Do other people feel the same way about you?

[brendannz]

Do you guys think that other people feel the same way about you, as you feel about them? generally..

So if you're nervous around them, they're nervous around you

and if you're having fun around them, they're having fun with you?

What do you guys think?

I think if we're in tune with the vibes, then this is how it works..

[blossom]

This is pretty interesting!

Not necessarily. Because we are all different and some people mix better with certain types than others, if you are in a group setting, like at a party, then it can feel like everyone is having the same fun that you are, and when you speak to someone, just one on one, you can usually tell if they are genuinely interested in you or if they are distracted and would rather be somewhere else. Sometimes though, a person can totally miss what is going on for another person as they may be being self-centred at some stage, and so they may think that they are well liked by others, when infact they are not...or everyone may think that everyone likes everyone, but then later on, maybe a week later or longer a person may work out that they really don't like a particular person, but the other person doesn't know it and thinks they do like them...does this make sense?

I think humans do operate this way, also, when one person speaks to you with lots of enthusiasm, and it's real enthusiasm, not that fake over-excited salesman enthusiasm, then it can make you respond with the same enthusiasm in your voice because you're attracted to that enthusiasm, so you mirror it, and for a brief moment it lifts you out of the regularity that you usually speak with.
That's why people love an enthusiastic person...their mood influences everyone elses...and vice versa. When you are around a depressed person, it's hard, for both parties. The depressed person knows that the vibe they give off is contagious and it makes them even more uncomfortable, and the other person can get dragged down into that mood too if they're not careful. Happy people tend to stick to other happy people and misery loves company also!

NLP people use this principle of human interraction alot in their teachings.

[suddentwist]

I think so, for the most part at least. I think that people tend to gravitate towards others that are like them. So to use the party example that blossom used, I think that a rather introverted person won't try and make conversation with the extroverts. This natural gravitation towards people like oneself makes it easier to evaluate the success of the conversation. I think the chances of two introverts feeling nervous around each other are quite high.

Of course, people have to interact with others as well, not just their own "kind". I think that's a bit harder to measure - but overall, I think that if an introvert and extrovert had to interact, either the introvert would feel much more comfortable around the extrovert, or both parties would feel tense.

So basically, I agree with what you said - if we're in tune with the vibes, that's how it goes.

[Daffy Duck]

For the most part, yes, but not always. I'm almost always happy, but not everyone around me is always happy, though they usually are.

And likewise, at some parties if people start pulling out lots of drugs and alcohol, then I would not enjoy it and I would leave as soon as possible, but others might be having a good time there.

[brendannz]

Yeah sometimes I think if you're with entirely incompatible people, you may be playing checkers while they're playing chess, or you're on a different wavelength, but if you tune into the vibe, and trust your intuition, you get a good idea of how the interaction is going I think.

I used to be quite paranoid and too in-my-head, and didn't really pick up on vibes too well..

Sometimes I'm still too in-my -own head, maybe an introversion thing, but I'm getting way better at picking up the vibe of interactions..