Making New Friends

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All my life I have had trouble making friends. Lately, I have been quite content though. I do not dwell on the past. I am greatful for all the friends I did have, no matter how short they lasted or how I was treated. What's the point in being upset? I just tell myself that maybe this is my struggle in life. Friendships.
Now that I am an adult and soon to start a family of my own, I don't have time for real life friendships. I don't have the time to devote to just hanging out etc. But I would enjoy making a few friends online. I had a couple, until they both started avoiding me. I confronted them via e-mail today about a situation that happened two nights ago, where one girl unblocked me and started getting really nosy and asked about the other girl. I wasn't falling for that. I simply said "no comment." And I have been pt on block again.
So, I wonder, where do you make online friends?I have tried chat rooms, which I don't really have time to sit in these days. I have msn and can chat during my workday. I have tried going the e-pen pal route which doesn't seem to work.
I belong to a writers message board and this one. I have made 2 great friends that I e-mail with through the writing one. I am grateful for them.

[CFPurpose]

April, ever heard of Murphy's Law? Simply put, when you want something, you receive the opposite. My point is; you should stop looking to find friends and look within yourself. Once you learn to love yourself, friends will come naturally.

[bellbird]

Meeting people that have similar interests would naturally seem easier to relate and connect to and possibly, be friends with. So if you are wanting to start a family soon, then women in the same boat (babyforum/birth experiences) would be an option for example.
There was a time when I would have liked to have met plenty of friends in a foreign country and it didn't came so easily. I felt a bit lonely then. I have come to learn to be happy by myself since and with the few people I got on with. Since I moved to another city things have changed and I have met several new friends. I wasn't looking for them and not hung up whether I would meet new people or not. I'm happy I met so many new people now, because it is fun, but I know I'm happy by myself too and that's cool. So either way it's great.

(It makes sense people rather be friends with someone who feels good within her/himself and who they can relate to rather then 'needy' people who demand attention, support and listening to etc a lot of the time. I am not saying you are or I was but I have found that generally to make sense in friendships. Good friendships are ones where things are balanced and the fun and occasional drama are part of the package of life where you help eachother versus one of you always being the needy or problem prone one. But I don't call that latter one really being a friendship anyway. It's more like a co-dependant-ship.)