speaking the truth

[lucy27]

hiya my name is lucy, i am just wondering if anybody believes that what a person says or talks about when they are drunk is in actual fact the truth or not! we have all heard the saying "the truth comes out when you are drunk but i am not sure what to think. my boyfriend was away for the weekend with the lads and decided to propose to me over the phone while still drunk we have talked about it since he has been back and he said he was sorry he said it but he did mean it just not right now! am not sure what to think about it all! anyone have anything to add?

[Tanja]

Originally Posted by lucy27

he said he was sorry he said it but he did mean it just not right now!

I personally would accept this explanation and not think about it anymore. You didn't tell us anything else about your relationship but if you want him to propose to you wouldn't you want him to do so sober (if possible) ?

As far as ''the truth comes out when you are drunk'' saying, it's just a saying. For some people alcohol may have the effect of loosening them up and they find it easier to open up (not that I say it's a good method to do so), but in your case I'd go with what he told you sober.

[Manomanman]

I firmly believe that drunk = truth. Because we're often in a more clear-headed state of mind when we lower our inhibitions.

I think *somebody* has a problem hearing the truth! Your B/F needs to grow a pair of cajones and make it real.

[Brutha]

What the heck do you mean with the word truth?

Some part of him wants to marry you while another doesn't and wants to wait.

[akoma]

It is not the truth, per sey, you should be concern about. What is important is knowing that he is thinking about proposing to you. It is true that your true intentions come out when you're drunk. The only thing you can do right now is to accept his apology and wait and see. I won't suggest you bring this up again.

[gigij]

Originally Posted by akoma

The only thing you can do right now is to accept his apology and wait and see. I won't suggest you bring this up again.

Or - you could just propose to him and see what he says.

[pjhaggerty]

seems like at that moment in time what was true to him was to propose to you.

Now what is true to him is to not propose to you

seems like what is true for him is changing.

I would suggest for your own happiness that you just smile, accept it, say 'ok honey' and assume that whatever he's said to you most recently is what is true for him right now, then act in accordance with that.