Humor in Conversation

[PerDev]

I really want to add more Humor on my daily conversation and make it light yet meaningful.. How can i do that ?

as I think this will improve my overall quality of life.

How can we do that?

[marinik]

Originally Posted by PerDev

I really want to add more Humor on my daily conversation and make it light yet meaningful.. How can i do that ?

as I think this will improve my overall quality of life.

How can we do that?

Watch what and how other people (really funny) do it. Start slow and "small" and gradually build up, but never go over board, and find your own style, the best way is making subtle jokes on your own account. Too much of anything is just too much. It has been one of my strongest weapons in life. I can make anybody laugh! And they love it. (and me, I mean love )

[Tanja]

Something similar was discussed in this thread: Too serious?.

You might find it useful too.

[James81]

Immerse yourself in humorous types of stuff. Watch stand up comics, read funny stuff, etc.

The more you surround yourself with stuff, the more you tend to take on the traits of the things you surround yourself with.

Part of the reason why I felt an extreme need to abandon personal development products for the most part. I found myself becoming a bore and that drove me nuts. lol

[Pequod]

The most important thing is to be comfortable!

When I feel comfortable, relaxt and confident, people often say that I'm very humorous. Yet when I feel not so confident, my mind tightens up, I censor what I say before saying it and I'm perceived a very serious dude. The difference is like day and night!

So how to be more comfortable, relaxt and confident?

For me it was a combination of challeging myself, extending my comfort zone, 'inner' work (emotional release, changing beliefs etc), and training my social skills. For example I started to do improvisation theater, became member of Toastmasters, and gave myself little excercises like chatting up a stranger during lunchbreak, or speaking for an hour without first censoring my words.

After I had learned the skills, I knew what to do and how to do it, but often I still felt a knot in my stomach while doing it. So I switched to emotional healing and belief change. This was the most intense period, but also the most rewarding. Nowadays I usually feel confident in any social setting. If someone told me a few years ago how brimming with energy I am and how socially confident I feel most of the time, I would never have believed it!

All this took a lot of time and sometimes a lot of balls, so patience and courage are also important. Yet if you stick with it, the results can be amazing. I went from a painfully shy guy that had trouble picking up the phone to a guy that regularly gets complimented on his social skills.

Amazing improvement is definately possible. Just buckle up and enjoy the ride!

[Johnny Skosnik]

Steve has quite a few thoughts on this. Also, consider joining these guys, or at least sitting in a few meetings.

[ar81]

Originally Posted by PerDev

I really want to add more Humor on my daily conversation and make it light yet meaningful.. How can i do that ?

as I think this will improve my overall quality of life.

How can we do that?

1.Be happy
2.Feel comfortable, make people feel comfortable
3.Discover the type of sense of humor of your audience
4.Exaggerate, compare without offending

[dulaney0330]

Originally Posted by Tanja

Something similar was discussed in this thread: Too serious?.

You might find it useful too.

It was useful to me!

[Guru Shakti]

This might sound funny and cheesy! But, we really like high fives in our home. People are way too serious and have way too many rules. My husband and I like to joke around with our kids. We do high fives all the time, and at family dinners we are absolutely funny.

Most people want to sit quietly at dinner, and have their kids have perfect manners. I tried that and found out very quickly, it is so not our family. Once I let go and allowed myself to relax, it was ok to have fun and enjoy.

Just relax, and allow yourself to find the humor and fun in your life.

[PerDev]

Yes You are saying is very much help me I believe
I think I have to create one unique small joke (Proven on some people) and one liner or dialog which make people curious, laugh and smoothen
conversation. something that i can use in my daily conversation.

I think particular way of laugh will also helpful.

Originally Posted by marinik

Watch what and how other people (really funny) do it. Start slow and "small" and gradually build up, but never go over board, and find your own style, the best way is making subtle jokes on your own account. Too much of anything is just too much. It has been one of my strongest weapons in life. I can make anybody laugh! And they love it. (and me, I mean love )

[PerDev]

Yes I believe environment will make different and specially those kind of people who just naturally find out the wholetogether different ligter commedy aspect of the topic we discuss ..
I am really fan of this kind of people .. They are amazing .. and they are so anturally comeout with creative relating the topic we discuss with the humorous angle.

Originally Posted by James81

Immerse yourself in humorous types of stuff. Watch stand up comics, read funny stuff, etc.

The more you surround yourself with stuff, the more you tend to take on the traits of the things you surround yourself with.

Part of the reason why I felt an extreme need to abandon personal development products for the most part. I found myself becoming a bore and that drove me nuts. lol

[PerDev]

You write serious

Originally Posted by Pequod

The most important thing is to be comfortable!

When I feel comfortable, relaxt and confident, people often say that I'm very humorous. Yet when I feel not so confident, my mind tightens up, I censor what I say before saying it and I'm perceived a very serious dude. The difference is like day and night!

So how to be more comfortable, relaxt and confident?

For me it was a combination of challeging myself, extending my comfort zone, 'inner' work (emotional release, changing beliefs etc), and training my social skills. For example I started to do improvisation theater, became member of Toastmasters, and gave myself little excercises like chatting up a stranger during lunchbreak, or speaking for an hour without first censoring my words.

After I had learned the skills, I knew what to do and how to do it, but often I still felt a knot in my stomach while doing it. So I switched to emotional healing and belief change. This was the most intense period, but also the most rewarding. Nowadays I usually feel confident in any social setting. If someone told me a few years ago how brimming with energy I am and how socially confident I feel most of the time, I would never have believed it!

All this took a lot of time and sometimes a lot of balls, so patience and courage are also important. Yet if you stick with it, the results can be amazing. I went from a painfully shy guy that had trouble picking up the phone to a guy that regularly gets complimented on his social skills.

Amazing improvement is definately possible. Just buckle up and enjoy the ride!

[PerDev]

Yes Toastmaster can be proved breakthrough idea for me ..
As my long term goal is to switched the career so this will help me in it .

Originally Posted by Johnny Skosnik

Steve has quite a few thoughts on this. Also, consider joining these guys, or at least sitting in a few meetings.

[PerDev]

Yes may be one thing that will help me is to always checkign consciously if i am not getting too serious and make conversation as light and fun as possible.

See I try to put humor in conversation and guess what
I failed miserably .. i have to ask the other person that it was Joke

Originally Posted by ar81

1.Be happy
2.Feel comfortable, make people feel comfortable
3.Discover the type of sense of humor of your audience
4.Exaggerate, compare without offending

[PerDev]

So i think tone, Boday language and presentation is more important than content. specially in the first phase.

Originally Posted by PerDev

Yes may be one thing that will help me is to always checkign consciously if i am not getting too serious and make conversation as light and fun as possible.

See I try to put humor in conversation and guess what
I failed miserably .. i have to ask the other person that it was Joke

[PerDev]

yaa Sure, This is my one of the ultimate goal.. as this will add passion, love and spice and learnign into our life.

Originally Posted by Guru Shakti

This might sound funny and cheesy! But, we really like high fives in our home. People are way too serious and have way too many rules. My husband and I like to joke around with our kids. We do high fives all the time, and at family dinners we are absolutely funny.

Most people want to sit quietly at dinner, and have their kids have perfect manners. I tried that and found out very quickly, it is so not our family. Once I let go and allowed myself to relax, it was ok to have fun and enjoy.

Just relax, and allow yourself to find the humor and fun in your life.

[Indiana]

Some of the funniest things people say are just what they are REALLY thinking in a situation. Having the courage to say those things when it's unexpected makes it funny. Try being more in touch with what you're socially expected NOT to say (as long as it's not derogatory to others) and people will find your honesty funny (and relieving!).

[PerDev]

Yaa, and It looks natural to them.

Originally Posted by Indiana

Some of the funniest things people say are just what they are REALLY thinking in a situation. Having the courage to say those things when it's unexpected makes it funny. Try being more in touch with what you're socially expected NOT to say (as long as it's not derogatory to others) and people will find your honesty funny (and relieving!).

[ar81]

Originally Posted by PerDev

Yes may be one thing that will help me is to always checkign consciously if i am not getting too serious and make conversation as light and fun as possible.

See I try to put humor in conversation and guess what
I failed miserably .. i have to ask the other person that it was Joke

That's because you may try to be so rational, that a silly joke ends up being rational, not silly and crazy.

Also notice that just like with music, there are different types of humor. So if nobody has a laugh it could be a joke telling problem, or just aiming at the wrong audience.

In my case I use to make jokes when I feel comfortable. I use to joke a lot with my wife, and she does too.

I also write humor news for my friends. Example of humor news: Inventor develops supernova engine. He got to pack the power of a supernova, but it poses the challenge of not having astronauts killed and structural damage. The joke itself is silly, but as I talk about it as if it was serious, people laugh.

In another humor news, "skeptics blame NASA launches for climate change".
Or "great depression was a worldwide psychiatric crisis of humanity expert says".

It is just stupid, but as you try to make craziest studpidity, it ends up more funny. If it is not funny it is because it is not crazy enough.

[PerDev]

Yes, This line help me becomming more seriously crazy

If it is not funny it is because it is not crazy enough.

Originally Posted by ar81

That's because you may try to be so rational, that a silly joke ends up being rational, not silly and crazy.

Also notice that just like with music, there are different types of humor. So if nobody has a laugh it could be a joke telling problem, or just aiming at the wrong audience.

In my case I use to make jokes when I feel comfortable. I use to joke a lot with my wife, and she does too.

I also write humor news for my friends. Example of humor news: Inventor develops supernova engine. He got to pack the power of a supernova, but it poses the challenge of not having astronauts killed and structural damage. The joke itself is silly, but as I talk about it as if it was serious, people laugh.

In another humor news, "skeptics blame NASA launches for climate change".
Or "great depression was a worldwide psychiatric crisis of humanity expert says".

It is just stupid, but as you try to make craziest studpidity, it ends up more funny. If it is not funny it is because it is not crazy enough.