Why are females attracted to confident men?

[yacapo]

I'm not a woman but I think women might feel that there must be a reason why the man is so confident.

The problem they might run into is that there are plenty of people who are over-confident; it's in their personality. I know a bunch of people who don't have much to be confident about and yet act as if they own the world. These kind of men are the ones women should run away from.

It's like those people who are so confident when they talk about a subject that you are absolutely sure that the person knows what he or she is talking about. But a lot of times when someone that also knows about the subject meets them, it is revealed that the confident person is actually full of sh**.

[Angela]

What I find attractive is a man who trusts himself. Very, very sexy, is that kind of confidence.

[taylor2]

i like manly looking men that are sweet. i am so impressed by sweetness and being clean...but manly.i am always so sure to not step on any kindnesses they offer.be it offering some detail about themselfs or opening the door for me. I have a test even though i am not in the dating scene.i open doors for men.some young guys go thru with barely a thank u.other men hold the door and tell me to go in.some men will not go thru the door and no one can make them.they will hold the door and will not go in.they will say "ladies first".i would be more interested in the latter.on the confidence thing-i am worried about every little thing and hubby is not...i look up to his advice.i appreciate he is confidant that everything is alright.he makes me feel better.what if we were both worried.that would be bad.

[skydust]

Originally Posted by rush23

Well, I speak for myself when I say that I prefer my men secure within themselves. For me that is confidence and that is deeply attractive. I don't find someone that has an inflated ego attractive even if he does have the looks of a Greek god - likewise a wimpy spineless excuse for a man doesn't do it for me either.

i agree with this. a confident man, not arrogant, but someone who knows himself and is comfortable within himself while accepting others where they are without the need to be better than, is attractive. simply because it shows that he is in control of his life. he knows what he wants and he knows how to get it and he does what it takes to get it. its just logical. and i think it works both ways, confidence doesnt necessarily have to be masculine when it refers to women, it just means, to me, to have a knowingness, a presence where you just know everything is as it should be. i guess security is a reason why its sexy, but also because its exciting to have someone that knows without a doubt what they are capable of, and speaking from a PD perspective thats a lot more than many ppl believe themselves to be. simply put, its just sexy when a guy stays true to himself, and i think its admirable in both sexes.

[Dating Specialist]

In my opinion, I'm a woman btw, confidence also signals courage. A confident man tends to be more gutsy than one who's not.

It may not be something in which he's already an expert, but maybe a totally new area. With an overall healthy level of confidence, he dares to take up challenges, rather than thinking for half a year without even dare to take one step.

That could mean a sense of security for women, as it tells us that no matter what happens, this man is able to be there to support us not only in intangible terms, but also concrete actions.

Of coures, being confident and too-confident that he's cocky are two ends of the same spectrum. While one attracts, the other repels!

[Shaden]

Because confidence in a man is synonomous with dignity, pride, self-respect, self-esteem, conviction and intelligence.

Simple fact is a lot of positive character attributes in males result in an improvement in confidence. The trouble some women have is discerning genuine confidence from false confidence.

[songwriter]

If you want to tell the difference between real and fake confidence...

Confidence fakers do not admit mistakes they've made.
It takes a lot of confidence to admit mistakes. It means you don't care about if the other see you as confident or not...
Also showing doubts. I guess... lol...

lol...
I mean... politicians, for instance... use to fake they're "absolutely sure" and never say... "we could be wrong but we're gonna do this...". Like ads... they're the same. And most of the people fall in that traps. So they vote and buy.

No-one's totally sure about a thing. And if he is, he is cocky or crazy...
or maybe not...

[Shaden]

I mean... politicians, for instance... use to fake they're "absolutely sure" and never say... "we could be wrong but we're gonna do this...". Like ads... they're the same. And most of the people fall in that traps. So they vote and buy.

Interesting and accurate analogy.

[songwriter]

Originally Posted by Shaden

Interesting and accurate analogy.

But it can be all wrong, you know.

[ElizaJ]

True self-confidence in anyone, male or female, is a desired trait because it's a trait that helps that person get ahead in life. Also, it can be said that self-confident people are sure of themselves and what they want out of life, what they want to do, who they want to be with, etc.