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03-11-2007, 06:44 AM
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 Strange situation - irratonal fears??? Hello, Firstly I want to sorry for my English, because I am not a native speaker. So, I have some problems with my social skills and I really want to fix it. I don't know whether there are any people in this world, who have the same strange fears  By the look I am pretty confident guy, but I have some strange fears. One of them are to go out - I'm afraid of meeting people. I don't know what is it, but I am afraid of that. I am even afraid of going in my balcony and just read there, because I don't want that other people will see me The same situation is when I am going in the city and it looks to me that everybody is looking and me. Especially if I am going with my dad or my mum. I don't know why, but I have the stigma of going with my parents (but they are really cool!). When I am going with my friends it is lil' bit easier for me. The next strange fear - to talk with people on telephone. Especially if those people are senior to me. I got scared when the phone rings and my heart is knocking. Any ideas how to fix these problems? I would be really really grateful if you could help me a litle bit. Thanks!
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03-11-2007, 09:57 PM
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03-12-2007, 04:13 AM
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| I really want to practise everyday and I am not afraid of hard work, but I don't know what to do. Should I read more; visualize or just go there and try to act like "the best me"? But believe me it is very hard to go there and act completely different. It is easy to said. But I would be particularly happy and grateful, if you could share your own ways, how you became free. What's your solution? PS: Thanks for encouraging!
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03-12-2007, 07:15 PM
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| My answer is: try everything. That's why I wrote it will require time and dedication. I literally used every technique I could find on the internet. NLP, visualisation, affirmations, self-hypnosis, writing goals, reading, writing journals, you name it, I tried it. Don't push yourself out there for now. Start educating yourself about your problem. You may want to change your self-image first. I suggest you read Psycho-Cybernetics: Amazon.com: Psycho-Cybernetics, A New Way to Get More Living Out of Life: Books: F.I.C.S. Maxwell Maltz. It's a book written by a surgeon which discovered that the problem of his patients was not that they were ugly but because they THOUGHT they were ugly.
__________________ moviestar In your hopelessness is the only hope, and in your desirelessness is your only fulfillment, and in your tremendous helplessness suddenly the whole existence starts helping you. |
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03-13-2007, 05:51 PM
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| Thank you very much moviestar! Ill do it! PS: maybe here are some other people who would be able to share their thoughts about this situation? 
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03-13-2007, 06:20 PM
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| One more question to moviestar: Can you say how much time did you spend on this social goal each day? Personally, I planned to work with myself 1 hour in the morning, 20 minutes in the middle of the day and 1 hour and 15 minutes in evening. What do you think?
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