Is it possible to get a 10 girl if u are just 5

[srikant]

I am glad i found this forum .There are so many gorgeous chicks out here in manipal, india. But i hold myself back from acting cuz i wud give myself 5 all over , includin looks,social status and fun factor. Ok maybe 5 for status and 7 for looks and fun. overall 6 we can assume. Is it possible to get a 9 or 10 girl. has anyone ever succeeded in this. And if yes how , id love to get replies to this post

[AlmostGodess]

What do you mean by a 9 or 10 girl?

[Kishka]

With the attitude that you are a '5', um, no, you're not going to get that girl..

[moonrambler]

I think you have to look at it from the 10 girl's point of view. Why would she want a 5 or 6 guy? Can't you do something to improve your overall number?

[secondevolution]

Find a friend who's a 5 and agree to share her.

[Plays With Life]

Originally Posted by secondevolution

Find a friend who's a 5 and agree to share her.

Lmao! Then she'll get 10 overall. Good idea.

[ssandra]

As long as you care to think in numbers, both about yourself and your future partner (or one night stand), no, you won't get a ten girl. You'd be lucky to have a 5 girl...

When you stop thinking about numbers and starting seeing real people, you can and will find someone who is just perfect for you, and who will like you for who you are and you will like her for who she is, and you'll be each others 10.

[Ceoarob]

Originally Posted by secondevolution

Find a friend who's a 5 and agree to share her.

Bloody Genius.

Reminds me of this quote by Richard Pryor,

"I never ****ed a ten, but one night, I ****ed five twos."

[Angela]

From my perspective, if you're rating yourself as compared to others, and you're rating your prospective partners as compared to others, on any scale, then you're absent -- you're not being present in the moment. The people who will be attracted into your orbit will be other absent people - people whose choices complement your own.

Then again, if your criteria for a partner (sexual, romantic, or otherwise) are limited to looks, social status, and fun factor -- not factoring in things like values, purpose, attitude, and beliefs, then it probably won't be a problem for you to have partners who are absent.

Ignoring those factors, and measuring a prospective partner against the limited qualities of others, doesn't strike me as particularly "smart," though -- even if your idea of a partner is limited to just sex partners. By doing so, you're setting yourself up to be one of the posters who whines about how they never saw this (devastation/heartbreak/rip-off/disappointment/STD) coming.

[bunnyman]

The "10" number, like infinity, is not a real number.

When you rate someone as "10," you are saying that person is perfect, flawless, and beyond criticism. You put that person on an unreachable pedestal, and put yourself beneath them. Since no real people are perfect, nobody should actually rate a "10."

If you rated yourself as "10," then you would deserve other "10" people, but since nobody is perfect, then nobody is good enough for you. And anyway, you cannot be "10" since nobody is without flaws.

You can be a "9" by doing your best to try to reach "10." You never reach "10" but moving towards it is what life is all about.

Steve expands on this idea in: How to Get From a 7 to a 10

[TiffyLove]

The number you assign her and the number you assign yourself is subjective. Once you know that and truly understand the power in that, you can make her a 7 and you a 7.

Just like that.

[brendannz]

If you rate yourself as half the value that she is, then you're probably not able to get her..

[Beatific]

And no one quotes "She's Out of My League?" 0_o

Seriously though, all the advice about confidence and whatever else are great, the hardest part of your equation is the social status. There are a certain amount of people, it is my belief, that refuse to allow themselves to be with someone not in their social circle: their filial piety or socioeconomic rhetoric prevents it. I felt the same ceiling when I was younger. My solution: I got mad, went to school, and broke into that social group.
I am not saying this is a feasible option; I am just saying is a more-than-likely reality if you want to snag a New York blond tax attorney.

[180]

Believe me, 10 girls have problems just like the rest of us.

On the surface, everything seems nice and dandy. She's pretty, rich, or whatever...

AND BAAM she has full blown bi-polar depression and threatens to cut herself if you don't let her move in.

True story. I won't get into it. But uh.... try to watch out for that "halo" effect. More often than not the people who seem perfect actually have the deepest and most scariest set of problems and insecurities.

[marinik]

From what I can tell you are pretty young and this attitude is normal. Specially if movies and TV is your source of information and education, specially Bollywood.

But to get back to your question this happens very often that a 5 gets a 10 in any "direction" a 5 girls can get a 10 boy just the same. And the answer is so simple, nobody approaches the 10's or just real jerks so when a normal guy approaches a 10 she will give him attention and he has a chance - the rest is his "fun factor" as you call it, and I suppose social status in India - this I can't judge coming from Europe, although my best friend is from Mumbai!

But if you stick around here long enough I hope you will learn that there is much more to looks and fun factors that it meets the eye.

Originally Posted by srikant

I am glad i found this forum .There are so many gorgeous chicks out here in manipal, india. But i hold myself back from acting cuz i wud give myself 5 all over , includin looks,social status and fun factor. Ok maybe 5 for status and 7 for looks and fun. overall 6 we can assume. Is it possible to get a 9 or 10 girl. has anyone ever succeeded in this. And if yes how , id love to get replies to this post

[pyrogen]

I'm sure you could get a 10 girl.

In the "real world", whenever I see girls who practically look like models, for some reason they're with men who are *2s*... you're three points better than a 2.

Except I don't buy this whole rating system anyway.

[Solipsist]

Originally Posted by ssandra

When you stop thinking about numbers and starting seeing real people, you can and will find someone who is just perfect for you, and who will like you for who you are and you will like her for who she is, and you'll be each others 10.

Quoted for its veracity. (And nicely put, ssandra )

Also, to echo Marinik, apparently, you are young, as I haven't even heard such a question since I was in junior high school. Of course, there's nothing wrong with being young, (the key is to stay young at heart) but as you mature, you will realize that even what you initially thought was a '10' can quickly turn out to be a '2', and vice-versa. Though first impressions tend to be the most effective, they can also be misleading.

The sooner you can cease judging people at all, the sooner you can really Love them for who they are, then numbers won't even cross your mind.

[Chris59]

The best advice is to get out there and meet loads of people. Find out who you have things in common with. Avoid putting others on a pedestal as that is a recipe for disaster and will end up in disappointment. Just be yourself. understand what you have to offer others and cultivate it.

[metamorph]

Originally Posted by TiffyLove

The number you assign her and the number you assign yourself is subjective. Once you know that and truly understand the power in that, you can make her a 7 and you a 7.

Just like that.

Amen!

...but anyway forget numbering people (on that topic hotornot.com is without a doubt the most stupid and self-depreciating website that ever existed)

[Guard]

Originally Posted by srikant

I am glad i found this forum .There are so many gorgeous chicks out here in manipal, india. But i hold myself back from acting cuz i wud give myself 5 all over , includin looks,social status and fun factor. Ok maybe 5 for status and 7 for looks and fun. overall 6 we can assume. Is it possible to get a 9 or 10 girl. has anyone ever succeeded in this. And if yes how , id love to get replies to this post

Just be yourself, and the right person will be drawn to you like a magnet. Don't use a social scale to define things. That's not reaity. By that method, someone might be a 6 in appearance, 5 fun, 2 in social status, but on a soul level, they are a very loud 10.

[munish]

I think he is a teenager or in his early twenties and being misguided by Pick Up Artists.

[Gordo]

haha,

duude lol

ok, ill sum this up for you. if ur a 5, your likely to only get a 5. k that ones true

but what hell is a 5?

What im gonna say is improve yourself from the inside to make that number go up BY YOUR STANDARDS. Forget what social conditioning suggests to you what is attractive, most of the time its wrong. never get ur reference experiences for how to live your life or how to act from movies, EVER! haha. Seriously that’s other peoples ‘stuff’, create your own

Perception is reality. People give celebrities status and power without ever meeting them. walk into a club like u own it and ppl will buy into your frame (they will believe u do)
> become a 10 BY YOUR STANDARDS and u will be a 10. u will suck people into your reality

have value in your own eyes. Eliminate any neediness or dependence and become a mature person. People will naturally gravitate towards you

peace,

[srikant]

thanks for all your comments, yes its a mistake to put myself down before approaching someone and assuming they are perfect 10 .

One question i wanted to ask you guys is abt the smartness thing. For example, if i am in front of my closest friends and sisters etc, i am always funny and smart and making jokes in the blink of an eye. But when i am in large groups or with other girls i get self conscious and my ability to mix freely and produce good conservation gets marred. And later i hate myself for that. I dunno what the problem is, strangers, big groups, beautiful women , And secure people with a dynamic personality scare me. I dunno why

[Gordo]

Hey, its to do with value
u know u have value in the friends situation. its obvious, cuz they give u acceptance

when with girls or large groups u dont feel u have enough value to be worthy of their company. U freeze up when u want something. u maybe want their approval. Do u freeze up when talking to your 5year old niece? NO haha

Soon as u drop all neediness, dependence and realize u bring enormous value to the situation (innately) u will be free, promise

ur mind auto-locks you out from accessing the cool parts of your personality when it perceives u dont have value

it perceives it by pinging off social cues normally. but u can reprogram it to ping off inside cues like 'am i being authentic', 'am i being self amused and non-needy?' > u choose what has value to you

[marinik]

Originally Posted by srikant

thanks for all your comments, yes its a mistake to put myself down before approaching someone and assuming they are perfect 10 .

One question i wanted to ask you guys is abt the smartness thing. For example, if i am in front of my closest friends and sisters etc, i am always funny and smart and making jokes in the blink of an eye. But when i am in large groups or with other girls i get self conscious and my ability to mix freely and produce good conservation gets marred. And later i hate myself for that. I dunno what the problem is, strangers, big groups, beautiful women , And secure people with a dynamic personality scare me. I dunno why

This is normal too! You are becoming too self aware in these situations. Be sure they are just as self conscientious as you are. Try and just be yourself. That is the best pick up technique you can ever want.

[AlmostGodess]

What people love most is to laugh and feel good. Women especially

It is gift to tell or make jokes. So why hide this from the world?

When you go out, tell yourself all this and don't hide. And I am sure that soon you'll post some great results here

[srikant]

Originally Posted by AlmostGodess

What people love most is to laugh and feel good. Women especially

It is gift to tell or make jokes. So why hide this from the world?

When you go out, tell yourself all this and don't hide. And I am sure that soon you'll post some great results here

Thank you now that u have put it like this it gives me confidence to go out and share my humour with others. Definitely ill post good results. Thanks this made my day

[Zach M]

Speaking of laughter... all this talk about numbers has made me wonder: is it possible to get an e girl if you are just π?



Olde English Comedy Blind Date

[BitterFlower]

I went to bed at 2 with a 10 and woke up at 10 with a 2





...let it marinate...







...LOL Anyway, ITA with Gordo. I'm probably an 8 and I totally freeze up because I get self-conscious about myself. I used to have more friends and get more boys when I just acted like the life of the party (but still being myself).

I'm married now and just getting back into a social life after having a baby, so I have to work on my self-confidence again in front of other people. The first few times we went to the dance clubs, I would not even dance in front of other people (and I'm a pretty decent dancer).

[180]

Originally Posted by srikant

thanks for all your comments, yes its a mistake to put myself down before approaching someone and assuming they are perfect 10 .

One question i wanted to ask you guys is abt the smartness thing. For example, if i am in front of my closest friends and sisters etc, i am always funny and smart and making jokes in the blink of an eye. But when i am in large groups or with other girls i get self conscious and my ability to mix freely and produce good conservation gets marred. And later i hate myself for that. I dunno what the problem is, strangers, big groups, beautiful women , And secure people with a dynamic personality scare me. I dunno why

I understand what you mean:
Caring always seems to damper abilities.

2 mental strategies I've heard to resolve this.

1) Accept you are a "1". One strategy people take is to not take themselves seriously. They accept they are nerd or dork or whatever and don't really care about advancing or looking good. So they aren't afraid of consequences. If you believe you are bottom, you have nowhere to go except the top.

2) Completely assume that the people aren't real or that you are going to die someday so... it doesn't really matter. There are no consequences.

Both techniques are to lift fear away from you by lessening the consequences. If you mentally visualize all the women as men, it wouldn't be a problem either.

I used to have an issue that my eyes would get TEARY at every attractive girl I saw... it was a BIG BIG problem. I don't know why the hell I was like that. (probably all those crazy ass hormones that god puts into us animals) Anyways, I used to tell myself that every woman is really a guy underneath that dress and that seemed to work really well.

If anyone's familiar with one of the cute co-workers who's close to me (I've mentioned her before on the forums)... all the other guys are fawning attention on her. But I literally call her "bro". Although that does annoy her quite a bit it also helps remove her "power" over me in terms of beauty.

Really, do you really know what's under that dress?