Mixed feelings about relationship

[HollieRene]

Hey guys. I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about 9 months.Things had been going pretty well, but for the last month or so I guess, I've been getting mixed feelings about the whole thing. He's a great guy, and I can tell that he really loves me, but I'm beginning to feel...trapped, I guess. This had been my first real relationship. He's always talking about Forever together, and to be honest that kind of scares me. I feel like I just can't commit to "forever", but I know that I never want to hurt him. He's so sensitive, I know that it would crush him to pieces. I talked to him about it today, and we decided to take a break so that I can figure this all out, but it kills me because I know this isn't fair to him. Is it fair to him to try and continue in the relationship at all, or are we pretty much doomed? I don't know what I want in life at all, and I feel like it isn't fair to him to string him along while I figure it all out. I honestly don't know where to turn from here or how to find the answers I need. Thanks so much.

[Criseyde]

Hi Hollie, welcome to the forum. I think a break is actually totally valid, especially if you have things to figure out. Being with a guy who was talking about forever would make me feel weird, too. I don't think you're "stringing him along" as long as you're being honest about where your head is in the whole thing. If you let him know what you're thinking, then he can make his own choices based on that.

I'm not sure what you're saying would "crush him to pieces," if you talked to him about it today. Did you tell him that you don't want to commit to forever?

[HollieRene]

Criseyde: Thanks for your reply. I did tell him today that I wasn't able to commit to forever, and he really seemed disappointed. I feel horrible for putting him through this. Maybe I'm over-thinking it though...