Do you get called "hysterical"?

[Cochonette]

I've heard this a lot: when a male-presenting person transitions to woman, there is an experience of decline in social status. When the opposite happens, there is an incline. I read on one woman's blog that when she transitioned to male, her status in the queer women's community went up; when she decided that was wrong for her a year or two later and transitioned back, her status went back down. Now that she identifies as a heterosexual woman, she is considered too masculine by the heterosexual community.

One of my friends is intersexed, was raised as a boy, and had to transition to female when she was 20. She dated a few men, but then decided she was only interested in women. She said that when she was considered a man, all she had to do to be taken seriously by men was talk in an authoritative tone. Now if she does that she gets told that she's being "hysterical" and "listen to reason!" when, according to her, the men talking to her haven't a clue what they're talking about - and she knows a lot more now 9-10 years after transitioning than she did before transitioning, and still gets treated this way. She also said that going out in public on a heterosexual date resulted in people mostly only directing questions at the man instead of her.

Now, as cissexual people, I'm sure it's harder to notice such things, but I was wondering if people here find they are told by men often that they are "hysterical" and less capable of reasoning? 'cause I personally can't think of many occasions of this happening to me (not that I doubt it happening to her), but I also don't present in a very feminine way, I tend to be quiet around people I am not familiar with, and I mostly hang out with politically radical people on the left (not just "liberal"). That may also have to do with a learned quietness related to social conditioning, but I can't say for sure.