|05-01-2007, 12:14 AM||#1 (permalink)|
Join Date: Mar 2007
Coming to terms with your sexuality
For a long time ive had this nagging feeling inside my chest and the other night when i confronted this feeling, the words which came were "im gay". To be honest i never wanted to be gay and i always denied and rejected any gay thoughts i have had.
Im slowly accepting and feeling better for it. But also confused to what i should do next and what my sexual orientation is now. Im in a long term relationship with a girl who i adore and love, she does know all this (i cant keep secrets from her!) she got hurt but accepted thats it part of me. I think im Bi-sexual. But i wont know for sure until i explore the other side of me.
Anyone else have lingering thoughts of their sexuality on their voyage for self discovery?.
|05-01-2007, 03:00 AM||#2 (permalink)|
Join Date: Dec 2006
I'm a 22 year old bi guy. For the past couple years I've only dated women, as I decided there was a strong possibility I wanted a family. Around age 19-20 I dated several guys, and experimented with some when i was younger as well. I'm still very affectionate with my male friends, but building emotional/spiritual connections has been my emphasis. One book that was eye opening for me was Spirit and the Flesh: Sexual Diversity in American Indian Culture by anthropologist Walter L. Williams, which details how so many cultures used to have bisexuality as the norm, and homosexuality was held in high esteem. Another helpful book is The Ins and Outs of Gay Sex, written by a gay doctor on enjoying yourself while staying fairly safe. Best of luck in your awakening.
|05-02-2007, 09:29 PM||#4 (permalink)|
Join Date: May 2007
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|10-10-2007, 05:50 AM||#7 (permalink)|
Join Date: Sep 2007
please allow me to join....
i am badly in need to belong to somewhere i can find some same similarities...
Adam, i am very similar to u. i do suspect i could be bisexual as well. i slept with guys before but not with girls. i did have a steady girlfriend once, intimate sexual contact but no intercourse. So what does that make me?
AidanMatthew, perhaps u can give a piece of thought..
actually i am comfortable being a gay (if i am not bi). i am not disgusted or whatever. it's just that i cant come to terms to come out of closet.
Does religion ever bother u guys?? coz it bothers me a lot. i am not some kind of angel who have done no sins, but i take religion very seriously. and clearly religion does not tolerate this sort of things...
sigh.... sigh..... sigh....
|10-10-2007, 02:25 PM||#8 (permalink)|
Join Date: Dec 2006
My dad's view of my sexuality is that he's happy as long as I stay healthy. "Coming out" was never much of an issue. Whenever I find something that interests me, I research it online, read books about it, find a way of doing it that's unlikely to permanently maim me, then go out and try it. Then I talk to others about it. Sometimes I'll talk to people before hand if I think they have useful advice that I can't easily find on my own, but largely I try to be more action than talk oriented. If I try something and find it isn't for me, then I never even have to mention it.
|10-11-2007, 03:38 PM||#9 (permalink)|
Join Date: Nov 2006
On a sidenote, today is National Coming Out Day
National Coming Out Day - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
My experiences have been mostly positive to those I'm come out to. My extended family doesn't know, but my mom / stepdad do know. My father didn't know before he passed away. After he did, I came to the decision in my life that I can't just go on living a lie for the rest of my life. At the same time, I don't have to preach what I do behind closed doors to a choir that doesn't necessarily want to or need to know.
|10-12-2007, 03:53 PM||#10 (permalink)|
Join Date: Feb 2007
I think most males do go through that period of "Am I gay?" regardless of their sexual orientation. I had such a period, thinking "Do I really like men that way?" After asking myself deeply about it and really exploring the feeling for maybe a month, I came to the conclusion that I'm not gay, and that I just seem to admire good looking men, which is pretty normal but most men won't admit because they think it makes them gay.
I think what's happening to you is normal. Just be brave enough to admit to yourself that you have these feelings, and accept yourself no matter what happens, even if you're straight or bi or gay.
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