People are Acting Strange Around Me

[Cyn]

More and more people are talking to me, telling me their life story, and clinging to me. This doesn't sound that strange at all, does it? Well, it is... very.

To understand why this is confusing me, I should tell you that I'm the type of person that's very bluntly honest to the point where it is a miracle I have friends, I'm a loner, I have delayed social responses, and may come across as someone uptight and antisocial at first. I should be very unlikable!

So why, on the first day of school, has someone, after exchanging no more than a few sentences with me, clung to me? She tells me her story, makes it a priority to call me until I tell her that I don't like talking over the phone, keeps me company everyday in classes we share, searches for me after homeroom, and takes an interest in my well-being. Why did a store clerk (who is only a little older than me) take an unusual amount of liking to me, after I say, "Hey,"? The list of people that make an effort to be more than just an acquaintance to me or want me nearby them as much as possible goes on and on. English teachers have stopped me after-class to give me unique compliments, my mom wants me near her at all times (she claims that it makes her feel better), and a new student that I've never noticed runs out of her house as I pass, says to be my classmate, asks to go to the library with me, has me wait outside for her, tells me not to leave her at the library, and overreacts when I've gone out of sight! While at the library, yet ANOTHER strange thing happened! A young man, sits next to us after being called over by the girl I've just mentioned. After, I acknowledge him, he proceeds to tell me about his life, his troubles, and the city that he came from. While I kind of like being confided in and appreciated, it's still very strange. I included the details, so that it's easier to understand the situation. Though, you probably didn't want them.

I don't mind all of this (I actually enjoy hearing their stories!) but it's confusing. A theory as to why all these people are coming in to my life would be appreciated.

[hiddenmaverick]

I want to have your problem! I bet you must have opened up and let go of quite a few walls, and people are noticing the change.

[ssandra]

Originally Posted by hiddenmaverick

I want to have your problem! I bet you must have opened up and let go of quite a few walls, and people are noticing the change.

Me too!! Give me your problem please!!

[LostMyMap]

Originally Posted by Cyn

I should be very unlikable!

Apparently no one else believes this!!!

[Gals]

Though indeed it can be confusing or might be strange, but hell yeah! Bring it on! Just enjoy on this new found attention and life. Though it will take a while getting used to, enjoy it!

[Catlady72]

Hey Cyn that does sound good...personally I think it may be your inner strength that is attracting these people, maybe you come across as being like a rock, dependable I mean - but sounds very good, all these people must like you a lot...when I saw the title of your thread I thought it was a bad thing! But it sounds fine, keep it up and thank you for helping me last night too...

[spacecadetglow]

The same thing is happening to me.

It's our Awesomeness. Plain and simple.

[Cyn]

Wow, I got a lot of replies

Originally Posted by hiddenmaverick

I want to have your problem! I bet you must have opened up and let go of quite a few walls, and people are noticing the change.

I'll think about what "walls" I've let down. Though, I think I put up more. Thanks

Originally Posted by ssandra

Me too!! Give me your problem please!!

No

Originally Posted by LostMyMap

Apparently no one else believes this!!!

Everyone else has pretty bad judgment. (just joking)

Originally Posted by Gals

Though indeed it can be confusing or might be strange, but hell yeah! Bring it on! Just enjoy on this new found attention and life. Though it will take a while getting used to, enjoy it!

I should just shut up and enjoy it while it lasts, huh? Sounds like a good plan

Originally Posted by Catlady72

Hey Cyn that does sound good...personally I think it may be your inner strength that is attracting these people, maybe you come across as being like a rock, dependable I mean - but sounds very good, all these people must like you a lot...when I saw the title of your thread I thought it was a bad thing! But it sounds fine, keep it up and thank you for helping me last night too...

The odd thing is that I'm not dependable at all. Thank you, though; You're compliment made me smile.

Thanks and you're welcome

Originally Posted by spacecadetglow

The same thing is happening to me.

It's our Awesomeness. Plain and simple.

Awesomeness for the win. Wait. Isn't awesomeness suppose to create haters?

[mindset]

Your description of being an unlikeable person might be very contradicting to how you really are towards them or even your looks might be misleading to strangers (You're probably good looking ). That's certainly a great skill to possess, it's difficult to be a likeable person without putting much effort to it. I'd trade to have your skill, tbh.

[maxkhristov]

It usually happens at certain moon phase cycles. Each cycle is four days long. You're probably more attuned to yourself and are beginning to notice.

Check this out - The Lunar Planner Site Map - I've been reading over it once every few days for the past 2 months now and when I look back on my days, it feels like clockwork when people are outgoing, when you are, etc.,

But do enjoy that all sorts of people are talking to you. It's easy to talk and listen to only people that you choose. Maybe someone's trying to break down the walls for you and show you a glimpse of a fuller life

[billionairekid]

Have you considered that there is something subtle, like an energy you're unconsciously projecting, that may be attracting these people to you? Maybe they align with your loner attitude and its a way of "god" saying WAKE UP. Maybe you have something to offer these people and you aren't aware of it yet.

[Lauxa]

Maybe because you are not needy and clingy yourself so people are comfortable attaching to you?

[Cyn]

Originally Posted by mindset

Your description of being an unlikeable person might be very contradicting to how you really are towards them or even your looks might be misleading to strangers (You're probably good looking ). That's certainly a great skill to possess, it's difficult to be a likeable person without putting much effort to it. I'd trade to have your skill, tbh.

If I look good to others and that's why they're attaching themselves to me then more people judge off of looks than I thought.

My skill of unconsciously fooling people into believinng that I'm good company? What would you trade it for?

Originally Posted by maxkhristov

It usually happens at certain moon phase cycles. Each cycle is four days long. You're probably more attuned to yourself and are beginning to notice.

Check this out - The Lunar Planner Site Map - I've been reading over it once every few days for the past 2 months now and when I look back on my days, it feels like clockwork when people are outgoing, when you are, etc.,

But do enjoy that all sorts of people are talking to you. It's easy to talk and listen to only people that you choose. Maybe someone's trying to break down the walls for you and show you a glimpse of a fuller life

It's more than 4 days long for me. The strange behavior has been day after day, week after week, increasingly, for a while now. Thanks for the link. It looks pretty interesting. I'll check it out. Maybe I'll learn why people with magick-based religions/occults/spiritualities/yougetthepoint celebrate or do rituals on a certain moon phase.

Originally Posted by billionairekid

Have you considered that there is something subtle, like an energy you're unconsciously projecting, that may be attracting these people to you? Maybe they align with your loner attitude and its a way of "god" saying WAKE UP. Maybe you have something to offer these people and you aren't aware of it yet.

I like how you worded that

That was actually one of the first things that I considered. These people that I'm attracting don't seem like loners, and I'm having trouble thinking of something that I could have been broadcasting that would get others to come to me. I'm not sending out "I want and deserve company" broadcasts or any broadcasts that would suggest that I'm good company. The only broadcast that could be causing this is maybe me sending out the fact that... Excuse me, I'm going to hit myself in the head with a very thick book repeatedly. I'm officially stupid. I just typed and backspaced a good 5 things that I'm broadcasting at least half of the time that would attract others.

Thanks for helping me clarify why people act strange around me. I guess I knew on some level all along.

Originally Posted by Lauxa

Maybe because you are not needy and clingy yourself so people are comfortable attaching to you?

Thanks but billionairekid's theory rings true, in this situation. No more confusion.

Does not being needy and clingy usually attract others? It seems to me that most actually LIKE having friends that call them twice a day, always remember their birthday, take their feelings too seriously, etc. and expect the same in return.

[Cyn]

Thanks for all the theories, guys. You've been cool. Now, I can see why I'm attracting so many people, and just go with what's happening without my confusion itching at me.

[Person Isac]

Originally Posted by Cyn

More and more people are talking to me, telling me their life story, and clinging to me. This doesn't sound that strange at all, does it? Well, it is... very.

To understand why this is confusing me, I should tell you that I'm the type of person that's very bluntly honest to the point where it is a miracle I have friends, I'm a loner, I have delayed social responses, and may come across as someone uptight and antisocial at first. I should be very unlikable!

So why, on the first day of school, has someone, after exchanging no more than a few sentences with me, clung to me? She tells me her story, makes it a priority to call me until I tell her that I don't like talking over the phone, keeps me company everyday in classes we share, searches for me after homeroom, and takes an interest in my well-being. Why did a store clerk (who is only a little older than me) take an unusual amount of liking to me, after I say, "Hey,"? The list of people that make an effort to be more than just an acquaintance to me or want me nearby them as much as possible goes on and on. English teachers have stopped me after-class to give me unique compliments, my mom wants me near her at all times (she claims that it makes her feel better), and a new student that I've never noticed runs out of her house as I pass, says to be my classmate, asks to go to the library with me, has me wait outside for her, tells me not to leave her at the library, and overreacts when I've gone out of sight! While at the library, yet ANOTHER strange thing happened! A young man, sits next to us after being called over by the girl I've just mentioned. After, I acknowledge him, he proceeds to tell me about his life, his troubles, and the city that he came from. While I kind of like being confided in and appreciated, it's still very strange. I included the details, so that it's easier to understand the situation. Though, you probably didn't want them.

I don't mind all of this (I actually enjoy hearing their stories!) but it's confusing. A theory as to why all these people are coming in to my life would be appreciated.

Hahaha! Story of my life. Never underestimate the value of a good listener.