I found my LifeMate but...

[Basu]

I simply can't see how to proceed. Let me start the story from the beginning.

I know she's my life mate because we met, got acquainted and I got her number via a number of coincidences that simply could not have been anything except Winks from the Universe (plus a fair bit of manifestation, though I didn't know that then). But the thing is, I don't know how to get our relationship off the ground. Here's the problem: we were in different schools and we live at opposite ends of the city. She's going to be staying in the city for college and to pursue her musical interests, while I'm going to the USA. She doesn't have a computer at home and irregularly checks her email. Finally, I don't think she's looking for a relationship at this moment. (Frankly neither am I, but as I said, she's my Lifemate)

On the flip side, I know we can make it together. We have all sorts of things in common, and yet complement each other as well. I've only met her 4 times, and we weren't even friends then, but since we started calling we've learnt a lot about each other. Nowadays we never talk for less than an hour. Believe me, it's not just a boy after girl thing. She often takes the lead in the conversation and I think she was a tad disappointed when I told her I'd be leaving for the US. And she tells me things that I know I wouldn't tell someone I'd met only 4 times.

So as matters stand, I'm a bit stuck. I don't want to just call her up and say, "Hey you're my mate, we're gonna be together and risk freaking her out", but I don't want to go off to college without progressing beyond hour-long phone calls. I know matters will work out, because the Force is with me, but at the same time, I've lost a number of opportunities in the past due to simple inaction, and I don't want that to happen this time. Some help please?

PS: I've been accepted into Lafayette College, but I'd love to get through the waitlist at Williams College. Any intention/prayers on your part would also be appreciated.

[CoachChar]

Basu,
Sounds like you have an exciting future ahead of you. If you do intend to have this woman be your life mate, I imagine (but won't assume) that you'll want to talk with her about all the important topics and decisions that you make. You could start now by simply telling her that you very much desire the opportunity to keep growing your friendship, even once you've arrived in the US. Ask if she's willing to spend more time with you between now and your departure date. See what she says to that. If she does agree to see you more often, be present in those moments and enjoy them for all they are worth.

If she's as into you as you are into her, she might be willing to do what's necessary to access email more often. Who knows? Maybe she's been thinking about purchasing a computer and hasn't gotten around to it.

Keep in mind that there are other means of communicating such as good, old-fashioned letter writing. I actually think it's quite romantic. You could send hand-written, or typed letters to each other.

My husband and I had a long-distance courtship and engagment. And then after we were married we did not live in the same place for another 4 months. During that time, we ran up a very high long distance telephone bill, and we sent lots of letters and greeting cards. Yes, sometimes it was hard to be so far apart--I was in Maryland and he was in Idaho. However, we made it and I love reading those old love letters that each of us saved. We'll celebrate our 12th wedding anniversary next month!

I encourage you to look to the future with optimism and enthusiasm. Enjoy your overseas college experience and trust yourself to know when and how to act. Above all I encourage you to trust and believe in the Force you alluded to in your original post and allow your intentions to manifest. If at any time it becomes a struggle, consider that you might be complicating matters or working against your purpose and true desires.

All the best to you! Enjoy life at Williams College.

[Simmiah]

Originally Posted by Basu

So as matters stand, I'm a bit stuck. I don't want to just call her up and say, "Hey you're my mate, we're gonna be together and risk freaking her out", but I don't want to go off to college without progressing beyond hour-long phone calls. I know matters will work out, because the Force is with me, but at the same time, I've lost a number of opportunities in the past due to simple inaction, and I don't want that to happen this time. Some help please?

Don't know if I can help but here goes. I met my life mate at 21. A year-long "break" & several strange years later now we're married. He had made a decision to move up to northern Ca while I was in S. Ca finishing my college. I can say, just because you've met a "life mate" or a "close soul" doesn't mean it'll always be easy! Haha.

Anyways I think I am reading some fear in that paragraph I quoted. I can understand if you've had a bad habit of inaction in the past. You don't have to say "life mate" but definitely just let her know you'd like something more. & if it doesn't happen now it's okay to let it go. If it's meant to happen it'll happen. I think there is a saying for this. If you love & let it go & it comes back then it is true love..or something like that.

& btw, both of you will know deep down if you are life mates..I don't think you have to say it out loud because there is so much weight associated with declaring a soul mate or likewise... It was obvious to me & to my husband from the get go. For me I had a familiarity & sense of safety unlike anything I'd ever experienced prior. For him he had dreams of me prior to meeting me. Hmm. Anyways! Good luck with college!