Hi..I'm very shy, not social, somewhat scared of people

[improver]

what is loa?

[openeyes]

Originally Posted by improver

Alright, thanks. At least you're straight, so you can live normally, you know..actually ask out girls...while me, since I'm bi...it's different. I don't have a love life, not now at least.

Why would being bi keep you from asking out girls? I'm also a bi male, and when I was 19 I found internet dating sites were great for meeting guys, while it was easiest to meet women in person while going about daily activities, such as class, doing volunteer work I enjoy, school clubs, and so on. I'm 25 and have been with my girlfriend for about two years. She knows I'm bi and knows about guys I'd dated before her. It doesn't have to keep you from having a nice life.

Also, it's nice being able to say you don't discriminate by gender

[Gracestars]

Originally Posted by improver

what is loa?

Law of Attraction.

[improver]

Originally Posted by Gracestars

I think your biggest problem is that you don't much like or trust yourself. If you don't love yourself how can you expect others to love you? Whether it be an old friend, or a stranger, how you feel about yourself will determine how they will feel about you. My guess is you are sending out vibes that make people feel a bit uneasy, because you feel uneasy. Confidence in being yourself, whatever that looks like, is the key. How can you acheive confidence? Get yourself to a place where you are happy with yourself. If your OCD or social anxiety disorders are causing you a lot of problems, perhaps you need to speak to a professional about them. Most of all, relax. Stop being so hard on yourself. Say some positive affirmations every morning - the things we think or say affect the way we feel and act. Use LoA to build your confidence and attract positive people into your life.

You are perfectly fine the way you are. Try to remind yourself of that daily.

Social anxiety disorder can be cured by practicing just saying hi to people, and making small talk right?
I am starting to make small talk, more than I used to.. which is a good sign, I believe, but I'm still not sure how to start up an actual conversation.