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Old 10-22-2009, 05:41 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Unhappy What do you call your man-friend?

My boyfriend (38) gets annoyed when I refer to him as "my boyfriend". He figures he's too old for that, plus after being together 3 years he feels "boyfriend" sounds too casual. He doesn't like being introduced as "my boyfriend"

Well, a lot of times I refer to him as "my man" but I find that too "street" and only use it in informal situations. I also say "my guy" but I feel same way about that too. He refers to me as "My Lady" when in formal situations and "My Woman" in regular situations. I feel that men are at an advantage cuz "my lady" sounds just fine, especially when referring to someone you are serious with but not married to; but there is no equivalent for us women to use. I have asked him to suggest what he wants to be referenced as but he's come up with zero suggestions so far.

So, what do you call them? My man-friend? My gentleman? Or should I just tell him to be satisfied I give him enough sex and quit moaning about labels?




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Why get stuck on gender?

My Partner is what I would use.
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My bed warmer
The boy ("The boy and I are going away for the weekend")
My lover
That guy I sleep with (if people get too nosy about our plans for the future)

And in "formal" situations:
My boyfriend or my partner.
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I'd also say my partner.
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Personally, I think terms like "my man" and "my woman" sound very possessive. A non-gender specific label like "partner" might be a good option as Michelle suggested. Another option might be to just avoid labels completely. Since the two of you have been together for 3 years, it seems likely that most people you know well will recognize him by name. When introducing him to others, is it necessary to explain what your personal relationship with him is?
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Try reverse psychology. Introduce him by his first name. "This is Todd (Fred,Mike...)" and see how he reacts.

I'm sure he won't like that either, but it might be fun to see what he does.
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I'm sure he won't like that either, but it might be fun to see what he does.
That's interesting. I was thinking the same thing.
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how about something endearing like my honey or my sweetie
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how about something endearing like my honey or my sweetie
Most guys don't like overly 'cutsie-pie' stuff like this in public.
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dsc, are you a man saying this?
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You could just use his name. Leave it to others to figure out what your relationship is (as if it were their business) for themselves.
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So, what do you call them? My man-friend? My gentleman? Or should I just tell him to be satisfied I give him enough sex and quit moaning about labels?

[tongue in cheek]
My stud
My sextoy
The milkman / postal worker / repair guy
My surrogate husband
The in-between guy
My gigolo
[/tongue in cheek]

What problems people can make! (Your BF, not you.) 'My partner' is neutral.
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i despise the term "partner" in this sense. It sounds like you are referring to a business associate rather than a lover. Unfortunately I don't have an alternative, though I don't see the problem with saying "my man" (or my woman/lady). People who think it's too "possessive" are taking it way too literally.

Personally, I wouldn't care what I got called, so long as the relationship was good.
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dsc, are you a man saying this?
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I'd also say my partner.
To add to the list:
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significant other
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In any negotiation, if a proposal is not acceptable, a counter proposal is needed. How does he suggest you to call him?
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Thanks everyone........this was supposed to be lighthearted and I'm glad to see most of you kept it so.

@ar81 -- good suggestion.

Maybe other half? Spousal equivalent?

I think S/O sounds really good......I'll probably go with that.
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How about: 'Oh, he's just a guy, I forgot his name.'
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How about: 'Oh, he's just a guy, I forgot his name.'
I like it. I was going to suggest love slave, he will either love it or blush and maybe both.
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I just say "Hi this is Frank" and ppl get the idea. No need to explain!
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I'm a little late on this, but I like to say, "This is [girlfriend's name], the woman who puts up with me on a daily basis."
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One possible option if he doesn't like the term "boyfriend"
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Hi I'd like to introduce you to Caveman <insert name>

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what Gene said... Love Slave <insert name>
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Your dawg

Or initial-Dawg.. (I get called B-Dawg sometimes and find it a good name)
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'He who cleans the dishes'

'Mr. Goodbar'

'This is Superman - incognito, of course.'

'My main source of frustration and joy'

'Another Martian'
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I know what Spirit calls his man friend.

"Hi, this is my better half; Daffy Duck."
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And Daffy introduces me as 'my spiritual half'
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Sometimes, but I usually introduce you as the guy "I like to rub down with baby oil and spank."

Hope you don't mind me saying that on here, babe.
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