Cheating articles

[Mounds]

Once in a while (read: daily) I visit Yahoo.ca to scan the headlines. I've picked up on a disturbing trend. Once a month, there is an article about men cheating.
Where they cheat, who they are most likely to cheat with, when they will cheat, on and on and on. Are these articles actually meant to help people?
What's your opinion on this stuff? Are we really that concerned about our partner jumping ship and finding someone new?
To me, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. The more concerned you are about the other person cheating, the more pressure you will put on your partner. As your relationship becomes strained, the possibility of such an event becomes greater (or them outright saying "It's over"). I think articles like this are complete trash. This is like worrying over doomsday. You only screw over yourself in the end.

-Tim

[MidasGirl]

Self fulfilling prophecy. If you're scared your partner will cheat, you will likely attract one who will cheat. There's a show I saw a couple times on fox reality h called "Sex Decoy: Love Stings" where they help you set up your partner if you suspect they might be cheating. I thought it was the one of the most low vibration shows I'd ever seen.

In any case, yeah, I'm a chronic optimist, I don't believe in being cheated on. So I don't expect to attract it into my life.

[Elrond]

Of course men cheat. We are de facto criminals and anti-social, while women are pure as angels and don't for example cheat.

Get with the program


Anyway, I don't know about yahoo articles, but my instinct tells me it might just be trashy pop journalism. The kind of article and writing that is not expected to be critical and in-depth, but rather more for entertainment and the pleasure of reading it in itself, rather than actually reading it and applying and reflecting on it in ones own real life situations. How many of readers of stuff like "ten ways to please your man/girl" actually try to apply it to their own life rather than using it for its entertainment value only? Well at least I know that I have been an avid reader and lousy applier.

[Indiana]

I wonder why these articles are jumping out at you as a trend, and not say, articles about teenage drinking (of which there are a lot) or articles about getting your best bikini body (of which there are a lot) or some other topic.

Has this subject been on your mind? You see a lot of what you are attuned to see - that's a self-fulfilling prophecy too.

Elrond... do you ever think about how statements that you make like that (even though I assume there is a certain level of sarcasm involved) will create just that kind of reality for yourself? I know if I was around a guy who expressed such bitterness regularly, I would see him as a very dangerous partner to have.

[Mounds]

Originally Posted by Indiana

I wonder why these articles are jumping out at you as a trend, and not say, articles about teenage drinking (of which there are a lot) or articles about getting your best bikini body (of which there are a lot) or some other topic.

Hasn't been on my mind, no. I don't think Yahoo news is known for it's cutting edge journalism (one headline read, "Man Wants Traffic Light at Crossing"). The cheating articles began to standout for me because I think they are potentially destructive.

-Tim

[lifetimelearner]

Originally Posted by Mounds

Hasn't been on my mind, no. I don't think Yahoo news is known for it's cutting edge journalism (one headline read, "Man Wants Traffic Light at Crossing"). The cheating articles began to standout for me because I think they are potentially destructive.

-Tim

I am with you Tim !

[Kishka]

Originally Posted by Mounds

Hasn't been on my mind, no. I don't think Yahoo news is known for it's cutting edge journalism (one headline read, "Man Wants Traffic Light at Crossing"). The cheating articles began to standout for me because I think they are potentially destructive.

-Tim

The amount of negative energy you experience when you simple SEE and acknowledge these articles is enough to increase your awareness of them. Ignoring them and refusing to react (ie, detach) might help.

[st33med]

Detaching from most news sources, albeit, all media sources, would be great!

Getting more important stuff by word of mouth and being able to question it more is better. Thing is, the news is looked at as the deliverer of truth and facts. But, it always presents someone else's truth and facts.

What I found distasteful was that all this cheating stuff happened after Tiger Woods and other couples started cheating. It's not new that stars can cheat. Get over it!

[Angela]

I know -- all of those browser sites -- yahoo, msn, bing (they're the worst!) -- they're just so jam-packed with nuthin'. I'm sorry to see them emulating the big news media entities who use fear and subtle threat to draw people in.

But sometimes they do have my very favorite thing: interspecies love. I just can't get enough of that.

[Elrond]

Originally Posted by Indiana

Elrond... do you ever think about how statements that you make like that (even though I assume there is a certain level of sarcasm involved)

Try totally sarcastic.

I don't think that Michael Moore is so sarcastic in this video though.

Originally Posted by Indiana

will create just that kind of reality for yourself?

I am undecided on the merit of LoA and the effects that beliefs and preconcieved notions have upon the real world as of now.

Originally Posted by Indiana

I know if I was around a guy who expressed such bitterness regularly, I would see him as a very dangerous partner to have.

I've seen you make posts on how some things are inconvienient, sexist etc against women. They sometime struck me as angry or bitter, but then I thought to myself "wait a minute, I wouldn't appreciate it if people commented on what they percieve to be my emotional state based on such limited information. And I don't really know enough about the situation to discuss it or elaborate on it. So all I have left is to comment on the percieved emotional charge of the post, the percieved mentality behind it etc. And generally I don't want to reply to posts with that limited background, and with that focus, on topics like that." That's just my criteria though.