Alone

[ssandra]

Originally Posted by RedRain

I don't know if this is too personal a question, but do you have sex outside marriage often? Every once in a while?

If you do, is it hard to separate that from a love relationship or not?

Also, do you tell the person that you are married and that you don't want any kind of relationship or whatever?

funny enough, we've been together 6 years (wow that's long!! ) and I think I've had sex once or twice outside of my marriage and twice it was a "joint effort".

I think now things have stabilized a bit more I will look for someone who I can be "friends with benefits" with. Because my sex drive and my husbands is a bit different, that will actually benefit us both.

It has never been difficult for me to separate sex from feelings. For me sex is just interesting and entertaining exercise that you do with 2 or more people.

I will always tell the person that I'm married, and will always tell them that I will not, under any circumstance get involved in any kind of relationship. If they cannot handle that, too bad, no sex for them.

I believe honesty is very important here. I will not sneak around, so if they have a spouse that doesn't know, I will not have sex with them either.