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blossom · 10-27-2009, 05:50 AM

I would interpret it to mean that they would be happy to take anyone who is available just because they are there for the taking?

brendannz · 10-27-2009, 05:53 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by blossom

I would interpret it to mean that they would be happy to take anyone who is available just because they are there for the taking?

which may not be the case, but based on the information that we have, it's what it sounds like..

Nimo · 10-27-2009, 06:49 AM

I feel y'all being overly critical, which is what to expect from intelligent p'ple. Am nt interested in any white man, i didn't anticipate for this thread to attract so much attention. I am not prepared to give details about myself in public so i concur that my choice of forum is inappropriate...an exclusive dating site would be best but then again, i doubt am ready to wade through the murky waters of online dating. My approach may have been off but I guarantee that my intentions were honest..i want to go white (for reasons that may be deemed {ir}rational, racist or otherwise). Thats my desire period, just like it is another's to win a mil dollars or to rent a house by the lake, or to land a job overseas..it doesn't necessarily mean that if they'd get a chance to win a mil $ thro' prostitution or get that house by the lake thro a crooked mortgage deal they'd take it. Similarly, not every white man will be appealing to me ( and I to them) but how will I know if I don't 'meet' them? The same can be said of me..how do they get interested if they know nothing abt me? Point. Am not ready to reveal yet so am pulling this thread out of the forum (figuratively speaking). When am ready, i'l re-post the thread. By the way, 'white man wanted' is not the same as 'black man not wanted'..at least in my books.

cylon · 10-27-2009, 06:55 AM

It's a cultural thing. Americans are used to nit-picking and bickering over things that don't matter.

Something about this approach is just off, just a cultural thing-- I think you'd be better off using a site that caters to dating. This is more of a navel gazing site. The format of this forum is more about anonymous posters talking about all sorts of things, you're seeking a very specific outcome. You'll get the results you're looking for at a dating site, specific to the region you are living in/want to visit. Good luck.

Nimo · 10-27-2009, 07:10 AM

What dyu knw..steve is a single, intelligent, white male..the universe has handed me her verdict..wink wink. Just kidding..but then again, maybe this will prompt him to start a dating site..i'll wait and see.

seeker5 · 10-27-2009, 07:57 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Nimo

What dyu knw..steve is a single, intelligent, white male..the universe has handed me her verdict..wink wink. Just kidding..but then again, maybe this will prompt him to start a dating site..i'll wait and see.

You know Nimo, it's possible to date people you meet on this forum without having a formal dating site or set up a formal ad! Several people on this forum have already dated each other

.

Nimo · 10-27-2009, 08:09 AM

Yeah, that's possible..to let things take their natural course. Problem is, that's what i've done most of my life so much so that i felt i have no control about the results i get. What ths forum has taught me is that you've got to put in some personal effort thats what I think am doing. Am assertive in other areas of life esp work but am totally clueless about relationships..am learning and hoping that am not 'trying too hard'.

brendannz · 10-27-2009, 11:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Nimo

Am assertive in other areas of life esp work but am totally clueless about relationships..am learning and hoping that am not 'trying too hard'.

I'm clueless too about relationships... good luck though..

MidasGirl · 10-27-2009, 12:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Nimo

I feel y'all being overly critical, which is what to expect from intelligent p'ple. Am nt interested in any white man, i didn't anticipate for this thread to attract so much attention. I am not prepared to give details about myself in public so i concur that my choice of forum is inappropriate...an exclusive dating site would be best but then again, i doubt am ready to wade through the murky waters of online dating. My approach may have been off but I guarantee that my intentions were honest..i want to go white (for reasons that may be deemed {ir}rational, racist or otherwise). Thats my desire period, just like it is another's to win a mil dollars or to rent a house by the lake, or to land a job overseas..it doesn't necessarily mean that if they'd get a chance to win a mil $ thro' prostitution or get that house by the lake thro a crooked mortgage deal they'd take it. Similarly, not every white man will be appealing to me ( and I to them) but how will I know if I don't 'meet' them? The same can be said of me..how do they get interested if they know nothing abt me? Point. Am not ready to reveal yet so am pulling this thread out of the forum (figuratively speaking). When am ready, i'l re-post the thread. By the way, 'white man wanted' is not the same as 'black man not wanted'..at least in my books.

You should feel free to meet the person of your preference of course. But let me be the one to tell you what nobody else has told you: you'll be hard pressed to find any man, (white, intelligent or otherwise) who contacts you for this purpose if they don't know what you look like. Men are mostly visual. When they say "you've told us nothing about you" what they mean is, "we don't know if you are ugly as all get out". Just saying you're attractive is not good enough for them. You've got to pique their interest by giving them a reason to contact you. It's how it works. If you don't like the rules, you're probably just not gonna play the game then as you'll be playing a non-winning game........

My advice would be this: If you truly intend to find a serious (intelligent, white or otherwise) person online, get over your need for annonimity. Otherwise you're going to make it that much harder for yourself. Aslo, you could try googling "interracial dating", there are sites dedicated specifically for people looking for other-race people. And oh by the way, most men think they are intelligent anyway. So I'm not sure you're weeding out anyone by using that term.

All the best with your white man search

Nimo · 10-27-2009, 12:44 PM

I hear you loud and clear @ Midas, i was not prepared for this kind of response yet again, am grateful for all the attention attracted..correctly stated, i will have to get over my need for anomymity whch am yet not ready to do. As any intelligent person would do, i'l be going back to the proverbial drawing board and do this again, in the meantime, i find courage to 'reveal' myself and objectively learn AMAP about relationships-interracial or otherwise. Thank you all for the great input. God Bless. P/S..Am easy on the eyes, intelligent, petit, dreadlocked, lovely chocolate african skin..the whole hog..my full length mirror tells me so. I believe it. Lol.

brendannz · 10-27-2009, 02:05 PM

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Originally Posted by MidasGirl

And oh by the way, most men think they are intelligent anyway. So I'm not sure you're weeding out anyone by using that term.

Everybody thinks they're smarter than everybody else..

rei · 10-27-2009, 04:18 PM

@blossom: thanks for the clarification. i agree that we basically have an energetic imprinting of memories from our ancestors, and it's not always easy to tell whether our perspective is solely our own. really it shouldn't matter to me if you or anyone else thinks i'm a racist because i know where i stand, i suppose i just didn't want that type of reputation...

as for the imprinting thing, which you described in a different way, that's one of the benefits of the cultural competence i described earlier in this thread... those efforts naturally result in healing any collective trauma from racist or prejudicial attitudes. through healing the trauma triggered by beliefs about others, we also heal from any prior trauma that arose in the psyche of our ancestors.

Kura Ookami · 10-28-2009, 03:17 PM

Hi Nimo. I'm a single white man who's looking for a playful fun woman. I hope you do find a great boyfriend and happiness in your life. What kind of man do you want?

TonyToneTone · 10-29-2009, 12:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Nimo

As much as I understand your concerns, I will not justify my preference for a white man (NOTE: Not prejudice against black, asian or hispanic men). You are all entitled to your opinions as I am mine. I am East African (black), below 30, highly educated and gainfully employed (additional personal details will be provided to those interested). I reside in Africa...and was that an assumption that am female? Maybe I am, maybe am not...what about my initial post indicates my gender? I reiterate, white man wanted for a sincere friendship. If I have offended anyone with my preference for a white man, grow a hide!

I'm proud of you for being clear on what you want. It's nice to see people be sure of what they want and go for it regardless of other people's opinions. I hope you find your ideal white man for your friendship

Nimo · 10-29-2009, 10:17 AM

Thank you for your kind words. I will continue with my 'search' until am satisfied with my find. I've compromised on my choice of partners in the past (am not implying that am entirely blameless), i'd like to start again. I have faith that i will get what/who am looking for.

Nimo · 11-10-2009, 03:01 PM

hey,

..and the white guys have started to show...right here where i am. am taking it as a 'sync' and enjoying every single bit of meeting and making new friends.

i dig this LoA stuff...my intention is bearing fruit.

kattsand · 11-11-2009, 11:09 AM

I'm as white as they come. Wanna hang out?

brendannz · 11-11-2009, 12:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Nimo

i dig this LoA stuff...my intention is bearing fruit.

awesome to hear

Nimo · 11-11-2009, 01:20 PM

Hey,

@ Kattsand and why not!!! you really are as white as they come

..PM me, we'll could start hanging there

@ Brendanz, thanks man..thanks for rooting for me all along and celebrating with me when things turn white lol..
Nimo

vartann · 11-14-2009, 04:37 AM

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Originally Posted by marinik

Why color specific?

well i am myself more attracted to women who are say bank employees and wear glasses ... this detail or the color of the skin is not much difference and is in touch with Steve's last posting as regards "visualisation pattern"

Nimo · 11-14-2009, 01:00 PM

@ Mike, unusual is good not necessarily a bad thing no?

@ Vartann, you know! i really don't see why its a big deal that i want a white dude..we all have our selection criteria whether overt or otherwise...that i typed my preference makes me racist (or a potential scammer)..thanks for seeing my POV...if only others could see it that way..anyhu, we are all entitled to our opinions, right,wrong, silly, skewed or biased..

and true to what Steve writes, am a 'work in progress' for my man

10-27-2009, 06:55 AM	#64 (permalink)
cylon Family Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 6,852	It's a cultural thing. Americans are used to nit-picking and bickering over things that don't matter. Something about this approach is just off, just a cultural thing-- I think you'd be better off using a site that caters to dating. This is more of a navel gazing site. The format of this forum is more about anonymous posters talking about all sorts of things, you're seeking a very specific outcome. You'll get the results you're looking for at a dating site, specific to the region you are living in/want to visit. Good luck. Last edited by cylon; 10-27-2009 at 06:58 AM.

10-27-2009, 07:10 AM	#65 (permalink)
Nimo Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Kenya Posts: 60	Steve Pavlina...hmmm What dyu knw..steve is a single, intelligent, white male..the universe has handed me her verdict..wink wink. Just kidding..but then again, maybe this will prompt him to start a dating site..i'll wait and see.

10-27-2009, 12:44 PM	#70 (permalink)
Nimo Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Kenya Posts: 60	Tx I hear you loud and clear @ Midas, i was not prepared for this kind of response yet again, am grateful for all the attention attracted..correctly stated, i will have to get over my need for anomymity whch am yet not ready to do. As any intelligent person would do, i'l be going back to the proverbial drawing board and do this again, in the meantime, i find courage to 'reveal' myself and objectively learn AMAP about relationships-interracial or otherwise. Thank you all for the great input. God Bless. P/S..Am easy on the eyes, intelligent, petit, dreadlocked, lovely chocolate african skin..the whole hog..my full length mirror tells me so. I believe it. Lol.

10-29-2009, 10:17 AM	#75 (permalink)
Nimo Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Kenya Posts: 60	Tx Thank you for your kind words. I will continue with my 'search' until am satisfied with my find. I've compromised on my choice of partners in the past (am not implying that am entirely blameless), i'd like to start again. I have faith that i will get what/who am looking for.

11-10-2009, 03:01 PM	#76 (permalink)
Nimo Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Kenya Posts: 60	sync hey, ..and the white guys have started to show...right here where i am. am taking it as a 'sync' and enjoying every single bit of meeting and making new friends. i dig this LoA stuff...my intention is bearing fruit.

10-27-2009, 05:50 AM	#61 (permalink)
blossom Banned Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 3,897	I would interpret it to mean that they would be happy to take anyone who is available just because they are there for the taking?

10-27-2009, 06:49 AM	#63 (permalink)
Nimo Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Kenya Posts: 60	I feel y'all being overly critical, which is what to expect from intelligent p'ple. Am nt interested in any white man, i didn't anticipate for this thread to attract so much attention. I am not prepared to give details about myself in public so i concur that my choice of forum is inappropriate...an exclusive dating site would be best but then again, i doubt am ready to wade through the murky waters of online dating. My approach may have been off but I guarantee that my intentions were honest..i want to go white (for reasons that may be deemed {ir}rational, racist or otherwise). Thats my desire period, just like it is another's to win a mil dollars or to rent a house by the lake, or to land a job overseas..it doesn't necessarily mean that if they'd get a chance to win a mil $ thro' prostitution or get that house by the lake thro a crooked mortgage deal they'd take it. Similarly, not every white man will be appealing to me ( and I to them) but how will I know if I don't 'meet' them? The same can be said of me..how do they get interested if they know nothing abt me? Point. Am not ready to reveal yet so am pulling this thread out of the forum (figuratively speaking). When am ready, i'l re-post the thread. By the way, 'white man wanted' is not the same as 'black man not wanted'..at least in my books.

10-27-2009, 08:09 AM	#67 (permalink)
Nimo Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Kenya Posts: 60	Yeah, that's possible..to let things take their natural course. Problem is, that's what i've done most of my life so much so that i felt i have no control about the results i get. What ths forum has taught me is that you've got to put in some personal effort thats what I think am doing. Am assertive in other areas of life esp work but am totally clueless about relationships..am learning and hoping that am not 'trying too hard'.

10-27-2009, 04:18 PM	#72 (permalink)
rei Family Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: earth, everywhere and nowhere Posts: 9,713	@blossom: thanks for the clarification. i agree that we basically have an energetic imprinting of memories from our ancestors, and it's not always easy to tell whether our perspective is solely our own. really it shouldn't matter to me if you or anyone else thinks i'm a racist because i know where i stand, i suppose i just didn't want that type of reputation... as for the imprinting thing, which you described in a different way, that's one of the benefits of the cultural competence i described earlier in this thread... those efforts naturally result in healing any collective trauma from racist or prejudicial attitudes. through healing the trauma triggered by beliefs about others, we also heal from any prior trauma that arose in the psyche of our ancestors.

10-28-2009, 03:17 PM	#73 (permalink)
Kura Ookami Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 112	Hi Nimo. I'm a single white man who's looking for a playful fun woman. I hope you do find a great boyfriend and happiness in your life. What kind of man do you want?

11-11-2009, 11:09 AM	#77 (permalink)
kattsand Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Sweden Posts: 126	I'm as white as they come. Wanna hang out?

11-11-2009, 01:20 PM	#79 (permalink)
Nimo Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Kenya Posts: 60	Hey, @ Kattsand and why not!!! you really are as white as they come..PM me, we'll could start hanging there @ Brendanz, thanks man..thanks for rooting for me all along and celebrating with me when things turn white lol.. Nimo

11-14-2009, 01:00 PM	#81 (permalink)
Nimo Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Kenya Posts: 60	aye aye @ Mike, unusual is good not necessarily a bad thing no? @ Vartann, you know! i really don't see why its a big deal that i want a white dude..we all have our selection criteria whether overt or otherwise...that i typed my preference makes me racist (or a potential scammer)..thanks for seeing my POV...if only others could see it that way..anyhu, we are all entitled to our opinions, right,wrong, silly, skewed or biased.. and true to what Steve writes, am a 'work in progress' for my man

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