Reversing a breakup

[herrkaninchen]

Anyone of you here ever done this?
or would like to suggest any killer move so that i could get my ex back.


Thanks

[RT Wolf]

That's a very general question. A better question is, why did you break up?

IF the conditions of the breakup that were expressed were the real reasons AND there was a sincere condition that if those reasons were fixed, then MAYBE you can get back together.

There is no "killer move" as far as I know, just as there is no "killer move" to have a great relationship in the first place. Empathy, listening and understanding are required, and not just on a few days a year, every moment you are together.

That, or you could really, really, really rich and lure your ex back.

[herrkaninchen]

the reason we break up honestly because i was a bit pushy and dont understand her.
That is the reason i guess..

I just want to approach her without her senses that I am needy and desperate( of course!) and then work out on the chemistry( yes, chemistry is the most important bit)

[Simmiah]

Originally Posted by herrkaninchen

the reason we break up honestly because i was a bit pushy and dont understand her.
That is the reason i guess..

I just want to approach her without her senses that I am needy and desperate( of course!) and then work out on the chemistry( yes, chemistry is the most important bit)

I am going to be very honest here & I hope you will know this is coming from a well intentioned place on my part

I would actually suggest taking a break from relationships & working on yourself a bit. Maybe read a bit of Steve's interesting articles. Work on some things.

The reason you came off as need & desperate was because you were. & being pushy came from that & in a way that is controlling. I would say you most likely didn't understand her & did not really get to know her & the relationship you want is probably one with someone who may not even exist. Take some time off & ask yourself what is going on with you that you would want to wean your ex back to you... I think the answers will be well worth any struggle & maybe you'll find you didn't want a relationship at all. I would love to say it gets easier but these are things I've struggled with even in my relationship. But it's a great learning experience. Learning to love is something that is indeed challenging & worth it.

[herrkaninchen]

yes, i guess to take time off will be better.Tho i still love her but who knows we might meet again someday with myself has become a different person.

Thanks guys

[Dating Specialist]

Loving someone also means loving her in a way that she wants and makes her feel loved. Obviously, very few girls will want a pushy, demanding and controlling man. Unless she's one who has no personal opinion and can't make decisions at all.

Do we still have such species around? Herrkaninchen, I think it's good that you take this time to ponder over what caused the break up, work on yourself before you start a new relationship.

All the best to you!