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iamthemeg · 12-21-2009, 07:45 AM

I've always had this fascination with the other sex. Like, I know I want to date and be with a man, but I also feel like I am more attracted to women sexually and men mentally. When I think sexual thoughts, it's usually about women, and it's the only porn that will turn me on. i constantly daydream about it and it's just driving me insane wondering what to do with these thoughts and how to stop them. I'm in a relationship with a man of two years who I'm really into and I really want things to make it work in the long run with him but I'm just so confused. I tried mentioning it to him but he's so sheltered he doesn't really like gay people.

aelle · 12-21-2009, 08:02 AM

What are you asking exactly?

brendannz · 12-21-2009, 08:14 AM

Well we have a thread here to test whether you're gay or straight;

http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/f...-new-post.html

Look at the picture of a kitten and the breasts and see what your first response is; hehehe

The Unconquered · 12-21-2009, 04:54 PM

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Originally Posted by iamthemeg

I've always had this fascination with the other sex. Like, I know I want to date and be with a man, but I also feel like I am more attracted to women sexually and men mentally. When I think sexual thoughts, it's usually about women, and it's the only porn that will turn me on. i constantly daydream about it and it's just driving me insane wondering what to do with these thoughts and how to stop them. I'm in a relationship with a man of two years who I'm really into and I really want things to make it work in the long run with him but I'm just so confused. I tried mentioning it to him but he's so sheltered he doesn't really like gay people.

You have a right to your feelings and your desire to resolve them. Anyone who does not understand that is not worth your time -- even if you are attracted to them, too.

MyEyeIsOpen · 12-21-2009, 07:31 PM

If you like both men and women that's perfectly fine. You deserve to be fulfilled in whatever way you choose to be. Tell your guy what you want in clear terms. Let him decide what he's comfortable with.

iamthemeg · 12-21-2009, 08:01 PM

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Originally Posted by brendannz

Well we have a thread here to test whether you're gay or straight;

http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/f...-new-post.html

Look at the picture of a kitten and the breasts and see what your first response is; hehehe

LOL that's perfect!

but really, i feel like i want to stop these feelings from happening because i believe in only showing that kind of love to one person (i.e. remaining faithful in a relationship). so, i don't want to have feelings for other people.

The Unconquered · 12-21-2009, 08:17 PM

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Originally Posted by iamthemeg

LOL that's perfect!

but really, i feel like i want to stop these feelings from happening because i believe in only showing that kind of love to one person (i.e. remaining faithful in a relationship). so, i don't want to have feelings for other people.

Ever heard of polyfidelity?

Gracestars · 12-21-2009, 10:57 PM

[QUOTE=iamthemeg;470088]I also feel like I am more attracted to women sexually and men mentally.QUOTE]

Are you sure that you're not gay? Maybe that's worth exploring more.

12-21-2009, 07:45 AM	#1 (permalink)
iamthemeg Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Atlanta Posts: 3	Attraction to same sex? I've always had this fascination with the other sex. Like, I know I want to date and be with a man, but I also feel like I am more attracted to women sexually and men mentally. When I think sexual thoughts, it's usually about women, and it's the only porn that will turn me on. i constantly daydream about it and it's just driving me insane wondering what to do with these thoughts and how to stop them. I'm in a relationship with a man of two years who I'm really into and I really want things to make it work in the long run with him but I'm just so confused. I tried mentioning it to him but he's so sheltered he doesn't really like gay people.

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