business. What I was saying was that we need to take care of ourselves first before taking care of others. I don't think it's right to have your kids be the only thing you live for. Your life has to be good on its own, I think. If you are one of those that has both, then that's good for you. I was talking about the ones with no goals in life, who live through their children. I think I can be a much better parent if my life had meaning before my kid was born. That makes me a much better person and I can teach my kid how to make something of him or herself. I would like for him to have some goals other than have kids himself. My only point is that if we are bored with our lives, we need to be able to solve that problem with something other than kids. I'm not saying we shouldn't have kids. I'm saying kids should be an addition to an already fulfilling life.
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11-18-2006, 04:59 AM
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Well my opinion is and always has been that if you wait until you are ready in ALL ways(finanically, emotionally, etc.) then its likely you wouldn't EVER have kids. Just my opinion. But when you have them you just make do. Sure it seems like this huge cost both finanically and in lifestyle but really things work out with a little scheduling. Sure you miss them but from someone that has been home with the "kids" all day and thought that is what I wanted it can get to where being 24/7 mom and dad is worse than being gone to a job out of the home. Sure they are there and know you are there but unless your Internet business requires little work you will always have time away from them. Work no matter where you are WILL take time away from the "kids". I can understand the thoughts behind that though and if you aren't ready in ANY sense of prepardness then by all means wait. I had them too but looking back I'm glad I didn't wait. I had this conversation(years ago) with my hubby and after he thought about it he agreed.
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