Jealousy

[kay]

I was wondering how do you all cope with jealousy? I am about to start uni in September meaning i will have to make new friends etc. I know how it goes, where new people arrive and your old friends drift off. I have a brilliant mate at school who has always been there for me. I just know that when i start higher education he will drift off with his new friends and cousins who are going there. I would like to know how to deal with this. Some of the people i know are rubbing it in my face that their actual best mates and that i get the feeling will be left out.

How do i cope with jealousy.
How do you get rid of the feeling.

[Akashic_Librarian]

Accept it. Embrace it. And let it pass.

[ken nubo]

I used to feel blue for days, taking long walks in the forest and try to “discover” myself. I used to feel down, hopeless, useless and no hope for a bright future. Seriously, that's how I used to feel.

Here is what I don't really feel anymore: Fear, guilt, resentment, jealously, apathy, worries, anxiety. Like some guy would go “Dude, I'm scared to approach that girl” and I'l be like, “WTF?!”. Or how they're afraid a career change because they're too old, too dumb, too much in debt ... to much in something.

Just don't be afraid of change. Embrace the unknown, it's exciting. I got a two jobs with potential to make $60, 000+ a year before I turned 20. (One of the job with the government) and I turned both down.

Is there a little of some sort for me to have this AWESOME feeling of not feeling fear, guilt, resentment, jealously, apathy? Remember the last time you felt good? That's how I feel all the time. Everyday there is something cool to do because I'm consciously creating my reality, instead of succumbing to programmed habits.

So the secret is ... I know, not believe, that I'm a bad ass. Plain and simple. A super bad ass! Of course, everyone was born a bad ass. People with low self esteem have low self esteem because they let other people bring them to a low level. Believe that you're a bad ass – don't believe in other people's bull ************ about your self worth. You're whole and worthy as you are. But don't just take my words for it ... discover it for yourself.

Once you realize that you have this inner bad ass in you, fear, guilt, resentment, jealously, apathy naturally fades away. Personally, I don't think you can build extreme confidence from just reading my blog and ************. You actually have to go out there and do something externally, so your mind believes that you're a bad ass.

Believe it, baby.

[torilink]

I always try to remind myself that the reason I feel that way is because of my ego, it wants so badly to feel special. I try to refocus the energy I would use on those feelings and thoughts in a positive way.

[kay]

Originally Posted by Akashic_Librarian

Accept it. Embrace it. And let it pass.

Thx for relpying, but im confused.

how can one let it pass, if one embraces it?

Could someone please explain these 3 stages more clearly in regards to jealousy.


Thx

[bellbird]

Akashic Librarian can explain that best probably . This is just my 2 c on it: when you accept you feel the way you do, you choose to embrace the jealousy/envy/resentment/fear of loss-change. Instead of pushing it away because you don't want it to embody you, you agree it is there, look at it and acknowledge it's presence totally. You can say then that it's ok to feel that 'because I learn who I am at this point in time'. It's understandable and normal what I'm going through and I see where it's coming from. It's part of life. Ask yourself why different feelings might be coming up. You can only let go of something if you understand it and choose not to be attached to it anymore (as you've experienced it, learned from it and it doesn't touch you so much anymore because you 'dealt' with it, gone through it). You willingly choose to give it up after experiencing it all. It's time to let go because you see it's no longer part of you.
Ps: There's no overnight express solution package deal available here. Things take time and Akashic Librarian did a very good job of summing up the essentials on the progress. Hope the above will help

[ZHereford]

Actually Kay going to university is a new and exciting experience as well as an opportunity to meet new and interesting people - for everyone including you.

Treat it as the adventure it will be. Don't get stuck on what will or won't happen.

True friends will always be true friends. Sometimes your paths may take you in different directions temporarily, but if the bond is strong enough it will always be there. If it's not, then you're grieving something that didn't exist in the first place.
It sounds to me, though, that you and your friend are close so I wouldn't worry too much.

Both of you have much life to live and experience.