Best Day/Time of Week to Break Up

[Tex2008]

Hey guys,

I am wondering, in your opinion, when the best day/time of the week is to break up with someone? I realize each situation is different, but I have read Sunday or Monday is the best day(s) to break up? Any particular reasons?

Thanks!

[Dimond]

The second you realize you shouldn't be together is when you do it. No planning it, no wasting time, just do it. Keep life simple.

[jaamkie]

I think the best time is whenever you have time to talk calmly in private, and earlier in the day is better than later, when they are more likely to be anticipating spending the night together. Also it is better to have a few hours to let emotions settle before having a calm re-discussion later in the day so neither of you have to go to bed with things unspoken or emotions still boiling. Also avoid breaking up immediately before the person is doing something public/stressful- getting dumped minutes before making a big presentation at work is not ideal.

[rocksupreme]

Originally Posted by Dimond

The second you realize you shouldn't be together is when you do it. No planning it, no wasting time, just do it. Keep life simple.

Agreed. Every minute you put is off is a minute you spend punishing yourself and the other party. When it's time to break, break.

[Tanja]

Originally Posted by Dimond

The second you realize you shouldn't be together is when you do it. No planning it, no wasting time, just do it. Keep life simple.

Originally Posted by jaamkie

I think the best time is whenever you have time to talk calmly in private Also it is better to have a few hours to let emotions settle

I agree with both. If you keep putting it off for a long time and act like everything is okay in the meantime, it'll be more difficult for the other side to accept it, when ''just yesterday'' everything was great.

And what jaamkie said, talk to the person in private, and when you know they'll have enough time for the emotions to settle down.

[CoolBee]

As soon as you can - but with sensitivity.

Not just before a big presentation / important meeting / on their birthday / when they've just booked 2 weeks of their precious annual leave expecting to be spending time with you!

And if they are a school teacher - dump them on a Friday or at the start of a school holiday so they have 2 days to master their emotions before facing the hordes on a Monday - the hordes are exceptionally good at detecting when the teacher is emotionally vulnerable and go in for the kill (ask me how I know )

[PerDev]

I think Sunday is good one, As on the same day you or both can plan for Breakup party

Originally Posted by Tex2008

Hey guys,

I am wondering, in your opinion, when the best day/time of the week is to break up with someone? I realize each situation is different, but I have read Sunday or Monday is the best day(s) to break up? Any particular reasons?

Thanks!

[Indiana]

I'm going to say Friday evening, right after work or Saturday morning. That way they don't have to deal with going to work the next day and being miserable or distracted, and if they want to, they can call a friend and knock back a bottle of wine while they complain about what a miserable, thankless bastard you are.

[openeyes]

Originally Posted by Dimond

The second you realize you shouldn't be together is when you do it. No planning it, no wasting time, just do it. Keep life simple.

That was my girlfriend's request when we first started dating in '07, that if I ever decided I didn't want to be with her to let her know then, not to wait until I THINK it'd be easier on her. It's nice being with someone fairly straightforward.

[jasonwisdom]

There is a time and place to have such conversations.
I prefer to let somebody know in person.
via email and txt are gawd-awful.
Phone is almost as bad...
if there is a serious relationship involved, the very least the other person deserves* is a proper conversation, with space created for the other person to communicate back.

* - unless of course there are safety issues or spiteful events involved...

[suddentwist]

Originally Posted by Dimond

The second you realize you shouldn't be together is when you do it. No planning it, no wasting time, just do it. Keep life simple.

I definitely agree, there's no point of waiting for the right time to break up - either way, it's going to be painful, unless of course the other person has been thinking the same, then it might be a relief.

I've never really heard of a particular day being best for a breakup, but perhaps Sunday or Monday is said to be the best days because that's the start of the work week - less time to sulk and feel sorry for oneself. I personally like to go head in on a project or anything to occupy my time after a breakup - I don't like to give myself time to think about until later when I feel like I'm ready to let the emotions get the best of me. If I let this happen too soon, I end up a wreck. So, if you really need to have a perfect time to break up with someone, consider the type of person he/she is. If you know he/she will lock herself or himself in his room and end all communication with the world for a couple of days, go for Fridays. Otherwise, people like me will appreciate Sundays or Mondays.