I miss touch ...

[Cool Chick]

i miss touch yet i am terrified of it at the same time ... i don't get my knickers in a knot about it much ... i'm a sexual woman that attracts men but I'm in my "healing mode" after a pretty nasty mosh pit of a marriage.

you think this is a sign of almost being ready to move on from "grieving/self awareness/get my **** together" finally stage? attracting men isn't an issue. having the wherewithal to know it wasn't the right time used to be enough to sustain me.

I had a man touch me with intent at work today ... hand in the small of my back. I blushed from the tips of my curled toes, past the bosom, all the way up to the blonde.

I've not felt that in many (and i mean MANY) years. I don't know where this apprehension comes from ... anyone have like experience? I could use the feedback ... *bowing in humble gratitude*

[cylon]

It's natural to want human contact. I think it comes down to allowing yourself to connect... But at the same time, not getting carried away with expectations of what that touch "means".

[JaredR]

Touch is a vital part of being a happy, functional human being. Some scientists speculate we can become touch deprived if we don't get enough human contact. Maybe your reaction was an indication of this? My suggestion is to get a massage.

[Captain Drywall]

I thought a massage was a good idea also.

[ssandra]

It is a healthy sign and a sign that you are ready for the next level.

Not yet a full relationship type of thing, but getting closer and more intimate with people for sure. And I do not mean sex, just being closer to people.

And I second getting a massage. And while you're at it, get a facial and a body wrapping as well... nothing is as good as spoiling your body a bit

[aelle]

Massage... or be one of the free hugs people! Getting human touch and giving some too!

[blossom]

Yeah, massages and facials have sustained me since I broke up with my last one and never turn down the offer of a hug if it's freely given...unless it feels wrong or the guy is just being a sleaze!

[yossarian]

Originally Posted by ssandra

Not yet a full relationship type of thing, but getting closer and more intimate with people for sure. And I do not mean sex, just being closer to people.

Seconded. It's natural to feel apprehension at the thought of intimacy when you had a bad experience in previous intimate relationships.

You will have to slowly break the association between intimacy itself and the past bad experiences.

You will have to become willing to believe that your intimate relationships can feel good, even if not all have been good.

[bluedragon]

I totally understand, but as long as you are attracting men, I think it's easy to overcome in time. It's much harder for men, cause they are the ones who must initiate the touching, and how can you initiate it if you're afraid of it? Plus, as a woman, it's OK to be a little bit apprehensive...

[RagsToRiches]

Originally Posted by Cool Chick

I had a man touch me with intent at work today ... hand in the small of my back. I blushed from the tips of my curled toes, past the bosom, all the way up to the blonde.

This is great natural human stuff...

If you were completely comfortable with it it wouldn't be fun at all.

Just like as a dude it takes massive balls to go about approaching girls and touching them and creating these awesome moments...

It's supposed to be a little nerve wracking!

Just go with it. Follow your instincts.