Is it advisable to have had a variety of sexual relations before I croak?

[Plays With Life]

Originally Posted by Hapafreak of the Universe

Ummm....(speechless & wide eyed...slaps self in the face)!!! ****! That is so not right, I'm at work now and fanning myself, whew!!! uh...uh...oh my....sigh...oh I am weaker than I expected?! I am wanting to beg already? Wha?

Perfect. I wouldn't mind you begging any time the urge strikes you.

If I were going to see you one evening, I might call you at work earlier that day just to tell you what I'm going to do to you later.

You tantalizing girl. Now tell me something: Tell me what color your favorite sexy lingerie is.

[Snaves]

Is it advisable to have had a variety of sexual relations before I croak?

Yes.

New here, where do I find the emoticons?

[Plays With Life]

Originally Posted by Snaves

Yes.

New here, where do I find the emoticons?

They're hanging out in the lounge. I'd tread careful around Red, he can be a little snappy.



And if you run into Plum, be prepared for a sob story.



But they're all pretty fun.

[Hapafreak of the Universe]

Sexy lingerie? LOL! That's for me to know & you to find out, nanny nanny boo boo! Besides, this isn't a venue for sexting, is it? Hahahahaha! Thanks Snaves, I've decided on YES too, but it'll have to wait & hopefully I can just say no to...croaking! I am new to this forum thingy too & am so tech challenged it's not even funny! Here's to humping around the universe! (Eventually! )

[Plays With Life]

Originally Posted by Hapafreak of the Universe

Sexy lingerie? LOL! That's for me to know & you to find out, nanny nanny boo boo!

Copy that. I'll be sure to pay *close* attention when it's time to find out.

Originally Posted by Hapafreak of the Universe

Besides, this isn't a venue for sexting, is it? Hahahahaha!

Unfortunately not. The mods told me posting my naked photos is not allowed. I was totally going to start a naked photos thread.

[Hapafreak of the Universe]

Funny you should mention that, heh-heh...I just completed a large batch of naked self portraits this week, spent 2 mornings on it...last hurrah before the critters are home from school for the summer! It's an early Father's Day present for hubby since I won't have freedom to take naked pics then,hahahaha!

I love making naughty, naked pics! It's so thrilling & feeds my creative, celebratory, sexual & self expressive artistic longings/urges. I love using playfulness, props/costumes, lighting & motion. It's so liberating running, leaping, dancing & doing stunts naked & outside too! Woot! I laugh at myself,because I often feel ridiculous trying to be provocative,hahahahaha....& I feel a bit lewd too, but I figure WTF, I can do what I bloody wanna, right? It's so funny & challenging to get all my bits & poses captured in the frames, cause I use the timer & tripod it takes 3 consecutive shots, so it can be extremely comical!!! I'd love to be a fly on the wall watching myself!!! I'd be laughing my arse off no doubt! I am all for the naked photos! Fie to moderators! Lol!!! : D

[Lucidism]

Originally Posted by Andrew Gubb

Recent research suggests that fun prevents boredom.

I'm sure the human race figured this out about... oh... 30,000 years ago. Psychologists need something better to study, lol.

[Plays With Life]

Originally Posted by Hapafreak of the Universe

Funny you should mention that, heh-heh...I just completed a large batch of naked self portraits this week, spent 2 mornings on it...last hurrah before the critters are home from school for the summer! It's an early Father's Day present for hubby since I won't have freedom to take naked pics then,hahahaha!

I love making naughty, naked pics! It's so thrilling & feeds my creative, celebratory, sexual & self expressive artistic longings/urges. I love using playfulness, props/costumes, lighting & motion. It's so liberating running, leaping, dancing & doing stunts naked & outside too! Woot! I laugh at myself,because I often feel ridiculous trying to be provocative,hahahahaha....& I feel a bit lewd too, but I figure WTF, I can do what I bloody wanna, right? It's so funny & challenging to get all my bits & poses captured in the frames, cause I use the timer & tripod it takes 3 consecutive shots, so it can be extremely comical!!! I'd love to be a fly on the wall watching myself!!! I'd be laughing my arse off no doubt! I am all for the naked photos! Fie to moderators! Lol!!! : D

Nice

I feel a little ridiculous too when I'm trying to be provocative for a camera. I have no idea how to do that.

[Hapafreak of the Universe]

Originally Posted by Plays With Life

Nice

I feel a little ridiculous too when I'm trying to be provocative for a camera. I have no idea how to do that.

LOL! That's when imagination helps me...I picture the one I desire, I am gazing into the fathomless depths of his deep, soulful, lusty, searing,penetrating yet tender gaze. I think of him viewing my pics. I try to exude my essence, portray what I am feeling through my facial expressions & body language, & physical motions/activities. I attempt to use light, motion, landscape/environment & props in synchrony with me to fully express in an artistic yet organic/fun way, the magnitude of my yearning & love. Ideally to evoke a similar response in the viewer, it becomes a tapestry of communication, with layers of connection, an erotic dance with a unique energy all its own. My goal would be to cause a disturbance in the lust o sphere, a palpable frenzy felt at a distance. Gotta love spooky action. I want to leave an indelible impression causing intrusive thoughts/feelings & images for days after viewing. My husband said he kept thinking about my photos all the next day, chuckling to himself, seeing my fun foolishness in his head....now how good is that....and he hasn't viewed part II yet, hahahahaha! I can't wait to see his response to those...(it was uber fun & an excellent work out to boot! LOL!)

So try this next time you're doing naked photos, the ridiculous, self conscious feelings just vaporize & it is so thrilling & fun! I am zinging thinking about it! Hahahahahahahaha!

[Hapafreak of the Universe]

Update alert! Heh-heh...this just in...no humpin' around for the Hapafreak. No I am not chicken, that's not it...bock-bock, NOT!!! I am just different when it comes to romance & sex. Pyrogen hit the nail on the head, spot on. I am open, it's something that I don't wanna change about me. I have always been this way, heart right out there.

If I feel so inclined to wanna be intimate I am already loving that person. I am not able to wall off myself & make it just about part of me. If I wanted to have a brief thrill, the excitement, a fix...I could just as easily do drugs or something, other thrill seeking activities. It's not enough for me, just diddling around, that's not living for me. I want to connect on as many levels as possible with a romantic interest, something deep, intense & transcendent...creation at it's purest, primal & most passionate. Not a transient thing. Why bother for what equates to a flashing jack off???

As for polyamory...I believe it's a possibility. For me though at the beginning of a new romantic interest, I would be so totally immersed in that other, I would not initially have room or energy to keep up with multiples. I expect that after a certain equilibrium was attained then maybe there would be more room to love even more?

My friends say that after you've been around the block a few times it's just not that big of a deal anymore? That you can have meaningless, recreational sex, anyone can achieve this? And I say what??? Why would I want to diminish this ultimate gift of an experience? I don't wanna dumb it down??? I wanna amplify & magnify it exponentially...heighten the bliss baby???!!!! I wanna touch & expand all aspects of this divine intermingling & entanglement and I guess this scares a lot of potentials away. What's so scary about lil' ol' me????

So though I may fantasize about wild escapades, my reality is culminating towards a different path Though who knows, I am only beginning, a newbie

Never say never? Is that the expression? Just gonna continue following my heart no matter what!!! <3

[hiddenmaverick]

What a fun thread, with a lot of food for thought! Admittedly, I've been going through a whole lot of questioning myself when it comes to sexuality and how I've been living. I grew up in a conservative household where sex was shunned and to be reserved only for the one you're married to, and that all other forms of sex were considered shameful acts of sin. So it's no wonder that I have a lot of these same questions in my head.

[Hapafreak of the Universe]

Originally Posted by hiddenmaverick

What a fun thread, with a lot of food for thought! Admittedly, I've been going through a whole lot of questioning myself when it comes to sexuality and how I've been living. I grew up in a conservative household where sex was shunned and to be reserved only for the one you're married to, and that all other forms of sex were considered shameful acts of sin. So it's no wonder that I have a lot of these same questions in my head.

Yes...it's so tricky knowing what's just subconscious & unconscious social conditioning. My mind can send me down winding paths with detours & dead ends, I can spin anything to fit, so many perspectives & fears...what's true for me though? What's gonna lead me to my best destiny?

That's when I have to stay connected to my deepest feelings because I've found that they are never wrong & always lead to my truth, guiding me most efficiently towards flowing more love & bliss. I tend to resist these gut instincts because they fly in the face of logic most often than not. Yet in hindsight I see that this intuitive guide has always been right. My heart is a reliable compass, this I know, yet it entails fearlessness & great leaps of faith to live by my heart. I much prefer left brained logic & a safety net, ya know? But that just hasn't worked?

So I keep trying different approaches choosing to trust the thoughts & feelings that are exciting, loving with a sense of freedom & relief. Doesn't matter if they can be proven to be objectively true, what matters is what is most nurturing & productive. I also ask myself if there were no limits, if you were really magic what would your life be looking like. This tells me where I need to go. Just taking that first step, then the next, 'til I get a little snowball action goin' on heh-heh...it's never fast enough for me though, hahaha!

Sometimes I do leap into the fire though, throwing caution to the wind! Woot! Burn baby burn! Trial by fire, ouch, it comes with the territory. Don't wanna be a puritan or a wimp? It can be so gut wrenching though & somedays I'm just so broken about it. That's when I wish my magical powers would just kick in already so as to bypass this messiness. Yet, that's what I came here for, the ride, right? I can't just scream stop the roller coaster, I've changed my mind, it's too daunting & scary? Not how it works. So I am doing whatever works for me, baby steps if need be & I am constantly recalibrating & keeping tuned into my wily heart! Yeah fun! Food for thought when all I want is to feed my heart & soul...my mind just effs things up! LOL!!! Thanks for the fun convo y'all!!!

Any helpful hints would be most welcome too. I am confused about navigating boundaries in new romances. Ya know not scaring people away before you even have a chance to see what it's all about? I think I must be a scary person because I have not had much experience in all of my years? What exactly scares people away? Maybe I am too honest? How can that be? And if they are scared then that must mean they're not for me anyway? LOL!!! I remain confused Oh well, I like a good mystery LOL!!! Happy humpin'...or not! Woot!

[Hapafreak of the Universe]

I just read that the forums are going bye bye, wah! I haven't been on here cuz too much goin on in non-cyber life. So here's the deal, yes, I need the whole package & am not able to make myself sample the field with random sexual encounters...it's just not how I'm wired, mulled it over a whole helluva lot and no can do. In my mind it sounds reasonable, but the risk involved on multiple levels outweighs the benefits...plus it is not appealing when I imagine myself trying out sex with multiple people whom I really don't want a meaningful relationship with.

Too much investment of energy & risk of std's for a brief encounter of little substance, just for the thrill of variety or what have you, the adventure, the conquest, the different anatomy/technique/facial expressions, the ego boost, the sense of naughtiness/thrill? Idk...I'd rather have deep intimate loving intense connection & trust that comes with a relationship paired with sex. Unconditional love & oneness & celebration with someone you are purely aligned with & can build a life with. To go on adventures with a love of your life. So I need it all. As for poly? That I would need to work up to, don't know if there's enough of me to go around that way...too intense is my focus...maybe after years with one, I could add another, lmao!

I still have a hard time understanding the things I most often see with people in relationships. There will be a monogamous couple & the whole time, the man is having sex outside the relationship & lying, or vice versa. Why not be honest & have an open relationship. I don't understand why so much twisted logic. Why people say they love one another & then lie for the whole time they're together? Having to sneak & hide themselves from their partner & likely feeling badly about it, if not consciously, subconsciously. I just don't get it & so much in this world doesn't make a damn lick of sense...the things people do? I tell myself well everyone's different & it's right for them & if they're ok with it then why bother my little head trying to figure it out, what drives people to behave the way they do, myself included, lol....I don't always make sense to myself....but eventually I figure it out. I am by no means perfect...who is. I see people struggle so with themselves & that fearful way of being...wish it could be different & people could learn to be more truthful, accepting of themselves & happy, myself included

Like me trying to force myself into trying something because everyone else does, so there must be merit in it right? I'm gonna have to pass on that whole random sex with many people thing for now, lol Maybe when I'm 90 in a nursing home :P heh heh

I love this forum, sorry I didn't take advantage of it more often. Love y'all!!! <3