Making New Friends??

[lostinthought]

I'm a 21 year old female in college, and since I went to school close by home I made very few friends at my school. I ended up leaving for a semester and going out of state and then coming back again so I've lost touch with many of the people I met freshman year. A lot of the people I was friends with in high school and after that are drug addicts and alcoholics, very few of them are what you could call a good friend. I have very few girlfriends as it is and while it's usually easy for me to make guy friends I have a lot already and it bugs my boyfriend when I make new ones... How can I make new girl friends?? I've thought about joining a sorority but I'm not sure if they will accept me since I'm already in my junior year :\ ADVICE PLEASE!!
& I'm very bad at meeting people in class...usually just ends up distracting me from doing my schoolwork...

[The Big D]

I think friendships typically evolve out of common interests. So what are your interests? Where do you spend your free time? School's OK, but a somewhat forced way to meet people.

I think frequently when people are feeing like they lack friends, what they really lack are activities where they might meet friends.

When I think about who my friends are, I have friends from music and being in bands, friends from school, friends from athletics and working out, friends from work, friends from church, friends from poker and gambling, friends from playing pencil-n-paper RPGs etc. It's not a coincidence that those are the things I've spent the last decade doing.

[Eduard E]

One of the most effective ways to make new friends is from my perspective joining various activity groups. The activity of that group (fishing, knitting, personal development, philosophy study, whatever) gives you a starting point and a reason to interact with those people. Form there, if things go well, you can escalate interactions and start doing other stuff with some of these people: grab lunch, go for coffee, throw a party etc.

One you build a small social circle, you can use it to web your way to meeting other people. I find it amusing that your interactions with people in class distract you from your schoolwork. It tells me you may want to learn to set boundaries more clearly. Or maybe I didn't get this point correctly. Maybe you could give us some details on how this happens exactly.

[marito]

Originally Posted by Eduard E

One of the most effective ways to make new friends is from my perspective joining various activity groups. The activity of that group (fishing, knitting, personal development, philosophy study, whatever) gives you a starting point and a reason to interact with those people. Form there, if things go well, you can escalate interactions and start doing other stuff with some of these people: grab lunch, go for coffee, throw a party etc.

One you build a small social circle, you can use it to web your way to meeting other people. I find it amusing that your interactions with people in class distract you from your schoolwork. It tells me you may want to learn to set boundaries more clearly. Or maybe I didn't get this point correctly. Maybe you could give us some details on how this happens exactly.

Wise advice. And it's true. Just join some group or activity which interests you.. You'll meet really worthy people in there. It's the best deal! And never give up, don't look desperate.. Be friendly by nature and you'll attract people =)