If a woman touches you casually does it always mean she likes you?

[brendannz]

Or usually?

[aelle]

Not always. It's very culture-dependent, and also depends on the relationship you have with that person already.

[NewSimon]

Yes it does. I find women kind of make a point of brushing against you or letting their leg touch yours if you're showing them interest that they like.

[blossom]

It depends on the woman. Some people are just very "touchy feely" others like to touch, though they aren't always respectful about whether the person they want to touch WANTS to be touched.
Other women will touch you casually to let you know they like you! It can be hard to interpret...you just have to feel it out and get to know the person I guess.

[brendannz]

Today I met some girl, and she gave me a hug, but she was really snuggly.. kinda like the female equivilent of a guy's Two Handed Handshake

[Rose of Cairo]

Define "likes".

In case you mean she's interested in something sexual and/or romantic, then I think it depends on a lot of factors: the person's character, their culture, the relationship you have with them...

I'm cuddly and touch other people a lot, and it for sure means I like them - like. As persons, or friends. It does not necessarily mean I'm interested in anything sexual or romantic.

I agree with aelle, it's also highly culture-dependent. When I moved from France to Germany, I was used to familiarly touch the people I liked, including men. Meant nothing. This led to a few embarrassing situations in Germany, because there they thought I was making advances to them. I had to get used to touching German people less.

Maybe observe what kind of culture this person comes from, and how cuddly she is in general, how much she touches other people. This could give you a clue.

[MidasGirl]

This is one I'm pretty sure women and men will have different takes on. Men will probably insist it does mean she likes you, and women will insist it doesn't always, or even often mean she likes you.

So what does it really mean? It takes the meaning you give it. And that is OK. It hurts nothing to believe a woman likes you even if she doesn't.

But to me personally, I know I touch guys even when I have no sexual attraction to them. I'm a touchy person and will place my hand on someone, male or female, just based on the fact that I'm comfortable with them. But when I'm attracted to a guy, if he's in close vicinity, then touching him is definitely likely to happen. Why would I stay off touching someone I'm attracted to? Makes no sense to me.

My guess Brendan is that though when a guy wants to believe a woman likes him, he may place a lot of meaning on her touching him. The touching in itself means nothing other than the meaning you give it.

[cylon]

Better than not touching you. And it's closer to liking you than not liking you.

Beats a slap across the face. Although that's usually a sign of liking you, too.

Touch is powerful. It's seldom a mistake. Whether it's friendship/romance/something inbetween is your job to figure out now.

You need to start noticing if her behavior is consistent, and seeing what's up.

[brendannz]

Yeah,

I've had a few times where a girl puts a firm hand on my upper forearm, and I just act confused and don't do anything. I guess that's a sign she likes you.

tap on the shoulder from a woman is just a friendly gesture though I suppose..

Cheers for feedback.

[brendannz]

Originally Posted by cylon

beats a slap across the face. Although that's usually a sign of liking you, too.

lol

[cylon]

Next time I would maybe amp up the flirting/teasing a bit. She might start playfully hitting you if she's interested.

Touch/body language/sexuality is the oldest form of communication we have and it bypasses language.

[Trezker]

People are very different when it comes to touching. Some people put their hands on you so much that you feel violated, others keep their hands strictly to themselves. And yet, both can feel the same way about you.

What you need to look at is what they're unconsciously doing with their face. That's where you really see emotions.

[Michael Chui]

It means she doesn't not-like you.

For the rest, you have to actually talk with her and ask.

[SJD715]

Originally Posted by aelle

Not always. It's very culture-dependent, and also depends on the relationship you have with that person already.

I agree here on the culture. Like Italians I know are always touching and talking with their hands. Also in what setting and who is the girl to you? A long time friend (you can tell then what it means). There are outgoing people that I know that are always touching while talking.

[cylon]

A follow up question would be fun.

"If you ask a girl if a woman touching you casually means she likes you, will the girl you're asking the question of 9 time out of 10 point out that it most likely does NOT mean she likes you?"

Lol.

[brendannz]

Originally Posted by cylon

A follow up question would be fun.

"If you ask a girl if a woman touching you casually means she likes you, will the girl you're asking the question of 9 time out of 10 point out that it most likely does NOT mean she likes you?"

Lol.

You could say; "So did you just touch my arm, because it means you want to sleep with me?"

[blossom]

Originally Posted by brendannz

You could say; "So did you just touch my arm, because it means you want to sleep with me?"

Might not want to say that exactly...but maybe look in her eyes when she looks at you. The eyes tell alot.

[Angelique]

Originally Posted by blossom

It depends on the woman. Some people are just very "touchy feely" others like to touch, though they aren't always respectful about whether the person they want to touch WANTS to be touched.
Other women will touch you casually to let you know they like you! It can be hard to interpret...you just have to feel it out and get to know the person I guess.

I agree. I think it depends on the person. I'm pretty touchy feely but I tend to avoid touching the object of my interest so freely probably out of nervousness.
Though I wouldn't pass up the chance to touch his arms... I have a thing for guys' arms.

I think you should take it in context. Notice whether that's normal behavior for her or if she's just touching YOU. (And remember "No" means "No" if she's going too far )

[Angelique]

Originally Posted by brendannz

You could say; "So did you just touch my arm, because it means you want to sleep with me?"

Great pickup line. Use it. lol

[brendannz]

Originally Posted by SJD715

I agree here on the culture. Like Italians I know are always touching and talking with their hands.

I remember at this party a while ago, some Italian girl gave me the double cheek kiss hug, on leaving.. and my friend was saying "she digged you man!!" but I was saying "na they're italians they always cheek kiss" but I guess it meant she liked me more than my friend..

[brendannz]

Originally Posted by blossom

Might not want to say that exactly...but maybe look in her eyes when she looks at you. The eyes tell alot.

wasn't really planning on it LOL

[blossom]

Originally Posted by brendannz

wasn't really planning on it LOL

Ah...my bad.

[ang569]

I have always been sort of touchy and like hugs. I am often disappointed when guys take this the wrong way. So I don't believe that it means the person likes you in a sexual way at all.

[billionairekid]

If a woman touches you, subconsciously she is showing you she's attracted to you. It doesn't mean that she wants to sleep with you or even that she'd kiss you yet. But it is a sign that there is some sort of attraction between her and yourself.

[rei]

not sure i have anything original to add... if she touches you, she may be attracted romantically/sexually, and she may not be. if you have an opportunity to observe her around other people, you can get a better idea of the motivation to touch you if you watch her with them - if she is touching other people in the same way, then she's more likely to be a touchy-feely person. but if she is less touchy with others, that increases the chance that she does it because she likes you. still may or may not be romantic, but the chance goes up i think.

i am not a naturally touchy person, i like my physical space and return the favor. so, when i do touch a person, it is to communicate that i like them. sometimes this is just friendly, sometimes it isn't.

even if there is uncertainty here, not sure it would hurt anything to ask her if she'd like to do something. yeah, there is a risk of rejection there, but don't most of us here come from the opinion that it is helpful to get more comfortable with the idea of potential rejection? so, asking if she'd like to do something would be one way to get clearer on her perspective here.

[Cochonette]

Originally Posted by blossom

It depends on the woman. Some people are just very "touchy feely" others like to touch, though they aren't always respectful about whether the person they want to touch WANTS to be touched.
Other women will touch you casually to let you know they like you! It can be hard to interpret...you just have to feel it out and get to know the person I guess.

Totally agree! Freshman year I roomed with someone who was bisexual, who I happened to be attracted to, but it obviously wasn't mutual. She loves to touch people, as long as she knows they're okay with it. And she is generally a very intimate person, gives the best hugs imaginable (which her other close friends will attest to), will go around a room of friends before she leaves hugging or gently touching or kissing each friend. A few months ago after hugging me, when we parted in opposite directions, she slid her hand down my arm and into my hand lightly for a moment and looked at me until we both turned on our way. Unfortunately, I am certain there is nothing sexual/romantic about that.

I think it's also kind of a self-fulfilling prophecy, though, because she told me she is a "hypersexual" person, and knowing her, well, she obviously wouldn't be interested in anyone who lacked the confidence to respond in kind.

[munish]

Assume that they like you ,and soon they will like you.

[Crushable]

Yea, generally speaking, thats one way to know when a girl is interested in you. She will touch you, like putting her hand on your leg if your sitting next to each other. Little things like that are always a positive sign.

[spirit4711]

Originally Posted by blossom

It depends on the woman. Some people are just very "touchy feely" others like to touch, ...

True, but I guess the 'touchy feely' women don't touch people they don't like.

So if a woman touches me I assume she at least doesn't dislike me.

[frajilthunder]

This thread reminds me of a Hold Steady lyric:

At first the laugh, then the eyes
Then the touch-em-on-the-arm's
And the drinks, they'd never seem to cost money
And Saturday night was a runway
That extended into Sunday
And sometimes Monday

So it might just mean that she likes rum-n-coke