Can a quiet person survive in an energetic workplace?

[sweetmotion]

I am a really quiet person at work. I am the kind of person who doesn't talk that much. If I am at ease with someone I will talk more naturally but I am really a listener. Yes I am shy but even if I feel great in a environment I still don't talk that much.

I just started a new job where the people are nice and they like to talk a lot. I like them but I feel they don't like that I am so much quiet. My team and I went to lunch everyone was talking and I was listening. I talked but not too much. Someone said out loud: Why are you not talking? At that moment everyone looked at me. I hated it. I just said this is my nature and I get that a lot.

I find it hard because I just want to be myself. I don't feel the need to make small talk. When I speak I say what I mean and feel. I don't want to be fake and I can already feel people don't like me because I don't talk.


I was in training this week and my trainer said something about me to my co-worker. She said she's a good worker and she will like working here. The co-worker said I don't think so. I was in shock so I got up and said I like it here it's relaxing.

I am sad because I can already see that people are judging me because of my personality.

I say Hello to people I know. If I don't know the person I smile at them. Maybe it's because I look snob? I don't know. I know I have a wall around me. I know I don't like to bother people. Some people makes me feel awkward even if they are nice.

I miss working in a environment that people didn't care if I was quiet or not. They were just happy that I was doing my job.

Maybe it's my fault. I make people feel awkward (Yes a belief about myself I need to change I know.)

What should I do? Did I manifest this problem?

Thanks!

[Angela]

Originally Posted by sweetmotion

Some people makes me feel awkward... I make people feel awkward

Did I manifest this problem?

Yes, I believe you did manifest this problem -- you are presenting yourself with a growth opportunity, looks like a big one, to me. I acknowledge you for creating such a wonderful opportunity for breakthrough for yourself! Congratulations!

What learning is it that you think would make the biggest positive difference, if you were to *get* it? What, if you were to learn it here, would benefit you the most, for the highest good of all?

[sweetmotion]

Originally Posted by Angela

Yes, I believe you did manifest this problem -- you are presenting yourself with a growth opportunity, looks like a big one, to me. I acknowledge you for creating such a wonderful opportunity for breakthrough for yourself! Congratulations!

What learning is it that you think would make the biggest positive difference, if you were to *get* it? What, if you were to learn it here, would benefit you the most, for the highest good of all?

It's hard because I felt this way since I was a child. It's beginning to be a problem because now I am aware of what I project and what my thoughts are.

Part of me feel that I am not normal but I know it's not true because I have good friends and they do like me because I am real with them.

I know I need to love myself and stop feeling awkward. I don't feel I should change my personality. I try to talk more with them but I don't feel the need to do it.

What I am learning is my self worth is really not that good. If I had money I would just quit but I can't right now and I would be a coward.

[Chronemics]

I relate very strongly to this. In short, the answer to your question is yes.

There will be some co-workers that approach you just to talk about themselves since you're a good listener. You might even really hit it off with someone and get invitations to events outside of work.

Remember, you just started working there. Not talking much at first can be a good thing. When I started my first and last job, the first piece of advice I got was, "since you're new, it'll be best if you don't talk for a while". I did this with great ease and it gave me the opportunity to understand my co-workers better by observing. I've seen new people come in and say things that shocked/offended others on their first day because they didn't know them that well.

It's important for a person to feel comfortable at their workplace. It can be difficult working at a place where co-workers expect you to talk to them, and sometimes you might find yourself dragging your feet to work. It gets better with time. Right now they talk about how you're quiet, but they will get bored of this quickly and run out of things to say about you since you don't talk much. Enjoy observing, enjoy the work you do. All that is truly expected of you from your employer is to do your job well.

[Angela]

If your work situation were ideal, what would you be Being? What would you be feeling, seeing, and hearing? Take a moment and imagine yourself with this situation totally, satisfyingly, joyfully resolved. What are you being now that you don't have that old problem anymore?

[sweetmotion]

Originally Posted by Angela

If your work situation were ideal, what would you be Being? What would you be feeling, seeing, and hearing? Take a moment and imagine yourself with this situation totally, satisfyingly, joyfully resolved. What are you being now that you don't have that old problem anymore?

That the thing I don't see myself working for a company. I want my own. I can see myself being a photographer. I would be so happy walking, talking pictures. Having lots of wedding contracts. Seeing people happy and being able to capture their love on film. I want to see my clients reaction when they first see theirs pictures. I want to show it all on a blog.

I have a need to travel so I want to be so good that I could find clients overseas.

I know if I do this my true self will shine. It's weird but I feel so good thinking about that. I know it's my path not this job.

[sweetmotion]

Originally Posted by Chronemics

I relate very strongly to this. In short, the answer to your question is yes.

There will be some co-workers that approach you just to talk about themselves since you're a good listener. You might even really hit it off with someone and get invitations to events outside of work.

Remember, you just started working there. Not talking much at first can be a good thing. When I started my first and last job, the first piece of advice I got was, "since you're new, it'll be best if you don't talk for a while". I did this with great ease and it gave me the opportunity to understand my co-workers better by observing. I've seen new people come in and say things that shocked/offended others on their first day because they didn't know them that well.

It's important for a person to feel comfortable at their workplace. It can be difficult working at a place where co-workers expect you to talk to them, and sometimes you might find yourself dragging your feet to work. It gets better with time. Right now they talk about how you're quiet, but they will get bored of this quickly and run out of things to say about you since you don't talk much. Enjoy observing, enjoy the work you do. All that is truly expected of you from your employer is to do your job well.

Thank you you are right. I know I work well I know I will be ok on that part.

[Kishka]

"I was in training this week and my trainer said something about me to my co-worker. She said she's a good worker and she will like working here. The co-worker said I don't think so. I was in shock so I got up and said I like it here it's relaxing."

Why did you take 'I don't think so' as a judgment? The person who made that statement could have meant that the work-place sucks, lol. If that's all he/she said, I don't see how you can assume it was a statement in judgment of you.

As a person who tends to be quiet if I feel no passion for what Im doing, I have to ask you if you love what you're doing at the moment?

[sweetmotion]

Originally Posted by Kishka

"I was in training this week and my trainer said something about me to my co-worker. She said she's a good worker and she will like working here. The co-worker said I don't think so. I was in shock so I got up and said I like it here it's relaxing."

Why did you take 'I don't think so' as a judgment? The person who made that statement could have meant that the work-place sucks, lol. If that's all he/she said, I don't see how you can assume it was a statement in judgment of you.

As a person who tends to be quiet if I feel no passion for what Im doing, I have to ask you if you love what you're doing at the moment?

Yes you are right. I think it's because I am insecure. I assume what she said.

I don't like the job. I see it's going to be super easy so I will get bored pretty quickly. The good thing about it I know now that I should really follow my dream. I will find money in other ways.

[Kishka]

Originally Posted by sweetmotion

Yes you are right. I think it's because I am insecure. I assume what she said.

I don't like the job. I see it's going to be super easy so I will get bored pretty quickly. The good thing about it I know now that I should really follow my dream. I will find money in other ways.

Yeah, I see your passion is photography. If you make a decision to always follow your highest excitement,(even in the planning you will be excited) you can never go wrong.

You will also accelerate exciting manifestations in your life, and as a bonus you will find yourself becoming an extrovert! Although, there's nothing wrong with being introverted...DO YOU!!

[Angela]

Originally Posted by sweetmotion

I know if I do this my true self will shine. It's weird but I feel so good thinking about that. I know it's my path not this job.

Great! I can hear how inspired you are by this, and it inspires me, too. What's stopping you?