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180 · 04-11-2010, 01:10 PM

Cause I'm not.

In fact, I could be souless. There's not a funny bone in my body. And actually I have an inferiority complex because I lost the girlfriend I loved to a "funny" guy.

So like any man, I'm "evolving" and trying to learn how to be funny. Really sucks. I'd have a better time teaching mice break dancing.

Any advice? Hell any comment on why women love funny guys would be great too.

elucidate · 04-11-2010, 01:22 PM

I don't know...that line about having a better time teaching mice to breakdance was kinda funny I thought. Are you sure you're not funny?

I used to think I wasn't funny, and some people didn't think so either, but some did. It all depends on the individuals idea of what funny is. Maybe you're funnier than you think?

Mounds · 04-11-2010, 01:35 PM

It takes practice. I used to be the quietist guy in the room. Now I can make the room laugh pretty much anytime I want.
A big thing is not to take it too far though. Then you cross the line from funny into annoying.

180 · 04-11-2010, 01:40 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mounds

It takes practice. I used to be the quietist guy in the room. Now I can make the room laugh pretty much anytime I want.
A big thing is not to take it too far though. Then you cross the line from funny into annoying.

Advice always welcomed ^^

I've been searching the internet for a while on this... "Funny" thing.
As far as I can gander, funny is a realease of Endorphins and an increase of T-cells that improve immunity.

That's about all I've learned.

Martyn13 · 04-11-2010, 01:59 PM

Compatibility is intimately associated with a similar sense of humour.
If you pretend to have a different sense of humour to what you really have, you won't meet a compatible partner.
You need to be yourself.
If you feel like being funny, but haven't got the confidence, that's different -
but if you just don't need to be funny, then I would suggest
'To thine own self be true'

180 · 04-11-2010, 02:01 PM

Basically what I'm understanding is that I should just give up.

Donkey1 · 04-11-2010, 02:19 PM

Break dancing mice are generally pretty funny. Especially if you dress them up in little hats and canes.

brendannz · 04-11-2010, 02:22 PM

Yes, I'm sometimes funny. In real life, I'm often spontaneously funny, but not funny when I'm trying to be, so I'm like a clown rather than a comedian.. It's a matter of not thinking, really

Because if you have a sense of humour, it shows you have a soul. It breaks the ice. I think, most guys I know aren't funny, and people who are always trying to be funny aren't funny, and sometimes just put other people down by trying. Maybe you need to learn to laugh with people, rather than learn to make people laugh, does that make sense?

supertom · 04-11-2010, 02:27 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by 180

Basically what I'm understanding is that I should just give up.

*grabs him, slaps him in the face!!!

you can do this man, your not the first person this has happen to or the last, your not the first person thats has been humorless and became funny, jim carey used to get booed off the stage

you can do this!!

<insert powerful eye contact here>

180 · 04-11-2010, 02:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by supertom

*grabs him, slaps him in the face!!!

you can do this man, your not the first person this has happen to or the last, your not the first person thats has been humorless and became funny, jim carey used to get booed off the stage

you can do this!!

<insert powerful eye contact here>

Your avatar scares the crap out of me

Sonnenblume · 04-11-2010, 03:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by 180

Your avatar scares the crap out of me

And I just thought what a beautiful new avatar this is - I know this picture because it's on the box of a card deck of mine!

elucidate · 04-11-2010, 03:31 PM

You're not understanding anything if you are coming to this conclusion.

Quote:

Originally Posted by 180

Basically what I'm understanding is that I should just give up.

180 · 04-11-2010, 03:34 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by elucidate

You're not understanding anything if you are coming to this conclusion.

it was a joke....

see how bad it is?

rei · 04-11-2010, 03:39 PM

I thought you knew you were witty

I can be funny when I want to be but it's not "on" all the time because, well, I am not much for being an entertainer. But I have my moments...

Are you sure this girl chose the guy because she thought he was funny and you weren't? Could it be his brand of humor matched her needs more, or even maybe she just didn't want to hurt you so she focused on this as the reason?

I find it hard to believe that you aren't aware of being a funny person...

I guess you could try spending less time listening to neurotic Victorian women talk about their fathers, and use that new free time to explore your inner comedian...

James81 · 04-11-2010, 07:37 PM

Why would you study the internet to try and be funny?

Want to know how you can learn to be funny? Watch funny people.

Go grab some stand up comedy, watch comedy movies, ready comedy books.

In other words, immerse yourself in comedy and release your "critical" eye for that kind of thing and just go with it. The more you immerse yourself in that kind of thing, the funnier you'll become.

Monkey see, monkey do.

dulaney0330 · 04-11-2010, 07:44 PM

I can empathise with your post.

Part of the reason for my seriousness is my struggle with social anxiety. I don't have a knack for cracking jokes but doing funny things. I looked up a resturant's menu online to see if they had a cuban sandwich. My boss thought this was funny of me and tells me I am funny.

Another person may not find this funny. Like another poster said, it all depends on the person. Some of my humor is random, odd. Some people are turned off by that. But, at least its genuine instead of trying to be something I am not.

I've found the more relaxed one is, the more likely play and fun is shown.

ssandra · 04-11-2010, 08:22 PM

I'm only funny for a very select group of people

At the moment it's just me.

Honestly, I'm not funny at all in general. I can make comments at times that come out funny or tell a funny story, which I see as true, but almost never because I try to be funny.

Once I told the story of the bible with my own interpretation. One of the things was that Jesus was the very first hippie. Not extremely funny in my eyes but the people in the car were laughing... ?

I don't want a funny guy either. I want somebody who cares, who loves, who I can talk seriously to. Funny is overrated.

Piercetheveil · 04-11-2010, 08:29 PM

Yes, I am funny. I know my humor style. Not everyone finds me humorous. Those people are idiots.

My humor has been learned. I have always appreciated humor and laughed often. Getting around funny people, watching sitcoms, stand-ups and noticing what other people found funny helped me. Knowing myself helped me the best. I tend to be a story teller and am highly observant so I pick up on stuff, wrap a story around it and serve it up for the diners to enjoy.

In short, I am funny because I say so. Unless you are an idiot. Most people do not want to be idiots so they laugh.

Tanja · 04-11-2010, 09:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by 180

And actually I have an inferiority complex because I lost the girlfriend I loved to a "funny" guy.

As rei said, I'm sure on the surface it may seem so, but i think ''being funny'' was maybe just one of the reasons or didn't even play a role (you interpreted it that way).

Quote:

Originally Posted by 180

see how bad it is?

Well.. I thought this was funny

As other people have said, you can learn how to do it, I've seen people do it.
And I agree with dulaney0330, ''trying too hard'' to be funny only creates pressure, so take baby steps...''the more relaxed one is, the more likely play and fun is shown.''

My sense of humour has always been my ''strong'' point (

) but I haven't really analyzed it that much.
I'm not sure if sense of humour is important for men as well (i mean when looking for partners) cuz I've come across some men that felt they had to 'compete'' with me

Or maybe that's just me...I bring out the best in people

jeff18wall · 04-12-2010, 04:16 AM

I am very funny or that is what people tell me. I am naturally funny, but have a extremely hard time being funny on command.

Cloverhart · 04-12-2010, 04:25 AM

Everybody is funny to someone, but I admit, if I don't find a man funny, I wouldn't even consider being with him.. laughter is important.

EllieN · 04-12-2010, 04:30 AM

180, whenever you post something, I always read it in the voice of how I picture your default picture's guy would say it. He's like walking around with that cigar, contemplating things and scratching his head with maybe a dark colored cat mingling around in the room somewhere.

supertom · 04-12-2010, 05:05 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by 180

Your avatar scares the crap out of me

was this a joke?? well done if it was

are you a robot sent from the future to destroy conscious people??

Piercetheveil · 04-12-2010, 05:49 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cloverhart

Everybody is funny to someone, but I admit, if I don't find a man funny, I wouldn't even consider being with him.. laughter is important.

Bet.

ssandra · 04-12-2010, 05:53 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cloverhart

Everybody is funny to someone, but I admit, if I don't find a man funny, I wouldn't even consider being with him.. laughter is important.

Laughter is overrated. If I want to laugh, I'll watch a sitcome, a comedian or read a joke.

If I want to make love, be cared for, be listened to, be loved... that I cannot get anywhere else...

Piercetheveil · 04-12-2010, 06:32 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ssandra

Laughter is overrated. If I want to laugh, I'll watch a sitcome, a comedian or read a joke.

If I want to make love, be cared for, be listened to, be loved... that I cannot get anywhere else...

Fortunately I do all the above perfectly. In fact, my former wife told me just recently (3 years ago) PTV, you are so perfectly perfect I am not sure it is fair for me to keep you married. I wish for you to be free. Spread your good tidings to all.

True story.

Gracestars · 04-12-2010, 06:46 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Piercetheveil

My humor has been learned. I have always appreciated humor and laughed often. Getting around funny people, watching sitcoms, stand-ups and noticing what other people found funny helped me.

...and stealing other funny people's funny lines.

Piercetheveil · 04-12-2010, 06:50 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gracestars

...and stealing other funny people's funny lines.

The HELLZ you say! I believe that...

See, you tried but ya can't. You can't get me off this topic. Why? Because people that know funny know how to keep the focus. Always bringin stuff back around.

And I know funny.

While you are up grace ya think you could be a doll and...

Gracestars · 04-12-2010, 06:56 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Piercetheveil

The HELLZ you say! I believe that...

See, you tried but ya can't. You can't get me off this topic. Why? Because people that know funny know how to keep the focus. Always bringin stuff back around.

And I know funny.

While you are up grace ya think you could be a doll and...

Sorry, what? you lost me at focus.

Piercetheveil · 04-12-2010, 07:01 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gracestars

Sorry, what? you lost me at focus.

And you had me at "How can I make you more comfortable Mister?"

04-11-2010, 01:10 PM	#1 (permalink)
180 Family Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 1,356	Are you funny? Cause I'm not. In fact, I could be souless. There's not a funny bone in my body. And actually I have an inferiority complex because I lost the girlfriend I loved to a "funny" guy. So like any man, I'm "evolving" and trying to learn how to be funny. Really sucks. I'd have a better time teaching mice break dancing. Any advice? Hell any comment on why women love funny guys would be great too.

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elucidate Banned Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Melbourne, Australia Posts: 12,751	I don't know...that line about having a better time teaching mice to breakdance was kinda funny I thought. Are you sure you're not funny? I used to think I wasn't funny, and some people didn't think so either, but some did. It all depends on the individuals idea of what funny is. Maybe you're funnier than you think?

04-11-2010, 01:35 PM	#3 (permalink)
Mounds Family Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 3,853	It takes practice. I used to be the quietist guy in the room. Now I can make the room laugh pretty much anytime I want. A big thing is not to take it too far though. Then you cross the line from funny into annoying.

04-11-2010, 01:59 PM	#5 (permalink)
Martyn13 Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 169	Compatibility is intimately associated with a similar sense of humour. If you pretend to have a different sense of humour to what you really have, you won't meet a compatible partner. You need to be yourself. If you feel like being funny, but haven't got the confidence, that's different - but if you just don't need to be funny, then I would suggest 'To thine own self be true'

04-11-2010, 02:01 PM	#6 (permalink)
180 Family Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 1,356	Basically what I'm understanding is that I should just give up.

04-11-2010, 02:19 PM	#7 (permalink)
Donkey1 Banned Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 347	Break dancing mice are generally pretty funny. Especially if you dress them up in little hats and canes.

04-11-2010, 02:22 PM	#8 (permalink)
brendannz Family Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 3,612	Yes, I'm sometimes funny. In real life, I'm often spontaneously funny, but not funny when I'm trying to be, so I'm like a clown rather than a comedian.. It's a matter of not thinking, really Because if you have a sense of humour, it shows you have a soul. It breaks the ice. I think, most guys I know aren't funny, and people who are always trying to be funny aren't funny, and sometimes just put other people down by trying. Maybe you need to learn to laugh with people, rather than learn to make people laugh, does that make sense?

04-11-2010, 03:39 PM	#14 (permalink)
rei Family Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: earth, everywhere and nowhere Posts: 9,713	I thought you knew you were witty I can be funny when I want to be but it's not "on" all the time because, well, I am not much for being an entertainer. But I have my moments... Are you sure this girl chose the guy because she thought he was funny and you weren't? Could it be his brand of humor matched her needs more, or even maybe she just didn't want to hurt you so she focused on this as the reason? I find it hard to believe that you aren't aware of being a funny person... I guess you could try spending less time listening to neurotic Victorian women talk about their fathers, and use that new free time to explore your inner comedian...

04-11-2010, 07:37 PM	#15 (permalink)
James81 Banned Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 12,690	Why would you study the internet to try and be funny? Want to know how you can learn to be funny? Watch funny people. Go grab some stand up comedy, watch comedy movies, ready comedy books. In other words, immerse yourself in comedy and release your "critical" eye for that kind of thing and just go with it. The more you immerse yourself in that kind of thing, the funnier you'll become. Monkey see, monkey do.

04-11-2010, 07:44 PM	#16 (permalink)
dulaney0330 Retired Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 1,448	I can empathise with your post. Part of the reason for my seriousness is my struggle with social anxiety. I don't have a knack for cracking jokes but doing funny things. I looked up a resturant's menu online to see if they had a cuban sandwich. My boss thought this was funny of me and tells me I am funny. Another person may not find this funny. Like another poster said, it all depends on the person. Some of my humor is random, odd. Some people are turned off by that. But, at least its genuine instead of trying to be something I am not. I've found the more relaxed one is, the more likely play and fun is shown.

04-11-2010, 08:22 PM	#17 (permalink)
ssandra Banned Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Mexico City Posts: 11,168	I'm only funny for a very select group of people At the moment it's just me. Honestly, I'm not funny at all in general. I can make comments at times that come out funny or tell a funny story, which I see as true, but almost never because I try to be funny. Once I told the story of the bible with my own interpretation. One of the things was that Jesus was the very first hippie. Not extremely funny in my eyes but the people in the car were laughing... ? I don't want a funny guy either. I want somebody who cares, who loves, who I can talk seriously to. Funny is overrated.

04-11-2010, 08:29 PM	#18 (permalink)
Piercetheveil Family Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 1,070	Yes, I am funny. I know my humor style. Not everyone finds me humorous. Those people are idiots. My humor has been learned. I have always appreciated humor and laughed often. Getting around funny people, watching sitcoms, stand-ups and noticing what other people found funny helped me. Knowing myself helped me the best. I tend to be a story teller and am highly observant so I pick up on stuff, wrap a story around it and serve it up for the diners to enjoy. In short, I am funny because I say so. Unless you are an idiot. Most people do not want to be idiots so they laugh.

04-12-2010, 04:16 AM	#20 (permalink)
jeff18wall Junior Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Santa Cruz, Ca Posts: 22	I am very funny or that is what people tell me. I am naturally funny, but have a extremely hard time being funny on command.

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Cloverhart Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Kansas City, MO Posts: 237	Everybody is funny to someone, but I admit, if I don't find a man funny, I wouldn't even consider being with him.. laughter is important.

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EllieN Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 68	180, whenever you post something, I always read it in the voice of how I picture your default picture's guy would say it. He's like walking around with that cigar, contemplating things and scratching his head with maybe a dark colored cat mingling around in the room somewhere.

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