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10-25-2009, 03:24 PM
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| Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2009
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 |  hmm, what is it...?
High togheter...  I don't know where the "problem" is... When I talk to women who I like etc, they always tell me: "I think you don't have problems with getting girlfriends. You look really good and as I know you, you would be a very lovely and "good" boyfriend... etc" ... I self know that I don't look bad, and I know I have much love to give, am very tollerant, etc... BUT, what I experience is, that all the girls doesn't have intressts in me, or in a relationship with me... but all girls/woman say that I look good and they are sure I never have problems with finding a woman to love.... hmm, what could be my problem...? |
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10-25-2009, 06:28 PM
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Well I really don't have much to go on except for the fact that a girl will tell you right away in the first meeting the following: "you don't have problems with getting girlfriends. You look really good and as I know you, you would be a very lovely and "good" boyfriend... etc" This makes me think why would they even say this the very first time you meet them? Well it sounds like you are either asking her to be your girlfriend right away or you come off as too needy or you come on too strongly. When you first meet a girl whether you know her already or not, you shouldn't be trying to imply that you want her to be your girlfriend. This is the time to get to know her, find stuff about her, what are her interests and disinterests. You want to ask her if she will have dinner with you or do something fun together. You should not be asking if she will be your girlfriend or you are looking for a girlfriend which makes you come on way to strong. |
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10-25-2009, 09:38 PM
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no-no... they don't tell this on a first date or something like that...  friends (I have many female friends) tell me this.... you know, the problem isn't "the first date" or sth, its more that it doesn't come to a first date... yes, I'm a very shy person... hmm, it's kind of hoping, that she will make the first step....  |
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10-25-2009, 09:56 PM
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| hmm, it's kind of hoping, that she will make the first step.... That might be your problem. I have given "hints" to guys that I'm interested etc, and they still don't take the bait and I know they are attracted to me. I hardly ever asked a guy out or offered my phone number, I usually wait for them to make a move. I have a friend is very outgoing and she gets tons of dates. She is attractive but I think there are lots of other girls prettier than her. However, I think guys feel comfortable around her. But I think this is not very common. Maybe pick up a book on body language, you will be able to tell better if a girl is interested in you. |
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