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Old 11-03-2009, 11:11 PM   #1 (permalink)
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How many real friends do you have? and by real I mean those who know you as much as yourself, those you cant or want to keep secrets from them?

I ask because I realize that I just have one, and now that one friend is going away and I feel extremely lonely, even tough I have tons of other "friends" but being with them do not fulfill me as being with the other one 'cause they dont know me as well as he.

I just want to know if there's something wrong with me as it took a lot of work to open myself to someone, so much work that it has happen only one time, or it is normal?
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Old 11-03-2009, 11:13 PM   #2 (permalink)
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How many real friends do you have? and by real I mean those who know you as much as yourself, those you cant or want to keep secrets from them?
Based on that criteria, I have one. The rest of my friends I don't care to share EVERYTHING with.
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I have two. One that I've known for a long long time, and one that has come into my life about two years ago. In a way, I know what you must feel like, because I left my friends about two months ago (although I think it's harder for the one that is left behind than the one leaving). It obviously gets better with time, and remember - the internet is wonderful. Skype lots (there's a 9 hour time difference between my friends and I and we still manage it) and e-mail. Keeping in touch lots will make it seem like they're only on vacation.

The wonderful thing about true friends is that no matter how long you don't see each other or how long you don't speak for, the next time you will cross paths it will pick up from where it left off.
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Old 11-05-2009, 01:16 AM   #4 (permalink)
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Well, it seems it's not that uncomun to have just one best friend.

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The wonderful thing about true friends is that no matter how long you don't see each other or how long you don't speak for, the next time you will cross paths it will pick up from where it left off.
He is not going far away, he just find other friend with who he aparently have more in common. There really isn't much I can do I guess, but like you said it's harder for the one that is left behind .
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I would say one and a half One girl is someone I could really count on, the other is just someone who can really count on me, but I don't know the other way around. But we're still good friends.

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How many real friends do you have? and by real I mean those who know you as much as yourself, those you cant or want to keep secrets from them?
You posted at 11:11 Kind of neat, isn't it?
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There's this law I heard about somewhere that no one can have more than 10 REAL friends. It's kind of somewhere like that. The real pals, "brothers", are never more than that. It's usually 1-2 best best and few others who you really have connection with. But they are hard to find!
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How many real friends do you have? and by real I mean those who know you as much as yourself, those you cant or want to keep secrets from them?

I ask because I realize that I just have one, and now that one friend is going away and I feel extremely lonely, even tough I have tons of other "friends" but being with them do not fulfill me as being with the other one 'cause they dont know me as well as he.

I just want to know if there's something wrong with me as it took a lot of work to open myself to someone, so much work that it has happen only one time, or it is normal?
In net terms I may dare to say MANY.
I usually had one at once. Some times I had none.

Good friends come and go.
Some go when they get married or when they go to distant places.
Some go when we get married or go to distant places.
Sometimes you do not see a good friend for years, and when you meet you have that friend back.

This is how I have had one or none, while having many friends.
It seems a matter of availability. I have usually had none or one friend available, but if you count all the non available I'd say I have many friends.

We are never alone, because even if they are not available because of their lives, they still may want us to be fine.
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