Fear of relationships

[introspective1]

Ever since i ended my relationship with my ex, 2 years ago (we were together for 3 years), i have been really scared of being in a relationship. Although I still feel for him, we have come to an agreement that we could not be together and are better off remaining friends

Here is why i am scared:

For one, i am scared my friendship with him would be much different. If i was dating someone else, he may get jealous. Although, he does have someone he is interested in and it hurts me to see them around each other (even though they are not affectionate around me and extremely friendly towards me). I know that i have to let him move on since we do not want each other back. It's only fair.

Also, i saw how painful and how hard my relationship was with him and it has really damaged my self-esteem. We fought alot over the same issues over and over again and fights became very physical, at times, because i have SERIOUS rage/anger management issues. Plus, he didn't give me alot of space and i found it very difficult to make friends. Ever since we broke up, this still affected me because now i don't know how to make friends, so i have only have one close friend, besides him. Although the breakup was not completely or even mostly his fault.

I think my age may have something to do with it too. I am only 24 and the thought of commiting to someone for a long time or the rest of my life is overwhelming. I can't just "date" cause no one does that anymore lol...everyone wants something serious. Everyone i know, older and younger, complain constantly about their relationships and i see people around me breakup so much that i wonder , what is so great about relationships? I don't want to get stuck in a relationship that doesnt work and the other person makes me unhappy because this last relationship took away so much of my youth that i can't get back. I do care for my ex alot though and go through a wide range of emotions about the past relationship (rage, sadness, bitterness, etc)

These are just a few reasons why i am afraid of relationships..who here has this fear? How do you get over a fear of relationships? I saw a counselor about these issues but he wasn't helpful

[munish]

Originally Posted by introspective1

These are just a few reasons why i am afraid of relationships..who here has this fear? How do you get over a fear of relationships?

Have you heard this audio ? Try it .

http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/200...our-dark-side/