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MidasGirl · 10-22-2009, 05:41 AM

My boyfriend (38) gets annoyed when I refer to him as "my boyfriend". He figures he's too old for that, plus after being together 3 years he feels "boyfriend" sounds too casual. He doesn't like being introduced as "my boyfriend"

Well, a lot of times I refer to him as "my man" but I find that too "street" and only use it in informal situations. I also say "my guy" but I feel same way about that too. He refers to me as "My Lady" when in formal situations and "My Woman" in regular situations. I feel that men are at an advantage cuz "my lady" sounds just fine, especially when referring to someone you are serious with but not married to; but there is no equivalent for us women to use. I have asked him to suggest what he wants to be referenced as but he's come up with zero suggestions so far.

So, what do you call them? My man-friend? My gentleman? Or should I just tell him to be satisfied I give him enough sex and quit moaning about labels?

Michelle · 10-22-2009, 06:44 AM

Why get stuck on gender?

My Partner is what I would use.

aelle · 10-22-2009, 09:05 AM

My bed warmer
The boy ("The boy and I are going away for the weekend")
My lover
That guy I sleep with (if people get too nosy about our plans for the future)

And in "formal" situations:
My boyfriend or my partner.

Tanja · 10-22-2009, 09:14 AM

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Originally Posted by aelle

My bed warmer

I'd also say my partner.

marinik · 10-22-2009, 09:43 AM

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Originally Posted by Tanja

I'd also say my partner.

Yup!!! Right as always!

SomeRandomGuy · 10-22-2009, 11:41 AM

Personally, I think terms like "my man" and "my woman" sound very possessive. A non-gender specific label like "partner" might be a good option as Michelle suggested. Another option might be to just avoid labels completely. Since the two of you have been together for 3 years, it seems likely that most people you know well will recognize him by name. When introducing him to others, is it necessary to explain what your personal relationship with him is?

Brutha · 10-22-2009, 12:21 PM

Partner
Fiancé
Husband

SelfAwareWorld · 10-22-2009, 12:54 PM

Try reverse psychology. Introduce him by his first name. "This is Todd (Fred,Mike...)" and see how he reacts.

I'm sure he won't like that either, but it might be fun to see what he does.

TheColonel · 10-23-2009, 12:52 AM

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Originally Posted by SelfAwareWorld

I'm sure he won't like that either, but it might be fun to see what he does.

That's interesting. I was thinking the same thing.

IFeelGood · 10-23-2009, 03:33 AM

how about something endearing like my honey or my sweetie

dsc · 10-23-2009, 03:52 AM

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Originally Posted by IFeelGood

how about something endearing like my honey or my sweetie

Most guys don't like overly 'cutsie-pie' stuff like this in public.

IFeelGood · 10-23-2009, 06:46 AM

dsc, are you a man saying this?

rocksupreme · 10-23-2009, 11:16 AM

You could just use his name. Leave it to others to figure out what your relationship is (as if it were their business) for themselves.

spirit4711 · 10-23-2009, 11:34 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MidasGirl

So, what do you call them? My man-friend? My gentleman? Or should I just tell him to be satisfied I give him enough sex and quit moaning about labels?

[tongue in cheek]
My stud
My sextoy
The milkman / postal worker / repair guy

My surrogate husband
The in-between guy
My gigolo
[/tongue in cheek]

What problems people can make! (Your BF, not you.) 'My partner' is neutral.

missing · 10-23-2009, 01:24 PM

i despise the term "partner" in this sense. It sounds like you are referring to a business associate rather than a lover. Unfortunately I don't have an alternative, though I don't see the problem with saying "my man" (or my woman/lady). People who think it's too "possessive" are taking it way too literally.

Personally, I wouldn't care what I got called, so long as the relationship was good.

dsc · 10-23-2009, 01:24 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by IFeelGood

dsc, are you a man saying this?

Yes

Tanja · 10-23-2009, 02:03 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tanja

I'd also say my partner.

To add to the list:
companion,
significant other

ar81 · 10-23-2009, 02:32 PM

In any negotiation, if a proposal is not acceptable, a counter proposal is needed. How does he suggest you to call him?

MidasGirl · 10-25-2009, 12:20 AM

Thanks everyone........this was supposed to be lighthearted and I'm glad to see most of you kept it so.

@ar81 -- good suggestion.

Maybe other half? Spousal equivalent?

I think S/O sounds really good......I'll probably go with that.

spirit4711 · 10-25-2009, 09:26 AM

How about: 'Oh, he's just a guy, I forgot his name.'

Gene · 10-26-2009, 04:09 PM

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Originally Posted by spirit4711

How about: 'Oh, he's just a guy, I forgot his name.'

I like it. I was going to suggest love slave, he will either love it or blush and maybe both.

StarieEyed · 10-26-2009, 10:15 PM

I just say "Hi this is Frank" and ppl get the idea. No need to explain!

Daffy Duck · 11-03-2009, 09:45 PM

I'm a little late on this, but I like to say, "This is [girlfriend's name], the woman who puts up with me on a daily basis."

seeker5 · 11-03-2009, 11:57 PM

One possible option if he doesn't like the term "boyfriend"

IFeelGood · 11-04-2009, 06:31 AM

Hi I'd like to introduce you to Caveman <insert name>

or
what Gene said... Love Slave <insert name>

brendannz · 11-04-2009, 08:43 AM

Your dawg

Or initial-Dawg.. (I get called B-Dawg sometimes and find it a good name)

spirit4711 · 11-04-2009, 09:11 AM

'He who cleans the dishes'

'Mr. Goodbar'

'This is Superman - incognito, of course.'

'My main source of frustration and joy'

'Another Martian'

Daffy Duck · 11-04-2009, 04:38 PM

I know what Spirit calls his man friend.

"Hi, this is my better half; Daffy Duck."

spirit4711 · 11-04-2009, 04:41 PM

And Daffy introduces me as 'my spiritual half'

Daffy Duck · 11-04-2009, 04:52 PM

Sometimes, but I usually introduce you as the guy "I like to rub down with baby oil and spank."

Hope you don't mind me saying that on here, babe.

10-22-2009, 05:41 AM	#1 (permalink)
MidasGirl Family Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Off this forum from 10/27/10 to 10/27/11. Yay me! Posts: 2,944	What do you call your man-friend? My boyfriend (38) gets annoyed when I refer to him as "my boyfriend". He figures he's too old for that, plus after being together 3 years he feels "boyfriend" sounds too casual. He doesn't like being introduced as "my boyfriend" Well, a lot of times I refer to him as "my man" but I find that too "street" and only use it in informal situations. I also say "my guy" but I feel same way about that too. He refers to me as "My Lady" when in formal situations and "My Woman" in regular situations. I feel that men are at an advantage cuz "my lady" sounds just fine, especially when referring to someone you are serious with but not married to; but there is no equivalent for us women to use. I have asked him to suggest what he wants to be referenced as but he's come up with zero suggestions so far. So, what do you call them? My man-friend? My gentleman? Or should I just tell him to be satisfied I give him enough sex and quit moaning about labels? Last edited by MidasGirl; 10-22-2009 at 05:44 AM.

10-22-2009, 12:54 PM	#8 (permalink)
SelfAwareWorld Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 30	Reverse Psychology Try reverse psychology. Introduce him by his first name. "This is Todd (Fred,Mike...)" and see how he reacts. I'm sure he won't like that either, but it might be fun to see what he does.

11-03-2009, 11:57 PM	#24 (permalink)
seeker5 Family Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 3,606	Sex-Toy One possible option if he doesn't like the term "boyfriend"

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Michelle Family Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Hawaii Posts: 1,285	Why get stuck on gender? My Partner is what I would use.

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aelle On Vacation Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: France - Japan - Korea Posts: 3,241	My bed warmer The boy ("The boy and I are going away for the weekend") My lover That guy I sleep with (if people get too nosy about our plans for the future) And in "formal" situations: My boyfriend or my partner.

10-22-2009, 11:41 AM	#6 (permalink)
SomeRandomGuy Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: KY Posts: 824	Personally, I think terms like "my man" and "my woman" sound very possessive. A non-gender specific label like "partner" might be a good option as Michelle suggested. Another option might be to just avoid labels completely. Since the two of you have been together for 3 years, it seems likely that most people you know well will recognize him by name. When introducing him to others, is it necessary to explain what your personal relationship with him is?

10-22-2009, 12:21 PM	#7 (permalink)
Brutha Family Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Berlin, Germany Posts: 8,749	Partner Fiancé Husband

10-23-2009, 03:33 AM	#10 (permalink)
IFeelGood Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 267	how about something endearing like my honey or my sweetie

10-23-2009, 06:46 AM	#12 (permalink)
IFeelGood Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 267	dsc, are you a man saying this?

10-23-2009, 11:16 AM	#13 (permalink)
rocksupreme Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Osaka Posts: 455	You could just use his name. Leave it to others to figure out what your relationship is (as if it were their business) for themselves.

10-23-2009, 01:24 PM	#15 (permalink)
missing Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Posts: 388	i despise the term "partner" in this sense. It sounds like you are referring to a business associate rather than a lover. Unfortunately I don't have an alternative, though I don't see the problem with saying "my man" (or my woman/lady). People who think it's too "possessive" are taking it way too literally. Personally, I wouldn't care what I got called, so long as the relationship was good.

10-23-2009, 02:32 PM	#18 (permalink)
ar81 Family Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 2,756	In any negotiation, if a proposal is not acceptable, a counter proposal is needed. How does he suggest you to call him?

10-25-2009, 12:20 AM	#19 (permalink)
MidasGirl Family Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Off this forum from 10/27/10 to 10/27/11. Yay me! Posts: 2,944	Thanks everyone........this was supposed to be lighthearted and I'm glad to see most of you kept it so. @ar81 -- good suggestion. Maybe other half? Spousal equivalent? I think S/O sounds really good......I'll probably go with that.

10-25-2009, 09:26 AM	#20 (permalink)
spirit4711 Family Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Nong Seng Posts: 3,975	How about: 'Oh, he's just a guy, I forgot his name.'

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StarieEyed Senior Member Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 142	I just say "Hi this is Frank" and ppl get the idea. No need to explain!

11-03-2009, 09:45 PM	#23 (permalink)
Daffy Duck Banned Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 3,001	I'm a little late on this, but I like to say, "This is [girlfriend's name], the woman who puts up with me on a daily basis."

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IFeelGood Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 267	Hi I'd like to introduce you to Caveman <insert name> or what Gene said... Love Slave <insert name>

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brendannz Family Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 3,612	Your dawg Or initial-Dawg.. (I get called B-Dawg sometimes and find it a good name)

11-04-2009, 09:11 AM	#27 (permalink)
spirit4711 Family Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Nong Seng Posts: 3,975	'He who cleans the dishes' 'Mr. Goodbar' 'This is Superman - incognito, of course.' 'My main source of frustration and joy' 'Another Martian'

11-04-2009, 04:38 PM	#28 (permalink)
Daffy Duck Banned Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 3,001	I know what Spirit calls his man friend. "Hi, this is my better half; Daffy Duck."

11-04-2009, 04:41 PM	#29 (permalink)
spirit4711 Family Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Nong Seng Posts: 3,975	And Daffy introduces me as 'my spiritual half'

11-04-2009, 04:52 PM	#30 (permalink)
Daffy Duck Banned Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 3,001	Sometimes, but I usually introduce you as the guy "I like to rub down with baby oil and spank." Hope you don't mind me saying that on here, babe.

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