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10-18-2010, 04:41 PM
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LOL, I posted this in someone elses thread, how embarrassing. So here's the problem. I want sex. and I also want a relationship. or so I think I do... I don't really know what I want. so I'm gonna jot a couple of things down to get my mind straightened out. I have never had a relationship or sex before. But I know I can get if I just get off my lazy a** and work for it. I wanna have relationships with girls but I don't want to be stuck to the same person for ever, well unless I like them..sex eh, I just want it because it feels good.  I know am capable of loving someone.. finally, because I have been getting rid of repressed emotions. I can love anyone male or female.(No not like that!) I'm very unsocial and awkward around girls but I'm working on it. lol I used to be at the (They're human too!? stage) So.. I was hanging out with a friend at the game and he was busy hugging girls and I was like "Are they your friends?" he responds "No." I looked at him like he was crazy "What? you don't know them?" "Nah, I just walk up to random girls and hug them for fun!" I was like wow. It may seem stupid but admired that. So I have decided this. I'm gonna flirt/talk to every girl I meet when I get the chance to whether, I think they are hot or not. Just to get better with talking with women.. hmm still don't know what I want yet... Last edited by Dallaz; 10-18-2010 at 09:03 PM. |
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10-18-2010, 06:42 PM
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It wasn't clear of what I wanted from this post: I want your opinion on the situation, and if you can share experiences of being with shy/inexperienced guys. I want to know how to find out if I just want sex or a relationship, and if my solution is set up for success or failure.(or can be improved) What would you recommend for my situation? |
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10-18-2010, 08:33 PM
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I'm in the same boat and I will ramble on for a bit. but don't expect to get much wisdom out of me. long story but I have repressed my sexual feels all my life but I do masturbate. I have just lost my virginity this year and I did not like it much. but now I feel the need to be dating. I have spent all my life alone and can't imagine living with anyone. So that why I say I want to date I want more that a friendship but I don't know about a relationship. I have had female friends in the past and I was clueless about dating I could know a lady for many months or a year and then they would tell how great the sex was with someone they just meet. I felt very hurt. I hear ladies say all the time that all men want is sex and so I thought I was being a gentleman but I was too afraid I thought I was bad for wanting sex and sex is something you do after you got married. I just did not want to deal with it. In the past I started reading books on dating and I was shock that it said on average that people usually have sex by the third date. I could not believe it. How was I to know if you have never dated before and I talk to girls at church about it and they just laughed at me most guys are trying to have sex with the girl on the first date. I just feel so disconnected and defective. I have start to change my behavior by smiling making eye contact and say hello to girls on the street. I'm starting to flirt and sometime say things without thinking, most girls like it. At the gym the receptionist that I have known for a year I have only talk to her a few times but I'm sure she know I like her and we where talking and she was talking about getting in to better shape and I said with out thinking and I was so embarrass "I have always liked your shape Sarah" She just smile and said thank you and we kept on talk no big deal. Scott |
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10-18-2010, 09:17 PM
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10-18-2010, 09:31 PM
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There's your line. Be casual, don't think of her sexually. Just befriend her, and if you really like her as a person and dream about her at night (lmfao), then go for it. Otherwise, keep her as your friend, someone to have coffee with, someone to talk to, someone to go to the bar with, just a friend. Last edited by NDN Scholar; 10-18-2010 at 09:33 PM. | |
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10-18-2010, 10:09 PM
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In fact the one that was a nurse she was a very nice lady and attractive too and the one time we where hugging and I got an erection and I freak out and I pulled away from her. So I told her what happen the next time I saw her and she said I kind of wonder about that, like not big deal your a man. she seem very pleased with herself that I had gotten an erection. I think when your a virgin your in unknown territory but all the other people around think sex is nice but its no big deal. I have not gotten to its a not big deal yet. like I said I only did it once. I lack the skills to find the person I want to be with. Scott Last edited by scotthegeek; 10-18-2010 at 10:14 PM. | |
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10-18-2010, 10:48 PM
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Yeah I know its no big deal. I just want to get it over with. Quote:
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10-19-2010, 01:21 AM
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If you let yourself feel the feeling it will feel uncomfortable at first. but you will blush and put goofy smile on your face and gaze into her eyes. you need to crawl before you walk. I think everyone has to go through puppy love and infatuation and not have shame and fear get in the way to develop normally sexually. I would worry too much about what girls thinks and I still do for the most part and I still have a long way to go. But there has been times when I acted the way I describe and girls just like it when they know I guy is interested in them. When I say its no big deal I'm taking about other people not you and me. Its a matter survival you have not been able to pass on your genes its hard wired in the brain no sex means your going to die out. Scott Last edited by scotthegeek; 10-19-2010 at 03:02 AM. | |
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10-20-2010, 12:25 AM
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Hey Dallaz,  VinceG started a pretty simple thread that gets down to the basics of getting laid. VinceG's Guide to Getting Laid This should at least push you in the right direction, if not handle the situation completely. |
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