Moving to the US or not - decisions and doubts

[bananya]

heyy bluedragon!
the name of this thread caught my attention because I'm having a similar dilemma.. I'm from Russia, from Siberia actually. I like in quite a big city, but still I feel stuck here as we are so far from Europe and other places, plus I don't really like the cold, so I've been wanting to move for quite some time now. (I lived in South America for half a year and US for about 7 months). So I was trying to find options either in Europe or North America - not necessarily moving there but at least working for some time. And just recently I started to get the job opportunities (in Europe and 2 in the US), they didn't hire me yet, but I'm among the candidates considered..

and here it comes again - my big problem - worrying and fearing... worrying about leaving my parents, fearing about many stuff (although I make friends easily and feel quite comfortable abroad)..

I also read many articles on decision making and I liked 2 techniques:
1. asking yourself "is this really me"?
2. if you are not sure about the outcomes and worry about them just ask yourself "what do you want to experience NOW"?

so I ask myself these questions all the time and I'm sure my answers would be: "staying here stuck in the routine is not me", "I want to experience something exciting now", but the other half just wants piece...
so I find myself stuck, because I can't refuse the opportunity to work abroad and live a more exciting life and I'm afraid to leave "my safe harbour" (add here the guilty feeling of leaving my parents and country, although my parents support me in my dreams)...

and if digging even deeper down, honestly I just want to find a person (call him a soul-mate) that would be ambitious, interested in PD, loving and supporting to go through all this together. I'm kind of tired of deciding for myself...and I have not met these type of people here yet, so I understand what bluedragon says. I think eastern European countries are not into PD yet..

is this close to anyone? how do you deal with this?

bluedragon, what decision do you think you'll make?

[bluedragon]

I have no idea how life would be in Germany. Although 2 of the people that inspired me the most are German, but one lives in Thailand and the other in India

I know for sure that the US is "really me" - I've been there, 3 months, and I got the general idea, and every time I watch a movie that happens in NY or California, I feel as if I had always been living there. I feel closer to the US than to Romania (which is probably because I watch more movies than I should , I admit). What matters for me is actually to have a great social life, and I somehow can't shake the idea that being in a big, international city with lots of people from all kinds of places would make it SO much easier. This doesn't mean I'm gonna wait to move there, I have already started to expand my social circle a lot. But I still wish I saw spanish or french people on the street, or australians, or africans, or indians. And I wish there were more groups of all kinds - such as cooking classes, workshops of all kinds, etc... And Toastmasters gatherings (not the ghost one here in Bucharest). And mastermind groups. All that you guys mention so often here.

[pdfsp]

California is the place to go. So much diversity, good weather, awesome people.

[StacyT]

If you do end up moving to the US, I highly recommend Northampton, Massachusetts...there are tons of colleges around, tons of classes for things like tai chi, yoga, pottery - pretty much whatever you are looking for. It's a very diverse small city with a lot of open-minded people.