Clingy Children

[votoshka]

I have always been affectionate with my kids, but never grew up in an affectionate household, and I am definitely not affectionate or touchy-feely with most people.

In high school when all my friends went through the hugging each other phase, I felt really uncomfortable and never really joined in, and I think they picked that up from me, so never really tried to hug me. I must give out a no hug vibe

I think everyone is just different! Some people seem to need/crave affection, while others don't!

[jenika]

Call yourself a working mother is an under statement! All mothers work, but when you work outside the home as well, you are holding down two types of jobs. For many mothers, for their work outside the home is fresh and they work on your home gives the demand for energy. While mothers to be home with their children, and only work outside the home because they think they should. Whatever your situation, it is normal for you to feel very tired, especially when you want your little one whenever you are near.

[Weena]

Originally Posted by votoshka

I have always been affectionate with my kids, but never grew up in an affectionate household, and I am definitely not affectionate or touchy-feely with most people.

I'm not touchy-feely either. Just my husband and two little ones. Oh and a hug hello and goodbye to my best friend because she is a hugger . That's it. my mother was kind of affectionate with hugs and kisses. My father was affectionate in his own way but not physically... i think the first hug HE initiated was when i got married, and it was like "er...what's going on man? not used to this" .

[votoshka]

Originally Posted by Weena

I'm not touchy-feely either. Just my husband and two little ones. Oh and a hug hello and goodbye to my best friend because she is a hugger . That's it. my mother was kind of affectionate with hugs and kisses. My father was affectionate in his own way but not physically... i think the first hug HE initiated was when i got married, and it was like "er...what's going on man? not used to this" .

I remember getting married, and at the end you do that thing where everyone kisses the bride or whatever... my Dad didn't lol! The one time I remember getting a hug from him as an adult (well young adult) was on my 18th birthday, and he hugged me cause I failed my driving test and I was devastated!

I occasionally hug my mum... but not much. My sister and I never hug either.

My husband grew up in a much huggier/kissier family!

[Acting Like Godot]

Recently I attended a course and the 20+ participants were from all over the world. Including some from Europe.

The Europeans have this kissing culture. Of course, I have seen it on TV and all that.

But I was still caught offguard, when on the first day, this Italian woman came to greet me by hugging me and offering her cheeks for a kiss.

I didn't kiss her. I just did some cheek-brushing thing. Just didn't occur to me, in that moment, that I was supposed to kiss her.

I'm not in the habit of kissing (relative) strangers.

At the end of the one-week course, she came to me to say goodbye and the kiss/hug thing came up again. I still didn't kiss her. But I did give her a big hug.