On letting go...

[mikethedrummer44]

Well, I did it. Last night, I finally stopped pursuing an unrealistic relationship. This is a pretty big deal, as I have been trying on and off for about two years . It sucks. Bad. But I think it was holding me back from finding other opportunities for relationships. I must admit, it was a huge synchronicity when I read Steve's blog post on separation today. Helped me know that I did the right thing.

Well, I guess I just wanted to tell you guys. As a conscious human being, I realize that by giving up short-term gain I'll hopefully have an opportunity for a real long-term relationship.

[Nimo]

Hey, good for you to let go of that which causes you more pain/discomfort/unhappiness bla bla for smethng better. I too recently let go of an approx 2 yr relatnship. It was tough at first..i thought i'd go crazy but here I am, as sane as Bush and taking on new challenges...am even warming up to meeting new p'ple ( that r'shp sucked me dry of friends, sanity etc). No point driving into a dead end where other roads leading to i-dnt-knw-whr-but-anywhere-other-than-here-is-better await your exploration. Forgive you and 'ur partner', be grateful for what's gone down, work thro' the anger/bitterness or whatever other -ve vibe you may have then hop along to a better brighter future . P/S: I've learnt that holding on is akin to scarcity thinking 'oh, have to hold on here because i might never find another one for me'-puhliz!

[rei]

congratulations mike!

i can tell you realize you made the right decision. i can already see your options opening up! i'm wondering if there are any other lessons you gained from the attempts to pursue that you can take with you and maybe even use as you consider potential others?

i think many of us would like to feel more comfortable about relationships, so maybe those lessons could be wisdom for others here?

congrats again!

[Betrade]

Originally Posted by Nimo

Hey, good for you to let go of that which causes you more pain/discomfort/unhappiness bla bla for smethng better. I too recently let go of an approx 2 yr relatnship. It was tough at first..i thought i'd go crazy but here I am, as sane as Bush and taking on new challenges...am even warming up to meeting new p'ple ( that r'shp sucked me dry of friends, sanity etc). No point driving into a dead end where other roads leading to i-dnt-knw-whr-but-anywhere-other-than-here-is-better await your exploration. Forgive you and 'ur partner', be grateful for what's gone down, work thro' the anger/bitterness or whatever other -ve vibe you may have then hop along to a better brighter future . P/S: I've learnt that holding on is akin to scarcity thinking 'oh, have to hold on here because i might never find another one for me'-puhliz!

Sounds like you did the right thing. I've done it; more than once and have no regrets at all.

As long as one person is totally in your life, it's much more difficult to make room for whomever it is you would rather have in your life. I mean, you can only spend so much time with someone and there are only so many hours in a day; so sometimes you have to make some room for someone else.

[Cheshire Cat]

I personally wouldn't want to make a habit of having to leave and let go of someone for good, but sometimes, it's the right thing to do even if it really hurts you to do it... The emotional investment put into it is what makes breaking it off tough to take, but I'd rather have long-term satisfaction than short-term gratification any day. Keep your eyes forward and your heart open!

[mikethedrummer44]

Yeah, I was pretty bummed at first, but I've just been in a great mood ever since. I can now think of her in a past tense. I don't think I would have been able to do that one monday without getting mildly depressed . Thanks for the encouragement!