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Old 10-18-2011, 09:41 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Anybody ideas to get over an emotional rollercoaster?

At the moment nothing is like it should. My relationship is a mess, I need to leave my appartment next week, there are a lot of issues at work and personally I feel like a wreck, pain in my chest,...

I feel really depressed but I don't see a way out. It's taking all my energy away as one day I feel good and some minutes later I feel depressed. And by my behaviour I make also other people depressed. My girlfriend is getting frustrated because I feel not good.

I don't know what to do anymore...
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Old 10-18-2011, 11:11 AM   #2 (permalink)
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you need to take things one step at a time, give yourself a little time to step back and decide what you want and need.

You said that your relationship is a mess and yourGF is frustrated with you. you have a lot happening, but you cannot deal with everything at once.

maybe sit down by yourself for a couple of hours and write, decide what you want in each of the areas of your life, set goals, set yourself free of things that dont work for you any more. make a plan, when we have no goals and no plans and life starts getting busy, we can feel very overwhelmed and then want to hide from it.
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Old 10-18-2011, 09:11 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Watch this once every day and follow it until you feel satisfied: Creating Abundance (Part 2 of 4) - YouTube

Helped me at least, prayin for your good fortune mate.
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To me, when the emotions of life become too much I find expressing really helpful

- Speaking; with friends/family (friends more), getting their thoughts and comfort.
- Journalling; getting my thoughts onto paper and reflecting on them to get into a better place
- Letting it out; crying, punching a pillow, etc.
- Exercise; endorphines win.
- Prayer; I pray and let things out, inviting God to give a sense of love and peace instead, and sometimes pray prayers that yell at God, blaming God for life's pains.

These things I find particularly helpful, at times consistently over a period of time, for building a better emotional state, thereby allowing a more objective approach to the surrounding situation(s), whatever it may be.
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The first thing I would do is start meditating. That will solve a lot of your problems – I know it solved most of mine.

The second thing I would do is take action. Create a plan to deal with all of the situations you're in right now. Make sure you aren't subconsciously perpetuating any of them.

You should be able to come up with a solution for everything, even if it means ignoring it.

Present moment awareness combined with a plan to get out of the hellhole you're in right now will do wonders.
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I agree with Fred on meditating. We all need a calm place to generate awareness and perspective on the storms of life. From what you have said, it seems really important for you to get in touch with the part of yourself that is 'ok' even with all the chaos going and and that's what meditation is about.

Do you exercise?
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Old 10-31-2011, 09:56 AM   #7 (permalink)
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I'll go running from time to time.

Thanks for the support.
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