What is in her mind, what does want?

[dilbarr]

Well, I am married with two cute kids and my wife is beautiful and does fulfill all my needs, but few years back I started " secret" relations with another woman (B), who also happend to married and having kids, its going on. B assured me that she has no else except me and her husband in her life and that she loves me too much but she can't break up with her husband, due to the fact of social bariers and her kids. But recently I cam to know she had the same relatioins with another man, and she also told and assure him that she loves him too much. All this happend accidently and the man came accross by chance with me and when we exchanged this information, he showed me her mails and her desire to meet him and do love.
I am really confused, despite the facts that I too am doing wrong to keep illegal relations cheating my wife, But can any body or a woman tell me, WHAT is WRONG with that woman, I admit she also loves me.

[elucidate]

Nope! I've done my quota for cheaters for this week. You're on your own.

[Bliss Sage]

Originally Posted by dilbarr

Well, I am married with two cute kids and my wife is beautiful and does fulfill all my needs, but few years back I started " secret" relations with another woman (B), who also happend to married and having kids, its going on. B assured me that she has no else except me and her husband in her life and that she loves me too much but she can't break up with her husband, due to the fact of social bariers and her kids. But recently I cam to know she had the same relatioins with another man, and she also told and assure him that she loves him too much. All this happend accidently and the man came accross by chance with me and when we exchanged this information, he showed me her mails and her desire to meet him and do love.
I am really confused, despite the facts that I too am doing wrong to keep illegal relations cheating my wife, But can any body or a woman tell me, WHAT is WRONG with that woman, I admit she also loves me.

Better to ask yourself what is wrong with you, and then maybe you'll get what is "wrong" with her. This seems like a "cheater" thing, not a "woman" thing. A faithful woman will ask you the same question: What's wrong with you? You're doing to your wife the same thing your mistress is doing to you. Maybe it's just karma.

I, for one, cannot fathom what is in your mind or hers, or the mind of a cheater at all. And I'm a woman. And it seems strange that you wouldn't understand what is in her mind, as it is in yours too with regards to your wife.

[Clint Cora]

I think you should be less concerned about her. It's yourself that you should be worried about since it's also your own marriage at risk here. I would suggest that you stop this affair immediately and get some help in person with a professional who can help you sort some things out so you can save your own marriage which is certainly not going well - otherwise, you wouldn't be having an affair.

[ginkgo]

Apparently she has not learned the ethics of cheating yet. You should write a book on the ethics of cheating and have her read it.

You can call the book Honor Among Thieves. If someone says there is honor among thieves, this means that even corrupt or bad people sometimes have a sense of honor or integrity, or justice, even if it is skewed.

[Karanime]

There's a lot of strange things going on in this post.

How do any of these people feel about what's transpired?

Obviously, you feel a little upset. You're shocked. Before now, this woman you were having an affair with was "normal." But now she's different.

Think of how you feel with that woman. Think of how you feel when you think of your wife, in relation to that woman. Thrilling, isn't it? There's something appealing in that.

She feels this same feeling when she thinks of you, in relation to this other man. And when she thinks of her husband in relation to you, or this other man.

It's the same urge you all have, being expressed in different ways. No confusion necessary.

[dilbarr]

Originally Posted by Clint Cora

I think you should be less concerned about her. It's yourself that you should be worried about since it's also your own marriage at risk here. I would suggest that you stop this affair immediately and get some help in person with a professional who can help you sort some things out so you can save your own marriage which is certainly not going well - otherwise, you wouldn't be having an affair.

Yes, yes yes, I realize I should see my face in the mirror and decide, I stand on wrong footing, and I do not need to worry about this woman. I pronounce that I will quit relation with that woman and will remain loyal to my lovely and very respectable wife. I will compensate for the cheating I did to her.
I feel repent and will never ever look back to that woman for relation.

Thanks buddy for such an eye opening remakrs/replies and suggestions.

God Bless you all