Is it advisable to have had a variety of sexual relations before I croak?

[Hapafreak of the Universe]

OM*G!!!! Hahahahahahahahahahahahaha! WOW! Y'all are too much...FUN! Thanks for all of your helpful & entertaining feedback. No, I am married, so yes, I wonder if I may've missed out & I do plan on sowing me wild oats & maybe kiss a few girls?! Not croaking anytime soon I hope! I'd say it is a definite yes to further explorations, in the future before I croak, though what y'all do with me after is totally fine by me! I apologize for not being on here enough to enjoy the witty fun! Thanks y'all!

[Plays With Life]

Originally Posted by Hapafreak of the Universe

& I do plan on sowing me wild oats & maybe kiss a few girls?!

Yum. Send photos.

[Zach M]

Where is Wax Frog?

[Hapafreak of the Universe]

LOL! I love taking photos, heh-heh! Wax Frog? Ribbet... I have another question, being safe? I like it messy, how do you know when it's really safe? Do you carry all that gear everywhere in case opportunity knocks? When is it safe to trust someone, what do you do get blood tests? Ha!

[rei]

Originally Posted by Hapafreak of the Universe

LOL! I love taking photos, heh-heh! Wax Frog? Ribbet... I have another question, being safe? I like it messy, how do you know when it's really safe? Do you carry all that gear everywhere in case opportunity knocks? When is it safe to trust someone, what do you do get blood tests? Ha!

Condoms don't take up so much space, especially if you have a purse... I once ordered a toy and it came with several single-use lube packets. You could probably find them (it was called O-boy or something), if you wanted something like that.

The safest thing to do is get blood tests if you want to play unprotected. You're not just sleeping with that person, you're sleeping with them plus everyone they've been with when it comes to this sort of thing (and people can lie about their numbers if they think you'll be more likely to do it unprotected). The risk is real, and you can't always just "examine" them and trust what you see. They could have something and just not have visible symptoms, but you could still get it. So, condoms are the safest thing, unless you've both been tested, and seen the results of the tests. It's your choice, though. If you want messy, just be prepared for the possible consequences.

Yeah, I know, not very jokey... but that's not stuff I'd want to joke about...
(Did you see the gross-out videos in your Sex Ed class? Or did you not have the joys of scare-tactic-sex-ed? )

[pyrogen]

I'm going to break with the general consensus of "ZOMG must has lotz of l33t s3xx0rz!!" that I've seen in most male or coed communities (and not surprisingly, it's almost the opposite in female-based communities that I've been in).

Fifteen one night stands in a year is not one year of sexual experience. It's one night, fifteen times.

Also, past a certain point, you tend to get jaded... and it's not fun being with people who are jaded. Why do you think so many men (and now women) are attracted to younger people? It's the "freshness" in so many respects, being taken at face value and not being compared to their 20 other lovers.

[Hapafreak of the Universe]

Hmmmm....yeah, Rei, not worth the risk. It's messy in so many ways. I am tending to think that I will explore, but not as much as I fantasize about, LOL! When I put myself in that situation in my mind, visualizing how I may feel just having casual sex, it doesn't sit right. I probably will have to become friends first & build up to sexual intimacy, I feel that I may need that emotional connection, a sense of trust as well, why is that? Why can some have recreational sex & others not? I see nothing "wrong" per se about it, so why can't I just hump around to try it? Why do I have to be attracted physically & also have emotional connection in order to be sexual? Is it from social conditioning or is it just how I am so why make myself try something that's just not me? How to tell the difference? Or am I just a big chicken?

And then there's the part where when there's emotional involvement people start getting all heart's brokenish, etc. Things may get awkward. Also why can't one have sexual intimacy & love with multiple people, polyamory. Why is there exclusiveness & possessiveness? Isn't there enough love to go around? Why so territorial? I also think, well how will I really know for sure how I may feel unless I try it? Can I know without having direct experience? Hmmmm...

Also I wonder...is there really such a big difference with different people? Like does penis size really matter or is it the motion of the ocean, I mean are there really some virtuosos out there? And doesn't the emotional connection & chemistry, that mysterious something something between those special people you meet that makes the world fall away, plunging into timelessness just by gazing into their eyes...those that pull that deep spot of burning hot passion from the core of you, just by being in their presence...make it more exquisite & worth waiting for? Do I just go after those who cause this response in me? Will I ever solve this mystery about why some(very few) people do this for me, invoke such a libidinous,from the depths of me, an all of me response...like I've always known them & loved them forever, though we've only just met, or really barely know one another? What is that?

Why can't I just compartmentalize sex, without attaching it with emotions? Is that even truly possible? Like how in that Steve Harvey book, he says men are simple(his polite way of saying"shallow', ha!) & if they can get away with it they'll have sex outside of a committed relationship without it meaning anything emotionally, like it's just purely a physical act? I just don't buy that. To me there is always subconscious motivation & emotion involved, like boosting ones' ego, thrill seeking etc. Is it possible to really separate all the intricacies in our most primal & beloved act, sexual union being the most immediate & closest to physically experiencing the rapture of god-like oneness?

And why commit if you are gonna hump around anyway? And maybe ya didn't think ya were gonna hump around, but once ya start, why not fess up & change the relationship so it's honest? Why risk the hurt & betrayal, because there's always the chance you'll be caught & why be so stupid?That just doesn't make sense to me? Why not find a lover where ya can be honest & have an open relationship? But it isn't always that easy, huh, especially later down the road when there're wee ones to consider. Ahhh, the conundrums, it is fascinating. Does one always do what makes them happiest by following ones' inner guidance, even if those in proximity may protest? In the grander scheme what matters most? Do you compromise to do what you think may be of highest good for all, or do ya do what fulfills your happiness the most?

Heh-heh, oopsie, telling on myself, LOL! Thanks for indulging my ramble. Y'all are so refreshing to chat with! XO (No, I haven't humped around, not that I haven't been seriously considering it! LOL! I'm working on honesty & courage, really I am! Ha!)

[Plays With Life]

Originally Posted by Hapafreak of the Universe

And doesn't the emotional connection & chemistry, that mysterious something something between those special people you meet that makes the world fall away, plunging into timelessness just by gazing into their eyes...those that pull that deep spot of burning hot passion from the core of you, just by being in their presence...make it more exquisite & worth waiting for? Do I just go after those who cause this response in me?

Yow. I vote you go for those people.

Originally Posted by Hapafreak of the Universe

Why can't I just compartmentalize sex, without attaching it with emotions? Is that even truly possible? Like how in that Steve Harvey book, he says men are simple(his polite way of saying"shallow', ha!) & if they can get away with it they'll have sex outside of a committed relationship without it meaning anything emotionally, like it's just purely a physical act?

Try taking some testosterone, and see how you feel about sex.

Originally Posted by Hapafreak of the Universe

Is it possible to really separate all the intricacies in our most primal & beloved act, sexual union being the most immediate & closest to physically experiencing the rapture of god-like oneness?

This is a really cool way to think of it. I think lots of people don't think of it in those terms - a beloved act, god-like oneness. For those people, it's probably not too difficult to just shag away without compunction.

Originally Posted by Hapafreak of the Universe

And why commit if you are gonna hump around anyway? And maybe ya didn't think ya were gonna hump around, but once ya start, why not fess up & change the relationship so it's honest? Why risk the hurt & betrayal, because there's always the chance you'll be caught & why be so stupid?That just doesn't make sense to me? Why not find a lover where ya can be honest & have an open relationship?

In some cultures, it's the accepted thing to do. Latin American men have almost a social pressure on them to cheat. It's about keeping your wife pure - if you want to enjoy sex without shame, you have to do it with mistresses.

Originally Posted by Hapafreak of the Universe

But it isn't always that easy, huh, especially later down the road when there're wee ones to consider.

Yeah, I vote people end unpleasant relationships, including when there are kids. It sounds so odd to me: "Well, we're staying together - For The Kids". Oh, so you're maintaining your own discontent .. For The Kids? Gee, that will really do them a lot of good.

Originally Posted by Hapafreak of the Universe

(No, I haven't humped around, not that I haven't been seriously considering it! LOL! I'm working on honesty & courage, really I am! Ha!)

I want to hear all about it, when you do.

[James Fletcher]

Yes.

It's not for everyone, but it is something that feels right for me.

[Hapafreak of the Universe]

Originally Posted by Plays With Life

Yow. I vote you go for those people.

Just these people?

Try taking some testosterone, and see how you feel about sex.

Hmmm...I wonder if any one has studied the transgender & if  thinking with the penis happens after the change? Ya mean testosterone makes one purely hedonistic & primevally driven? Where does heart & mind come into play, ya know the larger perspective? Is it ever that simple, it feels good, so I do it? How smart is that? What about emotional maturity & responsibility/accountability? What if a guy's woman cheats on him in a committed relationship? Why the double standard?

This is a really cool way to think of it. I think lots of people don't think of it in those terms - a beloved act, god-like oneness. For those people, it's probably not too difficult to just shag away without compunction.

"Cup o' tea, cup o' tea...almost got shagged, cup o' tea?"

In some cultures, it's the accepted thing to do. Latin American men have almost a social pressure on them to cheat. It's about keeping your wife pure - if you want to enjoy sex without shame, you have to do it with mistresses.

That is so illogical & twisted, "pure?" That is laughable. But I know everyone thinks differently & social conditioning is insidious!

Yeah, I vote people end unpleasant relationships, including when there are kids. It sounds so odd to me: "Well, we're staying together - For The Kids". Oh, so you're maintaining your own discontent .. For The Kids? Gee, that will really do them a lot of good.

Yeah, well easier said than done when you are wading in the gray muck (raises eyebrows & shrugs resignedly).

I want to hear all about it, when you do.

Yeah...I'll dedicate a blog just for you! Hapafreak Humpin' Around the Universe- Unrated edition with Special Bonus Features! LOL! You are naughty, smart & sweet...don't make me get my cougar on! Rawrrr....hiss...paw swipe! Woot! You must have a porn habit? Or what? LOL! Hey I am learning how to do this forum thingy now with the quotes & all that, I did it! Hope I remember how to do it right next time! Thanks y'all for answering my musings! XO

[Hapafreak of the Universe]

Damn, I still didn't get it right, your quotes are interspersed with mine, sigh... oh well I'll figure it out eventually! LOL!

[Plays With Life]

Originally Posted by Hapafreak of the Universe

Just these people?

No point in sexing people you're not attracted to.

Originally Posted by Hapafreak of the Universe

Hmmm...I wonder if any one has studied the transgender & if thinking with the penis happens after the change? Ya mean testosterone makes one purely hedonistic & primevally driven? Where does heart & mind come into play, ya know the larger perspective? Is it ever that simple, it feels good, so I do it? How smart is that? What about emotional maturity & responsibility/accountability? What if a guy's woman cheats on him in a committed relationship? Why the double standard?

I've read about women who have sex-changed to male. They take testosterone (and maybe other male hormones?). They usually say something like this:

"CHRIST! Now I know what men feel like when they get SO HORNY! I feel like I just need to hump something, it doesn't matter what!"

The testosterone-driven sex drive can be pretty intense. It has a sense of imperativeness to it - ie, Have To Do It NOW. Women who have high testosterone on their own have a similar experience.

Originally Posted by Hapafreak of the Universe

Yeah...I'll dedicate a blog just for you! Hapafreak Humpin' Around the Universe- Unrated edition with Special Bonus Features! LOL! You are naughty, smart & sweet...don't make me get my cougar on! Rawrrr....hiss...paw swipe! Woot! You must have a porn habit? Or what? LOL! Hey I am learning how to do this forum thingy now with the quotes & all that, I did it! Hope I remember how to do it right next time! Thanks y'all for answering my musings! XO

Perfect! If you were in porn, I might develop a porn habit. *tickles you*

And be careful with cougaring me. I might pounce you right back.

[Plays With Life]

Originally Posted by Hapafreak of the Universe

Damn, I still didn't get it right, your quotes are interspersed with mine, sigh... oh well I'll figure it out eventually! LOL!

I actually wrap each individual quote in its own quote tags.

[ QUOTE ]Some quote here[/ QUOTE ]

My response

[ QUOTE ]Some other quote here[/ QUOTE ]

My response

Only without the spaces in the quote tags.

[Hapafreak of the Universe]

But I am not attracted like this to many at all, though I am attracted in more superficial ways to many? It's like I want that deep, passion, that all encompassing rapture, not just some piddly ****?! I can diddle myself!

I do get extremely, intensely horny, but only about certain people, like the aformentioned, the ones that make me feel "that" way. And it is torture when the one that does it like this for you is not available & vice versa, not even the chance to get it on, but just thinking about it sends ya into a tailspin, so that ya know if it ever really happened it might just blow you away & ruin you for life, hahahahahahaha!

OMG! Giggle! Rawr!!! I don't scare easily! Purr...LOL! Yeah, I still haven't quite figured out how to work this thing, I'll keep playing around 'til I get right, LOL! I tried to do the quote wrappy thingy, but, sigh. Later! Tickles back.

[pyrogen]

Originally Posted by Hapafreak of the Universe

But I am not attracted like this to many at all, though I am attracted in more superficial ways to many? It's like I want that deep, passion, that all encompassing rapture, not just some piddly ****?! I can diddle myself!

I do get extremely, intensely horny, but only about certain people, like the aformentioned, the ones that make me feel "that" way. And it is torture when the one that does it like this for you is not available & vice versa, not even the chance to get it on, but just thinking about it sends ya into a tailspin, so that ya know if it ever really happened it might just blow you away & ruin you for life, hahahahahahaha!

OMG! Giggle! Rawr!!! I don't scare easily! Purr...LOL! Yeah, I still haven't quite figured out how to work this thing, I'll keep playing around 'til I get right, LOL! I tried to do the quote wrappy thingy, but, sigh. Later! Tickles back.

Sounds like you want the whole package. That's fine. Don't settle, just calibrate better for "whole package"... work on relationship skills and friendship skills. I'm guessing that you probably couldn't deal with casual sex. Your intensity says as much. If you're that "hot" for someone then it is very much a whole-person affair as opposed to a groin affair. You probably would be very hurt if you got involved with someone sexually and they weren't interested in the whole person, just your groin.

Don't let people talk you out of the whole package. If you "settle", you'll just end up bitter, then find out that the whole package doesn't want *you*. Your energy will change, you'll expose yourself to more hurt than necessary, and people pick up on it, and it can be very hard to get that energy *back*. I've seen it happen with several people.

I agree that people shouldn't go out of their way to avoid hurt, but at the same time, they shouldn't *chase* hurt, either.

[Plays With Life]

Originally Posted by Hapafreak of the Universe

But I am not attracted like this to many at all, though I am attracted in more superficial ways to many? It's like I want that deep, passion, that all encompassing rapture, not just some piddly ****?! I can diddle myself!

Well, it seems like the word "superficial" usually has some unpleasant connotations. If you wanted to sleep with people you feel that less-intense attraction to, you could change the way you're thinking about that attraction. Rather than "superficial" - it's simply attraction. It's not quite as intense, or world-shaking as the attraction you feel for some other people. But that doesn't drop it down into a "not good enough" category of attraction. Just a less-intense category of attraction - and still pleasant, and still good enough for me to enjoy sex with that person.

Originally Posted by Hapafreak of the Universe

I do get extremely, intensely horny, but only about certain people, like the aformentioned, the ones that make me feel "that" way. And it is torture when the one that does it like this for you is not available & vice versa, not even the chance to get it on, but just thinking about it sends ya into a tailspin, so that ya know if it ever really happened it might just blow you away & ruin you for life, hahahahahahaha!

Or you could just go for these people. That sounds just spectacular. It makes me want to tie you up and tease you for days on end. I wonder how horny you can really get?

Whoops, did I say that out loud?

Originally Posted by Hapafreak of the Universe

OMG! Giggle! Rawr!!! I don't scare easily! Purr...LOL!

*pounces you and pins you down and tickles you some more*

You feisty girl, you.

Originally Posted by Hapafreak of the Universe

Yeah, I still haven't quite figured out how to work this thing, I'll keep playing around 'til I get right, LOL! I tried to do the quote wrappy thingy, but, sigh. Later! Tickles back.

*laughs and pinches you*

See you later.

[MidasGirl]

Originally Posted by Plays With Life

*pounces you and pins you down and tickles you some more*

You feisty girl, you.

All this time I thought Hapafreak was a guy.

[Plays With Life]

Originally Posted by MidasGirl

All this time I thought Hapafreak was a guy.

So did I, at first. At some point I started thinking Hapafreak is a girl. Now that you mention it, I'm not sure.

Either way, I want to do the tied-up-and-teased situation with Hapafreak.

[MidasGirl]

Oh you slut!

Whatever the case, Hapafreak is a hoot

[Plays With Life]

Originally Posted by MidasGirl

Oh you slut!

Hey, it's not like I'm charging.

But maybe I should. I *am* pretty good at teasing.

Originally Posted by MidasGirl

Whatever the case, Hapafreak is a hoot

Agreed.

[Hapafreak of the Universe]

Hahahahahahaha! OMG! I am using the computer at the library & am having to laugh silently! Y'all are too much! And I am female but am flattered that y'all couldn't really tell. I don't like to be limited by labels & gender and am expanding my boundaries, so thanks! Hot damn y'all've got me all worked up so early in my day! I am gonna be all flushed and touchy feely at my love lunch with friends, yeah baby! Rawr! YOU! Rawr! Don't get me started!!! I am so curious & have not been tested...yet....teased....yet....tied up & pinned down....yet.....oh how badly do I wanna say UNCLE!!! Hahahahahaha! Tickle, pinch, twist & flicker...LOL!

Yes, that's what I'm saying...I could do it with those I feel less intensely about, but would it be worth it, ya know? I think you may be right Pyrogen, thanks! But I do believe that I will have to have direct experience in order to know for sure, so bring on the hurt! I'll take that risk until I've figured it out.

Yes I want it all, I want to reach ever greater heights in all of my endeavors, but most of all I wanna savor that ride & be a blissful force in this universe. Giddy up! Yee haw! Bliss me baby! Hopefully one day I can live up to my talk! Hahahahaha! Thanks y'all! Love y'all! XXXXXOOOOO

[Andrew Gubb]

Sex is fun

[Hapafreak of the Universe]

LOL! Andrew, uh....duh?! Hahahahahahaha!

[Andrew Gubb]

XD I just felt like contributing that

If you like fun things, sex would be good for you.

Recent research suggests that fun prevents boredom and slows the process of aging.

[Hapafreak of the Universe]

Lm*o! Thanks you!

[pyrogen]

Hapafreak:

Kissing girls isn't that much different from kissing guys, other than social shock value and lack of facial hair. Women can be as bad of kissers as guys can be.

Just like with guys, what makes it good is all how you feel about the individual girl in question. I adored mine (she was my g/f) so that helped.

[Plays With Life]

Originally Posted by Hapafreak of the Universe

Hot damn y'all've got me all worked up so early in my day! I am gonna be all flushed and touchy feely at my love lunch with friends, yeah baby! Rawr! YOU! Rawr! Don't get me started!!!

Yum about the flushed and touchy-feely.

Originally Posted by Hapafreak of the Universe

I am so curious & have not been tested...yet....teased....yet....tied up & pinned down....yet.....oh how badly do I wanna say UNCLE!!! Hahahahahaha! Tickle, pinch, twist & flicker...LOL!

I'd be *happy* to make you say all sorts of things.

Originally Posted by Hapafreak of the Universe

Yes I want it all, I want to reach ever greater heights in all of my endeavors, but most of all I wanna savor that ride & be a blissful force in this universe. Giddy up! Yee haw! Bliss me baby! Hopefully one day I can live up to my talk! Hahahahaha! Thanks y'all! Love y'all! XXXXXOOOOO

Blissing you sounds very yummy.

[Hapafreak of the Universe]

Pyrogen...really? I was thinking it would be more luscious, smooth/silky & deeper, more impassioned with a woman, but I guess it really always depends on how one feels with the person. How that person evokes you is paramount, so that's why I have a difficult time understanding how sex could be categorized as "meaningless" or purely physical. From my view it is ever so complex & mysterious, which I adore. Something I just can't pin down, so much to explore. So tantalizing & vast. Like no matter how many adventures, the more experience I garner, the more I will realize there is so much more that I want to discover & probably will not exhaust this hunger to my satisfaction ever? I guess that's life, huh?

Plays With Life...yum yum yummy & fun YOU are! Make me? I'd like to see you try! Hahahahahahahaha! ;D

[Plays With Life]

Originally Posted by Hapafreak of the Universe

From my view it is ever so complex & mysterious, which I adore. Something I just can't pin down, so much to explore. So tantalizing & vast. Like no matter how many adventures, the more experience I garner, the more I will realize there is so much more that I want to discover & probably will not exhaust this hunger to my satisfaction ever? I guess that's life, huh?

Yow. I love that view of it.

Originally Posted by Hapafreak of the Universe

Plays With Life...yum yum yummy & fun YOU are! Make me? I'd like to see you try! Hahahahahahahaha! ;D

I see you begging me for the opportunity to say something. If you don't know how to beg - that's OK, I'll train you.

And if you don't think you can take any more tickling after 10 minutes - that's OK, I'll show you just how much you can take.

And if you think you're going to burst after 2 days of teasing and no release - don't worry, I'll be happy to tease you some more. Don't go touching yourself, or I'll have to punish you. This is when you'll start learning how to beg.

[Hapafreak of the Universe]

Ummm....(speechless & wide eyed...slaps self in the face)!!! ****! That is so not right, I'm at work now and fanning myself, whew!!! uh...uh...oh my....sigh...oh I am weaker than I expected?! I am wanting to beg already? Wha?