Hating sexual attraction

[cbullsfan]

I hate being sexually attracted to people. Like I could be out running errands or doing something and I glance over at someone that is sexually attractive. I don't know it makes me feel like I can't do something about it or something. Any ideas?

[lasti]

Originally Posted by cbullsfan

I hate being sexually attracted to people. Like I could be out running errands or doing something and I glance over at someone that is sexually attractive. I don't know it makes me feel like I can't do something about it or something. Any ideas?

What is so bad about it?

[ssandra]

Originally Posted by cbullsfan

I don't know it makes me feel like I can't do something about it or something. Any ideas?

Yes. Become more at ease with your own sexual desires as they are, without having the need to actually act on them.

[cbullsfan]

Wow you sent that fast, i went to edit to add more stuff and you already replied. I am a highly sexual person but I rarely engage in sex with others because I am too lazy or it does not end well because I start laughing alot. I just hate it because it feels restricting or something but then I like it, I can't really agree with myself.

[Kishka]

Can you imagine how you would feel if you felt NO sexual attraction? I hear that's not too much fun...

[dhammapal]

I overcame sexual desire by using medical terms for parts of the anatomy e.g. mammary glands, and donating to the Rape Crisis Centre.

[Cochonette]

Originally Posted by dhammapal

I overcame sexual desire by using medical terms for parts of the anatomy e.g. mammary glands, and donating to the Rape Crisis Centre.

lol............................ wow.

Maybe it will be of use to you some time in the future. Do not worry much about it. I just don't like when I find myself staring at strangers because of how they look, then I look away, then it feels awkward.

[metamorph]

Sexual attraction is great and sometimes highly amusing. I have even caught myself being sexually attracted to a store display dummy once (until I realised what it was ). Raising your awareness is great too. Just monitor yourself and literally feel how all of a sudden this "force" pulls on you when you see a sexy woman. Who says there is no magic nowadays


Laughing during sex? Are you nervous?

[Drew78]

I can see your point about sexual attraction being a problem. Sometimes I think that if I were not sexually attracted to anyone, I would be able to conquer the world because I would not be so distracted. It is the distraction that drives me crazy, as well as the sense of need, and then the sense of disappointment when i don't get to have sex with people that I want, which is probably 99.9% of the time, and I think most of us would say that is true.

Additionally, I have a lot of love to give, but I am so afraid of getting into a relationship and then cheating on my partner because I have such a strong sex drive. That is the fear that holds me back, I think.

So to sum up why I don't care for my strong sex drive, it's distraction and the weakness of cheating on my partner if I had one.

Drew

[TonyToneTone]

Originally Posted by cbullsfan

I hate being sexually attracted to people. Like I could be out running errands or doing something and I glance over at someone that is sexually attractive. I don't know it makes me feel like I can't do something about it or something. Any ideas?

Come up with a way where you can do something about it.

Are you a male or female? We can come up with some strategies so that you can attract who you want.

[sumbitORclick]

Originally Posted by cbullsfan

Wow you sent that fast, i went to edit to add more stuff and you already replied. I am a highly sexual person but I rarely engage in sex with others because I am too lazy or it does not end well because I start laughing alot. I just hate it because it feels restricting or something but then I like it, I can't really agree with myself.

The men I've heard say this watched porn and got off instead of taking time out to put time in

[james6]

Originally Posted by cbullsfan

I hate being sexually attracted to people. Like I could be out running errands or doing something and I glance over at someone that is sexually attractive. I don't know it makes me feel like I can't do something about it or something. Any ideas?

Sexual attraction is animal stuff, its natural so i don't know when whether i can hate my own nature. Maybe its something else you hate? I hate the lack of control, the guilt and then the sense of not having. Once i knew that, i could start to deal with those drives.

[TiffyLove]

I have the opposite side of hating sexual attraction.

I HATE it when I can tell men are attracted to me. I feel disgusting. I will get my jacket and put it on or wrap it around my waste. It literally ignites disgust and anger in me. I feel anger towards them and I feel disgusted.


But then again it usually is when its a guy that can't help himself from looking or is staring or something. I don't really feel that way when its done respectfully.

[Plays With Life]

Originally Posted by TiffyLove

I have the opposite side of hating sexual attraction.

I HATE it when I can tell men are attracted to me. I feel disgusting. I will get my jacket and put it on or wrap it around my waste. It literally ignites disgust and anger in me. I feel anger towards them and I feel disgusted.

But then again it usually is when its a guy that can't help himself from looking or is staring or something. I don't really feel that way when its done respectfully.

What about it makes it respectful or disrespectful? Could you describe the difference in the way the guy displays attraction to you, that makes you feel differently about it?

[The Unconquered]

Originally Posted by TiffyLove

I have the opposite side of hating sexual attraction.

I HATE it when I can tell men are attracted to me. I feel disgusting. I will get my jacket and put it on or wrap it around my waste. It literally ignites disgust and anger in me. I feel anger towards them and I feel disgusted.


But then again it usually is when its a guy that can't help himself from looking or is staring or something. I don't really feel that way when its done respectfully.

Originally Posted by Plays With Life

What about it makes it respectful or disrespectful? Could you describe the difference in the way the guy displays attraction to you, that makes you feel differently about it?

I understand where TiffyLove is coming from. It's like the difference between a guy looking at a cut of steak vs. a beautiful car. The former makes you feel like a piece of meat; the latter makes you feel like a piece of art.

But ultimately, both men both want to shag you -- same result, same difference

EDIT:

Originally Posted by Plays With Life

There is no is.

That depends on what the meaning of "is" is. I'd argue all there is is is.

[Plays With Life]

Originally Posted by The Unconquered

I understand where TiffyLove is coming from. It's like the difference between a guy looking at a cut of steak vs. a beautiful car. The former makes you feel like a piece of meat; the latter makes you feel like a piece of art.

But ultimately, both men both want to shag you -- same result, same difference

Thank you! I appreciate the response.

Originally Posted by The Unconquered

EDIT:

That depends on what the meaning of "is" is. I'd argue all there is is is.

Lmao! Well one of these days I'll get around to writing a blog post about it, then maybe we can debate the is-ness of life.

[TiffyLove]

Plays with life,

I will have to think about it. Because at this moment I can't really explain it. It's a feeling. It makes me feel like I am prey compared to admired.

But I can't exactly pinpoint what it is that they do differently.

[Plays With Life]

Originally Posted by TiffyLove

Plays with life,

I will have to think about it. Because at this moment I can't really explain it. It's a feeling. It makes me feel like I am prey compared to admired.

But I can't exactly pinpoint what it is that they do differently.

Thank you! I'd be interested to hear any thoughts you have about it.

Could the difference be something like this? -

"I like that girl! I want to experience interacting with her."
vs.
"I want to have that girl! I have to interact with her correctly in order to achieve that."

[TiffyLove]

Hmmm not even that. I am not all about feeling energies or anything. But I want to explain it as almost a feeling of they can't control themselves compared to "it would be nice" to get to know her. I want to say its energetically but maybe its just some subconscious signs I am picking up on.

[The Unconquered]

Originally Posted by TiffyLove

Hmmm not even that. I am not all about feeling energies or anything. But I want to explain it as almost a feeling of they can't control themselves compared to "it would be nice" to get to know her. I want to say its energetically but maybe its just some subconscious signs I am picking up on.

Like they want to own you as an object rather than get to know you as a person?

EDIT: Did we do 30DC at one point, TiffyLove?

[Plays With Life]

Originally Posted by TiffyLove

Hmmm not even that. I am not all about feeling energies or anything. But I want to explain it as almost a feeling of they can't control themselves compared to "it would be nice" to get to know her. I want to say its energetically but maybe its just some subconscious signs I am picking up on.

Do they have a sort of primal, animalistic attraction to you?

[The Unconquered]

Originally Posted by Plays With Life

Do they have a sort of primal, animalistic attraction to you?

You in chat?

[Plays With Life]

Originally Posted by The Unconquered

You in chat?

I am now!