Woman: Poems, do you dig them?

[Eric L]

Ok ladies, lay it out to me.

I am quite the Don Juan with poems, I **** you not. I am writing one for my lady friend who I love. I am not infatuated or out of control, I just simply love her. The healthy kind of love. The kind that enjoys her company and smile. I decided I am going to write the best love poem to her and trust me, it is capable of making any of you quiver in thoughtlessness and lucid dreaming.

Short description of me: Fit, witty, successful, independent, ballsy, unafraid of confrontation. Studied every aspect of the human mind and body and have experience

If you we're to get a love poem from a young man such as this: What would be the reaction?

I think I will post the poem in this thread when I am done, just to give you a taste of the love I have for her.

[Angela]

I like what Elizabeth in Pride and Prejudice says about love poetry:

Elizabeth Bennet: I wonder who first discovered the power of poetry in driving away love?
Mr. Darcy: I thought that poetry was the food of love.
Elizabeth Bennet: Of a fine stout love, it may. But if it is only a vague inclination I'm convinced one poor sonnet will kill it stone dead
Mr. Darcy: So what do you recommend to encourage affection?
Elizabeth Bennet: Dancing. Even if one's partner is barely tolerable.

[James81]

Originally Posted by Angela

I like what Elizabeth in Pride and Prejudice says about love poetry:

Elizabeth Bennet: I wonder who first discovered the power of poetry in driving away love?
Mr. Darcy: I thought that poetry was the food of love.
Elizabeth Bennet: Of a fine stout love, it may. But if it is only a vague inclination I'm convinced one poor sonnet will kill it stone dead
Mr. Darcy: So what do you recommend to encourage affection?
Elizabeth Bennet: Dancing. Even if one's partner is barely tolerable.

LOL

So, not a fan of poetry eh?

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I hate poetry personally. And I've tried to WRITE poetry (thinking that, well, I'm a writer so i should be good at that ♥♥♥♥ right?) only to fail miserably and have it turn into prose about halfway through.

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I don't think women really care for poetry, but I also don't think they'd NOT care if you wrote them a poem either. I think their reaction would be "awww" or something like that, only to be mildly amused on the inside.

But then again, this depends on the person. Some women absolutely love it. But if she loves it, you would probably know it if you even know her at all.

[Moxie]

I really love good poetry, but, when getting poetry from a guy, it completely depends on his intention with it. Is he giving me the poem to get something from me? Or is it just an outpouring of such intense feelings that he had to share them (good)? Makes a huge difference. I dated one guy for about a month who wrote me long poems every day. They were filled with his need, brokenness, wishes, desires, putting me on a pedestal , etc - it was more self-love then a wish for true partnership - and he didn't really know me. I stopped dating him because of the poetry really.

[rei]

i think it's really sweet to get original poetry from a guy... even if the poetry isn't so good (former poetry graduate student here ).

but i would be turned off if he was giving it to me for the purpose of winning me with it. that's super conditional. and it would possibly even create a vibe of pressure which isn't conducive to a flowing progression in a relationship.

the answers to this q would depend on the woman. i remember my ex wrote a poem for me once (or i think he wrote two)... while i was a grad student studying poetry. i admired his courage to write it knowing i had a professional eye for it. and i really appreciated the gesture. the poetry itself wasn't even all that bad... could be because he listened to a lot of hip-hop.

i would personally find it overboard to get very sing-songy poetry (roses are red stuff)... blah... concrete images are better than abstract images.

[Weena]

how long have you been dating?

[180]

My fellow teacher who sits beside me tells me this great story about a guy she dated.

The man was quite handsome and pretty mysterious. When they started dating he sent over a bouquet of like 12 roses and a card with a poem (in English). She's an English teacher and she lives in Korea. So it it was obvious he painstakingly went through learning English or plagiarized. Either way I'd give him props.

The next day, she receives a text message.... lo and behold.

IT'S A POEM! oh my good gracious she thought what a sweet gesture. NOT ONLY THAT! it was her favorite English poem. Touched her heart.

The next day she received another poem... and the next day and the next day. Later she blocked him and broke up with him. The everyday poems became too much. But never told him lol. There's a thin strip of dental floss between romantic and creepy.



Anyways, as a man, I never liked poems. I never felt anything from them, and could never really appreciate them no matter how hard I tried. I think some women like poems, but it's rare. How often do people list off their top ten things as poems?

[votoshka]

Hmm looks like Eric has been banned. I wonder why???

[James81]

Originally Posted by votoshka

Hmm looks like Eric has been banned. I wonder why???

I've got a fiver that says he's Plato.

[Mounds]

Originally Posted by votoshka

Hmm looks like Eric has been banned. I wonder why???

The loss we have suffered...

[brendannz]

Originally Posted by James81

I've got a fiver that says he's Plato.

i don't think he was, but he had a similar attitude..

[MidasGirl]

I absolutely love a poem written just for me. Anything done just for me anyway. A good poem takes a lot of creative juices to produce. No different than a good painting.

[brendannz]

Here's a poem she might like..



and if she says your poetry sucks, you can always use the response White Ninja used.

[Weena]

Originally Posted by brendannz

i don't think he was, but he had a similar attitude..

Ditto, I do not think it was Plato.

I did notice though that his threads often end up locked. That's perhaps why he got banned.

[Weena]

Originally Posted by brendannz

Here's a poem she might like..



and if she says your poetry sucks, you can always use the response White Ninja used.

One from Black Books:

He writes awful, awful poems, listen to this:

"Visualise a bee,
You are its knees,
You waft through me like a summer's breeze,
Can I come round on Tuesday please?"

[Piercetheveil]

Since the poster that posted the post passed I will weigh in and say that poetry to a female seems good at the time.

Then upon looking back it seems oh so bad.

Then again I am not Felix Dennis. So, there.

I have done it. Prolly will again. However, it is rarely sunshine and roses and is jagged to make me feel less um feely.

[Cloverhart]

I agree that it depends on the person, some like poetry, others do not. However I think most women I know would definitely appreciate anything you put such effort into.

Hope she likes it!!

[Piercetheveil]

However I think most women I know would definitely appreciate anything you put such effort into.

Anything?

[moonrambler]

Originally Posted by votoshka

Hmm looks like Eric has been banned. I wonder why???

Name-calling, inappropriate comments, continuing with it after warning.