Sexual Polarity

[bd90]

David Deida talks about polarity between the masculine and feminine. I was wondering how in tuned women are to their senses. A man's presence is so important when it comes to dating that I think most men tend to disregard it. I too have been so focused on what to say rather than just being present. As a man, I've been working on developing my presence. I've been doing some "ball breathing". It may sound silly but I was told at a workshop was to imagine you are breathing down to your balls. It actually feels really good and I feel much more sexual energy by doing this. I was told by other women that they can sense this right away.

So I'm curious about this. Are women much more sensitive to men when it comes to subtle shifts in the body? Can women sense a man's presence, whether he is insecure, confident, etc.? And what are the physical sensations that women get when they feel this? Very curious.

[Rachelle]

First off, I think some women are sensitive to this, but not all. I also think that some men are similarly sensitive to such shifts in energy, but not all.

In other words, I don't think it's a matter of women being sensitive to something / men being insensitive to something, but rather a matter of individuals and their individual sensitivities regardless of their sex.

Anyhow, I think what you're talking about is essentially about a 'vibe' that someone gives off or exudes.

You can meet someone for a minute and then have a sense of "wow, that person exuded confidence. I like that!" ... or perhaps, "Wow... what was wrong with that person? They seemed so insecure." ... etc, etc. There are tons of potential variations.

If you believe in energy fields and chakras and such, then it would make sense that "breathing into your balls" would have the effect of making you feel more present and sexual. That would essentially be activating your root chakra, which is not only related to sexual energy, but also related to being grounded and physically present.

As for your question, "What are the physical sensations that women get when they feel this?" ...I'd say it's probably the same way a man would pick up on someone's vibe. If you meet another man who happened to be giving off a vibe of sexual presence and confidence, it would likely feel that way to you as it would to a woman.

You can think of it like energy fields intermingling and coming into contact with each other. And that information picked up from another's energy field is being sent to and interpreted by your brain. You don't consciously pick up on another person's vibe... it just happens. It's the same way someone can tell someone else is in a bad mood. Some vibes are more subtle than others, but they're still there.

[metamorph]

Originally Posted by bd90

David Deida talks about polarity between the masculine and feminine. I was wondering how in tuned women are to their senses. A man's presence is so important when it comes to dating that I think most men tend to disregard it. I too have been so focused on what to say rather than just being present. As a man, I've been working on developing my presence. I've been doing some "ball breathing".

So I'm curious about this. Are women much more sensitive to men when it comes to subtle shifts in the body? Can women sense a man's presence, whether he is insecure, confident, etc.?

Sure presence is really important. I can go out with the same clothes, haircut, cologne and the reactions from women are vastly different and depend on my vibe and presence/subcommunication. Does not require blowing up my balls though (Deida is a freakshow )

[bd90]

Thanks for your response. The whole chakra thing is new to me. I've been doing some research on it. Do you have any recommendations on opening up one's sex chakra?

[Lionman]

Deida's right on the money when it comes to this stuff.

Ball breathing is effective as you have found yourself, also what you can do is project outwards from your penis like you have a giant etheric erection penetrating the world. If you think people feel your ball breathing presence, wait until you try this one!

Rachelle's right about the chakras. Most guys are stuck in their heads. When you're stuck in your head you have little presence in the world.

[bd90]

I am having fun doing this type of breathing. It feels really good. But I find that when I try to do this and do something else at the same time I get distracted and forget to stay present. Does this get better over time? Any suggestions?

[Lionman]

Yeah, with practice pretty much anything gets better over time.

But be aware that depending on what you're doing, you are using different parts of your body. For instance, if you're doing a maths equation then your forehead will be more active which is normal, because you're doing something logical. You don't do maths from your balls. And you can probably think of a lot more examples right now.

If you think back to school days, there's a reason the 'jock types' usually aren't great and science and maths and all that stuff but tend to be pretty good with girls, instincts and dominating interactions. They're more balls orientated and vibing on the lower levels of their body. The 'geek types' are in their heads and tend to do better with science and fantasy comic book stuff. These are examples of extremes.

Know when to use your balls, when to use your head and anything in between. There are times when either is useful depending on what you want from life.

Originally Posted by bd90

I am having fun doing this type of breathing. It feels really good. But I find that when I try to do this and do something else at the same time I get distracted and forget to stay present. Does this get better over time? Any suggestions?

[BurningMan]

Originally Posted by metamorph

Sure presence is really important. I can go out with the same clothes, haircut, cologne and the reactions from women are vastly different and depend on my vibe and presence/subcommunication. Does not require blowing up my balls though (Deida is a freakshow )

When I started doing just some base level breathing practices on top of presence my attraction and connection with women went tenfold at least.

It was truly amazing - I was literally fighting them off - and I wasn't even trying to get attention.

Women are INCREDIBLY sensitive to so much 'subliminal' stuff that we as men couldn't even begin to imagine. Even the slightest kink in your behaviour (that you aren't even the slightest bit aware of - yet) could be make or break.

How about you forget the fancy clothes, haircut and cologne and just breathe - try it - see what happens.

Then you might attract a woman for who you truly show up as in the moment and not for the superficial stuff you're putting out there.

[Fred Tracy]

Psychologically speaking, women 2-3x more faculties in their brain devoted to decryption of body language, emotions, vibe, and all that intuitive junk.

It's the same with language capabilities, which is why you should never argue with a woman!

Now.. as for vibes vs "fake" stuff like clothes, money, pick up lines, etc., you should go for the vibe every time.

I had a friend who could pick up any woman he wanted to. He was a genuine genius whose charisma was only shadowed by an amazing sense of love he had for everyone. He was awesome.

He also happened to wear oversized clothes, sometimes even skirts, hadn't shaved in a year or so, weighed 300+, and more. It didn't matter. Everyone LOVED him.

As it turns out, he was celibate (at the age of 24), so sex didn't matter much to him. He's actually pretty indescribable, but serves as the best example of someone who had his "inner game" handled to such a degree that his "outer game" didn't matter at all.

[votoshka]

Oh...I think I missed those decryption genes LOL... I seriously have none Don't assume that ALL women are good at reading body language etc. Some of us are just useless at it

[BurningMan]

Originally Posted by votoshka

Oh...I think I missed those decryption genes LOL... I seriously have none Don't assume that ALL women are good at reading body language etc. Some of us are just useless at it

Hey votoshka

You got 'the genes' or whatever you may choose to call them, you just may not be used to using them, or 'reading' people confidently...but I bet you can.

If I lined up 10 guys in front of you, I'm sure you'd be able to pick out the one you'd most trust to walk you home, the one you'd talk to about personal stuff, the one you'd most likely enjoy intimate time with and the one you'd least likely date....even if none of the guys were allowed to speak.

You'd tell just by 'feeling' them from a distance.

True?

We all have this. Fred Tracy was simply saying women have the dials turned up to much higher sensitivity than men.

[elucidate]

Originally Posted by votoshka

Oh...I think I missed those decryption genes LOL... I seriously have none Don't assume that ALL women are good at reading body language etc. Some of us are just useless at it

Yeah, I'm not that good at it either.

[Fred Tracy]

I knew I'd commented on this one before.

I have a cool little story to share.

I've recently been spending all my time around people. While I score extraverted on myers-briggs, it's a lie. I am psychologically an introvert, so I gotta recharge my batteries alone, or at least spend some time being quiet around people.

I've been spending my "quiet phases" around a particular girl quite often. Luckily, she's a chatter box, so she talks more than enough for both of us (or more). The thing is, not only do I not worry about what I'm going to say, but I don't even really talk much around her. She doesn't care at all, she's fine with it.

It's not how much you say, it's just how you say it. Presence and being congruent with your vibe are supreme. Remember James Bond? Not much of a talker, right? John Wayne? Yep.

What did they have in common? They were badass mofos who were absolutely tuned in with their reality. I'd wager that they were pretty present too, and were probably breathing from their balls since infancy.