Divorce and Separate Houses

[justhopingandsearching]

Steve's new post on his separation from his wife just sparked something I've always wondered about people who divorce. I've always wondered why people who end on good terms, and remain friends always have one usually the man move into another residence. Why not go on living in the same house/residence with each other, but just as roommates? Maybe, because I've never been married or for that matter lived with someone I've dated I just can't understand, but at least in my mind I could see it working out just fine and dandy. So, anyone have any experience with this where it works out or why you don't think it could?

[Manomanman]

You'd still have to communicate, which was the big drag in the first place.

[rei]

emotional separation is easier when there is also physical separation. technically you can accomplish emotional separation under the same roof, plenty of couples actually do this for the sake of the children or for financial reasons, but it's probably harder that way.

separation also helps you assess your position on the various issues that triggered it. kind of like when someone decides to go for a walk or a drive to 'cool off' after an argument.

also what Manomanman said about communication.

[MidasGirl]

You need the physical space as well as the emotional space to be able to consciously and fully move on with your life. This person may still be your best friend but most people don't live with their best friend either.