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11-24-2010, 10:08 PM
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| Family Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Windsor Ontario Canada
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  |  The Manchild
I took the dating persona test on OK cupid and I'm the Manchild I know the test are meant to be fun but it hit too close to home. My own mother has told me I'm well intention and I know I don't really have it together especially when it come to dating but the part that hurts the most about the there write up on the Manchild is there would like me consider not using there site. It sound like there trying to get rid of me but I know its just a caned response to a test. I'm adult enough to know that its ok to use there site and that I big step for me but I have a hard time with facing my short coming. I don't know if I have a question at all but I just get trigger easily sometimes. my view is the best way to learn something is by doing and I want to date although I wonder if it is really worth it. Scott [/QUOTE]Hopeful. Awkward. Soft-headed. Fire intrigues you. You are The Manchild. Okay, Manchildren have some good qualities. They can be unpredictable, brash, magnetic—and therefore highly charismatic. Particularly, you’re passionate and are often a hell of a lot of fun. But we’d like you to consider not using OkCupid. You can be unthinking and hurtful, and we think you LIKE seeing bad things happen. You’ve had a moderate number of relationships, but broken a disproportionate number of hearts. In total, you mean well, but don’t really have it together. It’s up to you, of course, whether to continue dating. There are plenty of women out there who do deserve you. But you’ve heard our advice. If you stay ... [QUOTE] |
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11-24-2010, 10:17 PM
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What?  I can't believe that. I have never read an unkind word from you Scott. I really admire your courage to do dating and make things happen for you. I don't think you should give up. There's too many people in this world that give up too easily.What test is this? I have an OK cupid account I might try it. You'd think they'd want more users on the site. There's probably others out there like you who would get this response and just give up. |
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11-24-2010, 11:27 PM
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like I say the profile hits close to home I'm well intention and I have a lot of fear and anger but I turn out quite genital but I have came to the realization that I don't have a strong core other people opinions both good and bad effect me too much but in the past I would not except the good so I'm moving in the right direction. I hurt people mostly by withdrawing. I have started reading Dr. Phil book self matters and I talks about being your authentic self. I don't want to do what people expect of my any more and live my life in a way that will make me happy. I was never aloud to be teenager or I thought I could not be a teenager or I would disappoint every one. Thanks for the kind words Scott | |
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11-24-2010, 11:58 PM
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So, if I were you, I'd ignore it! It sounds rather like rubbish to me  There may be parts of the description that are like you...but I think you're focussing on those rather than the main parts, which don't sound like you at all. The manchild to me seems like the "love them and leave them" kinda guy, who goes around breaking female hearts wherever he goes. I think you perhaps feel "immature" or "inexperienced" for your age, which is why the term "manchild" seems to agree with your personality...but I don't think it actually DOES. Last edited by votoshka; 11-25-2010 at 12:00 AM. | |
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11-25-2010, 12:28 AM
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 It sounds like those descriptions were written by some teenage girl with a bad attitude. I wouldn't believe it says anything about you at all. Time for a better dating site. | |
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11-25-2010, 01:59 AM
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Hey Scott, aka Manchild. Sounds like you're beating yourself up too much about a perspective view of yourself. It's not necessarily bad to be "man childish". Sure there are some downsides. Same as being too "manish". No one appreciates being married to someone too serious. But I guess likewise being manchild is being too... carefree? I don't think you're alone. I think MOST people are man children. We are all kind of immature in our own ways. For good measure I checked out the test and tried it myself... I got "the boy next door". Which I guess is kind of true. Being manchild isn't bad and it can be attractive to the right woman. Who knows, the one "meant for you" may love manchild's. Someone who is carefree and can travel the world with. I've been told I'm too serious, so being playful is good in someways. Just use those strengths and go with it. |
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