i feel very alone and my life and career is messed up, can someone answer me tonight

[sinjon123]

i feel very alone and my life and career is messed up, can someone answer me tonight, help!?,

[Indiana]

Sure, but what are you asking? Without knowing what's gone wrong or why you think things are messed up, we can't really offer anything other than general platitudes.

[sinjon123]

just scared,

[Cloverhart]

You will be ok, no matter what, because there isn't anything else to be

[sinjon123]

I wish someone would tell me everything will be okay, but I fear that it wont be ok, nothings been ok for 4 years, and its been getting progressively worse, need someone to rescue me if things start to fall apart again when im going through the eye of the storm

[MidasGirl]

Your life and your career is messed up in what way?

[rawxstasy]

Just accept whatever is going on now. Even the feelings of being alone. Eventually they will pass. Try to see why this might be happening. Usually when we go through periods of loneliness and difficulty in our lives it gives us the potential for growth.

Did you read my response in your suicide thread? It can seem like the whole whole world is falling apart around you but if you keep working on yourself and accept what is, eventually your darkest moment will come into the light.

[sinjon123]

I cant comprehend that I've lost 4 years of going through the same abuse and difficulties...ive lost from 22-25

and have just turned 26 years old 2 weeks ago, it scares me, ive nearly lost all my 20s going through something i can understand or come to terms with losing so much time, and this college thing is taking up my future time... some kind of trauma

[rei]

You are attending college now? (Officially, I mean, whether you go to class or not, are you a registered student?)

[MidasGirl]

Originally Posted by sinjon123

I cant comprehend that I've lost 4 years of going through the same abuse and difficulties...ive lost from 22-25

and have just turned 26 years old 2 weeks ago, it scares me, ive nearly lost all my 20s going through something i can understand or come to terms with losing so much time, and this college thing is taking up my future time... some kind of trauma

So, what are you going to do about it?

[nicbrahms]

First you need to become present, so do some looking into that, you refer to your past and your future but where did your present go?

The past is done with , you are keeping it alive with your thoughts, it can't harm you now unlesss you allow it to. Just close the door on it in your mind.

Then when you are focused on the now, realise that there is nothing that can harm you, only that which you want can come into your reality, so decide to start creating it differently.

Affirm:

Nothing can harm me, I am safe, my life is mine to control and create and I will create it with only happy and good things coming to me.

I will stop creating mental tormet for myself along with pain and suffering, I will now only create happiness and peace for myself.

Say it, whether you believe it or not, or if you believe in LOA or not. For it is always working whether you believe it or not.

Take control and decide here and now you will ahve things your way or not at all. Empower yourself.

I can tell you that you will be alright, and I know this, but you have to believe it yourself.

You have two choices, decide which you want, either to live in fear or decide that fear is an illusion and can no more effect you than a shark at the bottom of the ocean. Once you make the decision you will perceive things differently and you will alter your reality.

Peace

[Norman]

Hi sinjon123,

Accept that you're going through a crisis period in your life. I've been there before, and still am working my way through it, so you're not alone in this.

One book I'd recommend is Eckhart Tolle's Power of Now. I recommend both reading and listening to it. Every time I'm down, I read/listen to him. His voice is very calm & soothing, and to me it carries good energy & high frequency.

In one of his books (either Power of Now or A New Earth), he said if your life situation is really bad, accept the outer conditions. If you can't accept the outer conditions, then at least accept what's inside, i.e. I'm depressed/sad/lonely at this moment.

Accept your inner conditions and use it as an opportunity of inner transformation. Once the inside is transformed, the outside will take care of itself.

Love & peace,

Norman

[blueeyedevil]

Hi there. You aren't a lone I have been through many, many bad years in my life. I have been in some pretty scary and lonely places. I have to tell you even if you don't think it, things will start to get better. However, that isn't just going to happen by it self. You are going to have to do it. Start doing little things that give you power. Sometimes you have to go backwards a little to move forwards.

I know that after 9 years of horrible life threatening abuse, suicide attempts, and hospitals that I am a strong, independent women. I know that I have been through hell and back and I fought for my life and I won. If I spent all that time so so so many years before fighting to save myself. Now I have the energy to go back and repair, restore, and revitalize what was taken away. I have a chance at life now... and no one can take that away.

Do I like my job ... nope hate it.... do I do yes! I go home and I look around I think wow I am providing for myself, and I am not doing badly. In fact I am better than before. I know that I can keep working towards goals that are important to me, and a long the way I am discovering new goals, and new things that are important to me.

I never thought I would make it as far as I have now or even be able to do what I am doing now but, I took a chance on myself and I surprised myself. I hope whatever it is that you are going through that you find the strength to ask for help, find resources, make friends, and become empowered. Even if you don't believe you can try. Things get easier habits form. You can get a good life you just have to work for it.

Nothing good in life is easy.

Good Luck.